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Admin	Education level/non-traditional students... Posted : 2 May, 2011 07:08 PM Hello, Daughters of Mary. Son of Adam here. My career path in life wasn't revealed to me until quite recently, and I now find myself as a non-traditional student at the age of 31. I have my Associate's degree, but plan on going into a Master's program as a result of my field. However, in nearly every instance where my status as a student is touched upon in communication, the question inevitably (and quickly) comes up as to when I'm expected to graduate. I'd like to think this is just innocent conversation, but it usually comes off as a thinly-veiled remark of "hurry up and get your act together". This is even more apparent in websites where people can set "match requirements" for income and education level. It's difficult going to a university containing 13,000 students, of which you feel like a fraction of a fraction age-wise. However, the reason I'm going to begin with is to not only improve my lot in life but to become a better caretaker for, God willing, my future wife and kid(s). Is there a preference towards people that don't have college experience/degrees but are "locked in" for their careers as opposed to non-trads that have a job but are working for a degree too? Thanks and God Bless! Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Education level/non-traditional students... Posted : 3 May, 2011 07:47 AM You asked: "Is there a preference towards people that don't have college experience/degrees but are "locked in" for their careers as opposed to non-trads that have a job but are working for a degree too?" I think it would be the opposite for me. I would prefer someone who is working toward a college degree, even if he is a non-traditional student. While it might not be "right", our society is one that holds a college degree in very high esteem. The only things that would really make me hesitant to date/marry someone who is still in college, though, would be the financial aspects of it, and the maturity/reliability/persistence of the guy. When I was a student, and even more so now that I'm college faculty, I've seen married couples struggle financially so that one can go to college, and then they find themselves thousands of dollars in debt...and the new college grad still can't find a "better" job than the one he or she already has. Or, the college student drags the degree out for years, and then never completes that last class/project/internship/etc. and therefore never graduates at all. Neither situation is at all appealing to me. Anyway, to summarize...I would date/marry someone who was actively working towards a college degree as a non-traditional student, but I would want him to be trying to finish up as soon as possible and with as little debt as possible. Post Reply
View Profile History	Education level/non-traditional students... Posted : 3 May, 2011 05:02 PM I was a non-traditional student for 7 1/2 years. Hang in there -- you can do it! And remember to have fun while you do. Your question: "Is there a preference towards people that don't have college experience/degrees but are "locked in" for their careers as opposed to non-trads that have a job but are working for a degree too? " Not for me, there isn't Post Reply
View Profile History	Education level/non-traditional students... Posted : 8 May, 2011 04:57 AM I think we're in slightly different cultures, but I think it also depends on the sort of wife you're after too. If you're wanting the sort of girl that wants to be a stay-at-home wife, isn't actually quite reasonable for her to wish for a husband who can offer her a bit of stability? Even if it's not a stay at home gal you're after, the girl just might want to know that you're in a similar stage of life to her - in this case explaining where you're at might put that issue to bed. There are a lot of guys in their late twenties, and possibly even their early thirties, who just don't seem to know where they're going in life at all. It'd be nice if they sorted that out before leading a wife into all these experiments. If it's God-led then that's a different story, and you should just let the girls know that you're following His lead. Then they won't have a problem following your lead. I'm rambling lol... Post Reply
View Profile History	Education level/non-traditional students... Posted : 8 May, 2011 04:57 AM I think we're in slightly different cultures, but I think it also depends on the sort of wife you're after too. If you're wanting the sort of girl that wants to be a stay-at-home wife, isn't actually quite reasonable for her to wish for a husband who can offer her a bit of stability? Even if it's not a stay at home gal you're after, the girl just might want to know that you're in a similar stage of life to her - in this case explaining where you're at might put that issue to bed. There are a lot of guys in their late twenties, and possibly even their early thirties, who just don't seem to know where they're going in life at all. It'd be nice if they sorted that out before leading a wife into all these experiments. If it's God-led then that's a different story, and you should just let the girls know that you're following His lead. Then they won't have a problem following your lead. I'm rambling lol... Post Reply