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Just Putting It Out There
Posted : 15 Aug, 2010 11:08 PM

Being a challenge and being a pain in the butt are 2 different things.

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Posted : 16 Aug, 2010 06:23 AM

The question becomes, why are you threatened by having your views challenged? This is a public international forum. Coming in you should understand that not everyone will share your viewpoint. I'm sorry that there is pain in your butt because of my manner. My expectation is that all that put their thoughts out here are ready to discuss them and stand on, defend and debate their view. In the spirit of keeping the peace, I can, not speak directly to you, if that would ease your pain.

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Posted : 16 Aug, 2010 07:39 AM

Oh my goodness, this has nothing to do with you or the discussion we are having on the other post at all. Look at the time it was posted.

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Posted : 16 Aug, 2010 08:29 AM

Okay. My bad. I didn't look at when it was posted. I assumed. I am trippin'! :-) Forgive me.

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Posted : 16 Aug, 2010 08:37 AM

All's well.

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Posted : 16 Aug, 2010 02:18 PM

I would also like to add that being a challenge and being a tease are two different things as well.

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Posted : 16 Aug, 2010 03:19 PM

Maybe you guys could clarify what being a challenge is for us. I've read that guys like a girl that is easy to just be with, yet they want a girl that is a challenge.



One of the first things that Sandiaboy said to me when we first talked on the phone was that he knew by my first e-mail, that I was going to be a challenge. He said it and in context I took it that he liked that I have "spunk."



I think a lot of girls do think that being a tease is being challenging.Could you tell us how you view the difference. Our left sided brains don't always comprehend your right sided thoughts.



Another question, though we may need another thread: where does flirting turn to teasing or how far do you think a girl should take flirting. Give us some boundaries here guys.



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Posted : 16 Aug, 2010 04:43 PM

I've always seen a "challenge" as a girl who understands that flirting is supposed to be fun and almost a game. I love finding a girl I can spar back and forth with verbally. It becomes "being a tease" when a girl knows she isn't interested in a guy but continues to flirt with him and lead him on anyways. Being mean instead of flirting/playful teasing is not the way to go either. Hopefully I don't have to explain why being mean to a guy is not good...

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Posted : 16 Aug, 2010 09:50 PM

The way I see it is they are both doing things to not just placate the other person or trying too hard to get her to like you, and not inhibiting yourself. Actually having an opinion, sticking up for yourself and not caving so easily even if it means disagreeing, and even doing things they disapprove of, calling them on something. Both make you say "You drive me crazy!" but to me the difference is a challenge is fun makes you both better and is on the edge not playing it too safe. Being a pain in the butt is doing all that to be mean, makes both parties worse, and goes over the edge. It's like the difference between chemistry and an explosion. If that makes any sense. I read somewhere and have even noticed that some women do take playing hard to get as playing impossible to get. When that happens usually I and most guys just move on. I think playing hard to get should work more as a test to see if he has a backbone or will just cow-tow to whatever her whims are.

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Posted : 16 Aug, 2010 09:51 PM

lol. wow. you can say 'butt' on here but you can't say 'butt ocks'

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Posted : 16 Aug, 2010 10:02 PM

Also both guys and gals should want their mate to challenge them and in return be a challenge. I probably didn't explain it all perfectly but it's something like what I described above.

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