Author	Thread: You ladies really have a way of frustrating me!!!
Admin	You ladies really have a way of frustrating me!!! Posted : 7 Apr, 2011 08:28 PM This has happend time and time again and it continues to happen. I come across a profile of a girl I'm interested in getting to know more, I send her an iniating message, and if she responds back, we'll exchange a few or so messages, then suddenly I never hear from her again. It's like I no longer exist to her. Do you ladies enjoy being so cruel to us guys? Does it make you feel good to get my hopes up then rip it all away suddenly as if I have no feelings??? And as for trying to get to know women in person at my local church, forget it! Try to talk to them, they act like I'm some sort of disease because apparently it's such a horrid act of inhumanity for me to express any interest of any kind toward anyone of the opposite sex. You women today are so cruel, stuck up and full of yourselfs and virtually impossible to please! And it's even more pathetic that you call yourselfs "women of God" and yet act this way. And yet you women have the nerve to wonder why it's so hard to find men who have enough courage to ask you out and iniate conversation. Well, that's because you ladies make it so freakin' impossible!!! Maybe that's what you deserve for your cruelty! Women have frustrated me to the point where I'm about to seriously consider giving up on women altogether and stay single the rest of my life until my heart beats for the last time and I come home to be with the Lord, and that day will be MY wedding day! I have had nothing but bad luck throughout my life when it comes to women. And yet people wonder why I don't believe in love anymore. Post Reply
View Profile History	You ladies really have a way of frustrating me!!! Posted : 8 Apr, 2011 12:45 AM jahjahwarrior, I understand and hear your frustration, but you have to look at the whole picture here. Circumstances may not always be the way they seem. I am sure that often times it has nothing to do with you at all. I also think your going about it the wrong way. Instead of getting all frustrated you should be asking what you are maybe doing wrong?!? We could all use improvement is areas of our lives and sometimes we can't even see it. I personally have had bad experiences with the opposite sex and let me tell you that I would have rather have been single all this time than go through all the pain that I had to endure. It is not fun, I know from personal experience. I also know the types of girls that your talking about and I can tell you that they are not all like that. Do you mind if I ask about your participation in the church and your walk with God? Sometimes if girls don't see a Christian guy active in the church then he may get overlooked. Another thing to consider is that maybe your focusing too much on trying to find a girl, not putting God first, and not giving the problem to God like you should. I know that has happend to me before and I know my view didn't change until I give the problem to God. I know this may be the last thing that you want to hear, but maybe you should fast, pray, seek God, and place your cares on him. If you have to than I was say maybe even stay of this site and others, if you use them, to focus on God and truly cast your care on him. Be strong man, don't let it get to ya. Post Reply
View Profile History	You ladies really have a way of frustrating me!!! Posted : 8 Apr, 2011 04:18 AM And its a shame men on here call themselves (men of God) or (men of integrity)--you didn't thought this will get back at you and bite you in the face. I get the same problem sometimes but its not a problem its just God's will. He does lots of rejection for protection Post Reply
View Profile History	You ladies really have a way of frustrating me!!! Posted : 8 Apr, 2011 05:59 AM Jahjahwarrior that happened to me too. This one guy wrote me a few times asking me for my gmail, until the day that I gave it to him. Once he got it from me, he disappeared off the planet earth. It's very funny. Curiouser and curiouser...another homohapian (not female) asked me how many decades he'd have to get to know me before I told him my name. I felt sorry for him, told him my name, and he never wrote me another letter. Ha! I think it has something to do with challenge... or a sport... I think you don't want to write people like that anyway so its good that they disappear. Post Reply
View Profile History	You ladies really have a way of frustrating me!!! Posted : 8 Apr, 2011 06:01 AM *sapien Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	You ladies really have a way of frustrating me!!! Posted : 8 Apr, 2011 09:03 AM Believe me, it's not just the girls that do that to guys...guys do it to us girls all the time. Last fall, I started talking to a guy online. We had a lot in common, and exchanged several great emails over a period of about two weeks. Then one day, he never answered my last message. He had acted interested in getting to know me, but apparently he wasn't THAT interested. Also, the site we were on shows when a person has logged in; he kept logging on (but kept his IM turned off) for another couple weeks, and then quit logging on at all. I left that site in December, and he hadn't logged on since September. It bothered me quite a lot at first, but I've come to realize that a guy who was truly interested in getting to know me would NOT do something like that. Same with a girl...if she really wants to get to know you, and is really interested in you, she won't just disappear. Post Reply
View Profile History	You ladies really have a way of frustrating me!!! Posted : 8 Apr, 2011 09:35 AM I think you're not alone, Jahjahwarrior. And I really really understand what you're talking about, I believe we all have our own stories behind this same topic. One "weird" experience I had here was, corresponding with one guy, met on this site, exchanged emails, he never replied my last email and deleted his account from this site. Just disappeared. Very nice attitude. But I agree with what ND said as well, focus on God first. Just remember that the one God has in store for you might not be registered on this site. *bear hug* :purpleangel: Post Reply
IaoKim View Profile History	You ladies really have a way of frustrating me!!! Posted : 8 Apr, 2011 11:50 AM jahjahwarrior, Do you realize how angry and bitter you sound when posting these kinds of messages? Do you think any girl would want a guy with that much anger and bitterness in his heart? I love the Serenity Prayer which states: God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference. Living one day at a time; Enjoying one moment at a time; Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace; Taking, as He did, this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it; Trusting that He will make all things right if I surrender to His Will; That I may be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with Him Forever in the next. I just love this prayer because it is packed with truth and there is so much power in the truth to change our lives for the better-- to change our priorities and how we view the world. We cannot force those around us to change. We cannot force anyone to like us or to be nice to us. We can only change ourselves by seeking after God and His will. Many of us struggle with those very same feelings of frustration and rejection. I encourage you to let go of all the anger and bitterness that you are feeling because if you don't then it will consume you from the inside. Give those feelings and burdens to Christ and you will be a better man for it. Post Reply
View Profile History	You ladies really have a way of frustrating me!!! Posted : 8 Apr, 2011 01:42 PM I agree with IaoKim I have been where you are and the anger and frustration will consume you. It is not a place that you want to go and it will take a long time to repair your heart. It will also push you away from God and make your heart cold. I am speaking from experience that it is not something that you want to put yourself through. Post Reply
View Profile History	You ladies really have a way of frustrating me!!! Posted : 8 Apr, 2011 04:33 PM I agree with Anthony. And really, what does expressing anger towards us women here in the forum have to do with anything anyway? If it was a woman in the forum who you feel has sinned against you, then you need to approach her directly (or choose to let it go). These blanket statements about "you women" are inappropriate and offensive. Post Reply
View Profile History	You ladies really have a way of frustrating me!!! Posted : 9 Apr, 2011 07:34 AM The Serenity Prayer is Awesome! Post Reply

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