Author	Thread: about to give up
Admin	about to give up Posted : 19 Nov, 2016 06:11 PM i have been on here for a long time now. i have had no luck in finding someone. most ignore my messages,the others reject me cause of my disability and/or i don't have much money. i don't get out much,and there's nowhere to meet women. also most are married or have boyfriends,and if there is a single woman.she's has children from a previous relationship. i have thought of either 1. give up all together and live among nuns.(they can't marry so they should be good for friendship) 2. have an arranged marriage(less chance for rejection if the couple only gets to know each other at the wedding)3. marry a female friend(if you have a lady friend that you get along well with and you both decide to just get married)4. get a mail order bride(there are many women in other nations looking for love and companionship and are not as picky as women here). well those are the options and i would like some advice on what to do. Post Reply
CuriousGeorge View Profile History	about to give up Posted : 19 Nov, 2016 09:58 PM Option 1 is closest to the best idea. Give up altogether on online dating and meet women through everyday activities. Option 2 - Generally doesn't happen in the western world. It's a bad idea anyway if you aren't each others' types. Option 3 is a good idea if you can see yourself spending the rest of your life with her, otherwise don't do it. Getting married just for the sake of it is a bad idea. Option 4 is a baaaaad idea. Mail order brides aren't dolls eagerly accepting whoever decides to "purchase" them. Post Reply
View Profile History	about to give up Posted : 20 Nov, 2016 07:25 AM and where am i supposed to meet women at? i live out in a rural area,and there's nothing here. also most are married or have boyfriends. i do go out to historical reenactments,but it's the same with women,married or have a boyfriend. also if there is a single woman around,they either have a child by another man,expect a rock star with lots of money and a nice car,or have other problems. also i don't have a car,i have a disability,and i can't find a good job. if i do have a female friend that's single,we don't have to get married,we can just become companions,get together every now and then,go places,have dinner,and other stuff. Post Reply
CuriousGeorge View Profile History	about to give up Posted : 20 Nov, 2016 09:17 AM Think about it this way: you see 1000 women buy you can only get to know a few. You know nothing about them or how compatible you are with them; all you have is a profile to go by. Would you chose women with profiles you were partially interested in and just hope they are compatible? Or would you choose profiles you were 100% interested in and hope they were compatible? That's how it is for the ladies here and why online dating hardly works. There are sooo many options in front of her face that she would usually go for what she thinks is the best. If you want someone to actually take the time to get to know you before instantly dismissing you by reading a profile then that most likely isn't going to happen online. As for where to meet women? I have no idea. Join some club or something of interest to you. Hang out with your friends' friends. If everyone in your area is really taken then you can either stay and fight the odds or consider relocating. Harsh options I know but online dating is even harsher. Post Reply
View Profile History	about to give up Posted : 21 Nov, 2016 08:27 AM i would like to leave,but have little money and no car. i also have a disability. i can't compete here,unless i convert to the amish or mennonite churches. which may be the only option. they don't judge you,they are plain and don't have much,and don't care if you don't have much either. also the only single moms are widowed and in the mennonite church divorced women. also there's more women than men in those communities,so i can probably find a unmarried woman. i have considered getting into historical reenacting,cause i been going to a lot of those events in the past few years. but most women there are taken too. Post Reply
CuriousGeorge View Profile History	about to give up Posted : 22 Nov, 2016 09:50 AM When you keep saying you can't compete because you have little money and a disability then you are subconsciously reaffirming your decision to stay single. If you would like to date someone Amish or Mennonite then go ahead, (assuming they are Christian I have no idea) but they are not your ONLY choices. You seem to dismiss single moms and nothing's wrong with that if it's your preference but it further limits your options. If you choose to participate in some activity, don't just do it to find a wife but choose something you enjoy. That way you don't get frustrated if you don't meet someone of interest. Just keep making new friends and remain in close contact and see where things go. Even though some women may not be initially interested in you, they may develop an attraction after being friends for a while and getting to know better. It may even happen to you as well with women you weren't initially interested in. Post Reply
View Profile History	about to give up Posted : 22 Nov, 2016 08:35 PM God writes every love story and He knows what is best for ech and every one of us. Post Reply
View Profile History	about to give up Posted : 25 Nov, 2016 05:10 PM also being poor and disabled,i don't have a car to get around. i can't save up for one cause there's no jobs here and the only job i could get is a dishwasher at mcdonalds and it don't pay much. i can't be with a single mom cause,i want to have my own kids,not raise someone else's. also i don't want to deal with the possibility of the ex-husband/boyfriend coming back and causing problems,or that i don't measure up to what the kids father was. i can't live out here anymore there's nothing for me and no one to help me. that's why i'm looking for a woman,who can help take care of me and have a place for me to stay,where i can find work and not feel like i'm worthless. Post Reply
CuriousGeorge View Profile History	about to give up Posted : 27 Nov, 2016 09:35 AM So from what you're saying it looks like the main problem is that you are in a financial pinch and you need help. But you seem to believe the ONLY way out is to find a girlfriend/wife to take of you? I don't know your situation but are you not able to find help from your church or friends/family? And do you think a relationship will suddenly make you "not feel worthless"? I believe you need to work on your self confidence first. Find happiness in the things you enjoy doing and learn to value yourself and enjoy your life regardless of your relationship status. Post Reply
View Profile History	about to give up Posted : 29 Nov, 2016 09:01 AM that's not the big reason. i just hope if i do find someone i hope to live somewhere where there's better chances for finding work. most women tend to judge me cause i don't have much money or a car right now. women these days tend to only like certain kinds of men. those that have nice cars and lots of money,look like a rock or rap star,or country boys in pickup trucks. i may just look to the amish or mennonite churches for a suitable mate. their women are plain,obedient,and don't judge you on how much money you have or what you look like. if your a good person and have strong faith in god,that's all that matters to them. Post Reply
JMhonestydate View Profile History	about to give up Posted : 4 Dec, 2016 04:13 PM Hello Garfield, Season Greetings.........I see you have viewed my profile...Thanks a lot....... I am inviting you to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. There are plenty branches in USA so you can attend anyone of your choice. We have several young people as yourself and we have severals activities too.... I encourage you not to give up and try to attend the church and get involve with some of the programme we have for young single adult.....We also teach our young single adults how to date and we arranged date for them too....... We have our website which I will post here for you to visit... Do not give up and we treat people as how Jesus teaches.... www.mormon.org www.mormon.com Click on these links and we have live missionaries to chat with and walk you in the right path.... Post Reply

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