Conclusions on online dating

Posted : 16 Aug, 2011 06:58 PM

Coming to the conclusion that rejection online is about 10 times worse than in real life. Being a guy and therefore having an extremely low chance of being responded to, it really kinda makes you wonder if it's worth it. Not really down or disappointed or anything. Just coming to terms that this is how it is.

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Conclusions on online dating

Posted : 16 Aug, 2011 07:24 PM

It's a simple matter of mathematics. You have a greater number of women that you can potentially meet, so you have a greater number of rejections. It's not that you are more likely to be rejected, it's just that you don't have to wait as long to be rejected.

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Conclusions on online dating

Posted : 16 Aug, 2011 08:53 PM

I find it discouraging to think there are all these Christians who say they are looking for a good Christian but won't even greet their fellow Christians with a respectful response to a friendly hi.



I confess I haven't always responded...sometimes I wait to see if the person will be banned before I respond...seems to happen too frequently lately.



Online opens the volume of people...haven't found the right person at church, work, the gym, store, etc...but I won't give up as I still believe God may have someone there...in the meantime, I will reach out in friendship. I think sometimes that may be God's plan for me...at least it provides an avenue for discussion beyond shop talk or who's doing what in the family.

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Conclusions on online dating

Posted : 16 Aug, 2011 11:12 PM

I dont think Gods in it.



When we place rediculous restrictions on who we can come in contact with

When we ignore people

When we don't allow God to work WHAT HE WANTS without When we dont seek wisdom or discernment

When we present ourselves dishonestly

I think God just lets us do what we want, without His blessing.

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Conclusions on online dating

Posted : 17 Aug, 2011 06:46 PM

@ Cobbler:

True. That's kinda what I was getting at. If you do get rejected it's no big deal and can move on and find something to distract you, but online when there's no response, it's prolonged and left hanging and it's all you can think about for a long time and just left wondering. It su cks and it's confusing. Especially when you know your profile is good, your pictures are good, and your message was good. Basically when your making a real effort and not getting any appreciation for it, only contempt. Uh, good news though, the girl I wrote finally wrote back. Who woulda thought... My only point I was trying to make was that online dating is realistically not a very good medium to meet people. Not trying to stir up any negativity or discouragement.

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Conclusions on online dating

Posted : 18 Aug, 2011 05:36 AM

Online is not the Best venue to meet a potential mate.

I've been on other Paid Christian sites. Made some friends.

Have met a few men inperson even and not in my area

they traveled here. However, meeting a person does

not mean they are the right person for a mate. Time will

tell that part.

I think to like Rabbit said, God is not in this sometimes, we

just do what we want to do on these sites as well.



My problem is meeting a guy that is Not seeing or dating others at the same time. LOL



Most men have other ladies they are talking too.



Oh, and I do get rejection from some I have tried to flirt

with, the excuse they give is I live too far away. LOL



I have met inperson men from South Carolina and New

Mexico. So people will travel if they really are interested and want to meet You.



JMO

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Conclusions on online dating

Posted : 19 Aug, 2011 10:27 PM

Just being honest, when I send a young lady a message on here, if she doesn't give me any response the next time that she's online...then I basically move on. WHY??? Because that's extremely rude to not at least say something. I guess my point is this: If someone does something like that, it's either because they just don't have a heart...OR...because they aren't very serious about finding someone to share their life with...OR...because they're trying to keep me on a "back burner" so to speak. Honestly, I've actually been left hanging before...and anyone young lady who does that to me basically loses her chance of ever being able to have a relationship with me. I would never leave any young lady that way...and that's why I refuse to tolerate that kind of behavior. But anyway, someone had mentioned something about that, so I figured I would post something about that subject.

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Conclusions on online dating

Posted : 1 Sep, 2011 05:47 PM

Get real people! If we were so handy at finding a mate in the real world, we wouldn't be HERE.



These internet dating sites are the last bastion of hope for folks like us trying to find a mate for the rest of our lives. So it's only obvious that when you're down to your last chip and you play it and don't come out the way you'd hoped you're going to be EVEN MORE DEPRESSED.



Look at it this way (I do) at least we're getting the chance to talk to people of like minds (Christians) and we're getting to hone our social skills if the chance happens upon us that we actually MIGHT find an equal partner.



We wouldn't be HERE if we could find what we wanted in the real world. So have fun with it.



tongue in cheek,



Kevin

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Conclusions on online dating

Posted : 1 Sep, 2011 06:35 PM

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Conclusions on online dating

Posted : 1 Sep, 2011 06:36 PM

also tongue in cheek :ROFL:

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Conclusions on online dating

Posted : 2 Sep, 2011 12:03 PM

Many people online or dating Offline, with people in their

areas. Online dating opens up a venue to people we may

not meet in our area. Some people in Larger Cities like N.Y., L.A., maynot meet people even across town, unless they meet on a computer. DUH



Computer dating is the in thing, for all those who want to try it. It does not mean it is our last resort to find someone.



:laugh:

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