I can't say I get a kick out of reading online dating profiles, coz generally speaking, there's a remarkable ho-hum pattern that tumbles out of many keyboards.
I especially get turned off by the beware-of-dog signs posted at the entry way of some write ups. It usually follows this thought line: "If you are married/a player/carry too much emotional baggage... please go bother someone else. Don't even look this way."
What's the result? Well, it not only menaces predators, but alienates any upcoming candidates in the process. This tactic begs the question: "Why are you picking a fight with with me?" It conveys a red flag signal which translated in the NIV English version reads, 'I have this ingrained knack for focusing on negative things [and ..... this is only the beginning].' "
*Sigh*
Here's a little advice from a blogosphere named "Afterglide". The author's name is Jeremy. Yes, he seems exasperated to the point of getting a little snarky (hyperbole perhaps?), yet he's making a good point worth considerating -- like how about using a little originality?
-- � 2010
"Perhaps you're not much of a writer, but evidently you're not much of a reader, either. You're considering ignoring my advice and cranking out a slapdash profile that reads, 'I'm a fun (guy/girl) that loves to have fun and party. I want to meet a super sexy and fun (guy/girl) who likes to go out and have fun!' Seriously, I'm going to have to smack you. That tells potential dates absolutely NOTHING about you other than you are an airhead without a clue as to what you are looking for or even who you yourself are. You may laugh at the absurdity of it, but this is the paraphrased core text of a disturbingly large percentage of profiles out there. For starters, EVERY PERSON ON THIS PLANET LIKES TO HAVE FUN!! The key question to ask yourself is what do you think is fun? Your suitor's idea of fun and your idea of fun may differ vastly..."
I said this on another thread, and I'll say this again.
If the person who wrote their profile is a airhead, you would want to know that. Let people (believe me they will) write what they want on their profiles. You know that someone who writes the "likes to walk along the beach, have fun", etc, you know that may have some guards up and don't want to reveal their true selves for some reason. I say that is awesome, useful info that I need to know when deciding to contact or not.
I don't want some to 'try' to be original. You are either original already or you're not. You all are asking people to put on a face. You are asking people to try to reel you in by 'putting on' something they must not already be or have in order to impress you.
How about you are either impressed or not. If you don't like someone's profile, pass by and move on. You all don't sound like you put much faith in this venue anyway, so take people as they are.
Honesty and not being afraid to be yourself (the good, bad and the ugly) impresses me.
I do understand about wanting to virtually slap folk though. I'm wit cha on that. :boxing: :ROFL:
I agree about so many profiles being boring and unoriginal. It just makes it easy to weed through them though. It generally shows the (im)maturity of the poster. If you look at the profiles of those in their 20s you will see that looking for someone to "have fun with" is very common. After all, if you don't have a serious career, mortgage payments, student loans to pay off - chances are that all about your life is FUN and FRIENDS AND PLAYING GAMES (sports and video).
A profile can say a lot more than just the words therein.
The lack of words can mean a lot of things.
The spelling mistakes themselves indicate either the person is uneducated, or doesn't pay attention to the details, doesn't proof read or care about the impression that they make. We all make mistakes from time to time and miss somethings, but when there are a lot of typos in a profile it doesn't look good. Even the slowest hunt and peck typist can reread and fix their mistakes.
Thank you, Soulful. Your words are very kind. You are also super cute.
My viewpoint is this, I want someone who will be themselves. I know people try to put their best foot forward when presenting themselves, but someone who acknowledges where they are, can look back and see how far they've come and knows they are on a lifetime journey to growing their fruit of the spirit and self-improvement, is alright with me.
Thanks for the compliment. Yes, being authentic is crucial and requires alone time. Finding contentment as a single person is probably the best indicator of how someone is going to get along with his or her future partner. I'm not talking about being a loner or antisocial, but taking time out to think life through.
After my separation, I came to a place where I needed to find myself. I think finding oneself is the first step in finding God.
Hi and thanks for commenting. There is much more than mere words. The tone though invisible says much more. Sometimes I see this gorgeous photo of a woman, but after reading her write up, I cringe.
Thanks for commenting. There is much more than mere words. The tone though invisible says much more. Sometimes I see this gorgeous photo of a woman, but after reading her write up, I cringe.
