Author	Thread: is it wrong to have preferences as a christian?
victorious52 View Profile History	is it wrong to have preferences as a christian? Posted : 3 Jul, 2012 07:31 AM i think we all have them right? and dream about them them at night :zzzz: perhaps we might not say it out loud for all to hear but deep inside we know what we want near but we all have them right? even if my face brings fright if not, then we would all be married already and not just checking out profiles to go steady some like people with a different skin tone some like them white as a bone :purpleangel: some like them bald with a shinny reflection some like them hairy a haircut rejection some like them with a hat some like them fat some like them thin some like them because of the job they are in one girl said he needs a big package! i think that christian is a little wackage! i once asked a girl out from a dating site didn't know if she was black or white she had no photo on her profile i like a woman with some style her emails had me walking on air but all of her teeth just wasn't there she said she was average, but average for what when your at my age, looking for perfection your not maybe God just made me this way or is that the excuse i will say tell me what you say, you have freedom of expression and lets get started with this preference session by vic one woman got upset because i asked her for a full length picture, some don't want to send a closeup! i think honesty has to be a priority for trust and then love what do you think? we are spiritual but do we have to not like the physical? issac liked rebecca whats so bad about that? and we see jacob got the old bait and switch, when he didn't have a light on during the honeymoon right? Post Reply
View Profile History	is it wrong to have preferences as a christian? Posted : 3 Jul, 2012 07:37 AM Funny stuff. Yea, I have many preferences. Post Reply
victorious52 View Profile History	is it wrong to have preferences as a christian? Posted : 3 Jul, 2012 07:42 AM thanks for your kind words my friend i think we all do have preferences some are ok some are not i guess i mean what if i like women who accept my view of end time events not that i am a doomday prepper like on tv, is that right? where do we draw the line? politics? lol is tolerance ok in certain areas? Post Reply
View Profile History	is it wrong to have preferences as a christian? Posted : 3 Jul, 2012 08:36 AM I think we either have to have the same preferences as eachother or willing to unconditionally accept the others preferences without changing eachother. Post Reply
victorious52 View Profile History	is it wrong to have preferences as a christian? Posted : 3 Jul, 2012 09:10 AM that sounds like sound advice! one lady got all upset because i asked for a full length picture, she hasn't sent it yet and basically said i was shallow because i wanted to see what her body looked like. it's not like i asked for a nude photo,:ROFL: but whats wrong with asking for a close up of her face or a full length shot!? i have videos on youtube! that is even harder to photoshop ok :excited: i would be rather curious of a woman who didn't mention any preference at all! what does that prayer sound like? God send me a person who has some higher level brain functions? :prayingm: Post Reply
View Profile History	is it wrong to have preferences as a christian? Posted : 3 Jul, 2012 11:23 AM No it is not wrong to have preferences. Intelligent, Secure in finances, good conversationalist, Romantic, Chivary, has a sense of Humor, Single, Outgoing personality and likes to travel. :winksmile: Post Reply
victorious52 View Profile History	is it wrong to have preferences as a christian? Posted : 3 Jul, 2012 12:05 PM Intelligent, +++ hawkings in the wheelchair Secure in finances, +++donald trump in a wheelchair good conversationalist, +++anderson cooper if he wasn't gay, but in a wheelchair Romantic, +++tom hanks in a romantic comedy, in a wheelchair Chivary, +++tom hanks in a suit of armour, in a wheelchair, "chivary", 3 young people just looked that up in google! has a sense of Humor +++tom is still there, and still sitting in a wheelchair! , Single +++i think we lost tom there! lol, , Outgoing personality +++now there your really cutting out a lot of guys ok, but still i respect your choice! and likes to travel. +++here is your perfect guy http://www.travelchannel.com/tv-shows/man-v-food adam richmond if he's single ! :rolleyes: by tthe way nice photo in your profile! Post Reply
View Profile History	is it wrong to have preferences as a christian? Posted : 3 Jul, 2012 01:16 PM I think people mix up standards and preferences altogether. I do not think that preferences are a bad thing and it can be attributed to a myriad of things, whether it be cultural or "situational" etc. It also doesn't mean prejudicial unless the person who has the preference treats those outside of his "list" with contempt or disdain that's wrong. Some may prefer to date someone from their country, some may prefer to be a bit more adventurous and go outside their country. Some may prefer someone outgoing and the life of the party, while others might prefer someone more laid back a home body. The possibilities are endless. For me I know I have preferences and I used to feel bad but then I understood the aforementioned definitions. I have also come to understand that it may bring offence to others, you talked about someone accusing you wrongly because you wanted to see what they looked like. I think what we need to remember that though we may be attracted to someone it is not written in stone that they will be or have to be attracted to us in kind. If we understand this we will save ourselves a lot of heartache. I am multi racial and I am more attracted to Caucasians, am I racist? By no means I may be attracted to every color, creed and race once the right godly attitudes are there I just have more of an attraction to them. Does that mean they have to find me attractive also? No but I am attractive to someone. I also prefer (there's that word again) a gentleman dressed nicely, I am not really for the saggy pants style, that's just me. All in all if you know who you are and understand that preferences are just that... what someone prefers and not a death sentence lol we should all be fine. I know there are instances we wish "if that person would just get over their "preferences" to see me beyond that they may be getting to know a great guy or gal". it happens and it's their prerogative, the world still goes round and God is still on the throne :) Post Reply
View Profile History	is it wrong to have preferences as a christian? Posted : 3 Jul, 2012 01:26 PM (but whats wrong with asking for a close up of her face or a full length shot!?) Women dont really understand how their physical frame is important to men. What was it that Adam said when God bought Eve to him? Their should have been a wow in font of it. This is bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh. Any woman should want her man to enjoy the sight of her physical frame. We know that advertisements understand this. Who is next to the beer or car or such. A beautiful woman. Ads know that men's attention is attracted with beautiful women. Now we know beauty is in the eye of the beholder so every woman has a shot at being the beauty some man has his eye on. The main place I look for beauty though is in a womans eyes. Not the shape but can you see the soul of a woman through her eyes? In her eyes tells about her pain and hardness. They tell if she is soft and peaceful. Her eyes tell if she is full of pride. They tell if she is full of anger and bitterness. Know a womans eyes and you will know her. The thing is their picture cant hide whats in their eyes either it is a snap shot of their soul. But I think women have head shots because they are face to face people and men are more side by side people. What do you ladies think? Post Reply
View Profile History	is it wrong to have preferences as a christian? Posted : 3 Jul, 2012 02:06 PM Most men like full length Photos of women on these Christian sites and close up. Some look at the heart of the lady after they check out her Photo first. :laugh: Post Reply
View Profile History	is it wrong to have preferences as a christian? Posted : 3 Jul, 2012 07:20 PM The problem, brother, is that advertising has done the exact opposite. It has taken away God's calling on men to protect and lead, and has instead caused them to submit and obey their own lusts. Satan does not want you to see these women in the ads as sisters in the Lord, pure and holy as the bride of Christ. He purposely lines up these women next to coveted symbols of power for a reason ... these are things to possess and conquer. The thought of being responsible for and laying down your life for these things is not part of the plan. Some women have accepted that money is the trade off in this deal. They would also be submitting to their flesh. I think the key is probably not to let preferences get in front of God's direction for your life. Don't lean on your own 'understanding', but in all your ways (thinking, filtering, lingering) look to Him and His word, and He'll show you the best mate for you... even if you were blindfolded! Post Reply

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