Author	Thread: Are looks really important?
Admin	Are looks really important? Posted : 5 Feb, 2011 06:01 PM This is probably a question that has been asked before, but I was just curious to hear what some young godly women have to say about the topic. Here's why I ask: Over the course of maybe 8 months or so I have met several very attractive females (in person) and it never goes further than just being an acquaintance. I hear from many people from my work and church that tell me things like I'm a nice guy, and someone would be lucky to have me... That kind of stuff. Therefore I wonder if it's my looks that turn a girl off? So do they matter? If so in what kind of way? Explain. Post Reply
View Profile History	Are looks really important? Posted : 5 Feb, 2011 06:10 PM Well, to me it has always been a man's heart that attracts me, even when I was younger. Post Reply
View Profile History	Are looks really important? Posted : 5 Feb, 2011 06:21 PM I want to be attracted to someone, but what is on the INSIDE IS an attraction. I just want to encourage you because I feel that I am not looked at many times because of my weight. However, I know that God's timing and choice is always perfect. We need to rely on Him! Post Reply
View Profile History	Are looks really important? Posted : 5 Feb, 2011 07:39 PM I've known guys who aren't conventionally good-looking. But if they have good hearts, as I get to know them I find them more attractive. Post Reply
Mercymay View Profile History	Are looks really important? Posted : 5 Feb, 2011 09:24 PM If one is not blind, looks does matter. I believe you yourself does not want to wake up each morning with someone who give you a scare. I believe attraction starts with looks and deeper attraction is when you know the other person more then looks is not that all important but until then I think it is. Sometimes it seems that the not so handsome guy has attracted most of the girls around. So it is not all looks that is important. A little of looks, a lot of personality I think. Personality for me is confidence, responsible, kind, thoughtful, sincere, loving, God fearing, honest, truthful, humor, etc. Post Reply
MargoSolo View Profile History	Are looks really important? Posted : 5 Feb, 2011 11:47 PM I've dated both. One was drop dead gorgeous, but he was lacking in integrity and character and was insecure. He said he was a Christian but I could never tell. Another was not what people would call attractive, but he was one of the most godly, gracious and joyful people I've ever known. If it was between just these two fellas, guess which one I'd pick? Post Reply
View Profile History	Are looks really important? Posted : 6 Feb, 2011 02:12 AM Baptist. I have been told it is the way a man acts. If he's a stand up guy, in a righteous, not intimidating way then I believe he could attract a lot more attention that way than with flawless looks. A person's temperament and countenance effect me the most when I first start getting to know them. If they look pleasant or merry or have a presence about them I can't help but want to talk to them more, because they make me feel comfortable. I suppose that is something the lord is responsible for. Post Reply
View Profile History	Are looks really important? Posted : 6 Feb, 2011 01:36 PM I can't tell if your looks are turning ladies off -- you'll have the ask the ladies you dated about that. Are looks important? Of course. If we have working eyes than we of course are attracted to the opposite sex. I have been interested in men who were considered very handsome (or drop-dead gorgeous), and so far have not found any that could hold my interest past 2 minutes of them opening their mouth. Why? Because those I met that were that good looking were not Christian. So while they were nice to look at, I was not a bit interested in spending any time with any of them or getting to know them. Looks come and go. Our character and personality are here to stay. That is what ends up being the MOST attractive thing to me. Post Reply
brittanyrisin View Profile History	Are looks really important? Posted : 6 Feb, 2011 02:06 PM I think looks are the way people notice each other. You have to be alittle physically attrached to anyone you interested in. It's what grabs your attention. Its what compels you in the beginning to get to know a total stranger. They make you heart pound. Now, it's how far you take this concept that could get you in trouble. If you refuse to get to know someone other than who they are on the surface or if u start a relationship purely on how hott someone is, it's bound to fail, epically. I hope this answers your question :) Post Reply
hubbarddebra99 View Profile History	Are looks really important? Posted : 7 Feb, 2011 01:51 PM looks are not that important, after the first meeting. What is important, however, is good old fashioned CLEANLNESS!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Clean hair, Please clean teeth, (DON"T SMELL OF CIGARETTES!), no sweaty smell, long after leaving the gym! and Please, not too much after-shave! Post Reply
paschen81 View Profile History	Are looks really important? Posted : 7 Feb, 2011 06:05 PM simply put yes, looks are important. That said different people place different emphasis on the importance of looks. Then you also have differences in opinion as to what is "attractive". That said, I do believe there is a ever so slight variance between guys and girls. Simply due to the fact that guys are more visually oriented, they will naturally place more emphasis on visually appealing appearances (based on their own preferences) than girls will. That said, however, girls still place some importance on looks that appeal to their preferences too... but perhaps not as much as a guy would by comparison. I think women are more likely to compromise on their list of wanted physical traits in a guy more so than a guy would. However, this is generally speaking as I have known some women who are worse than men when it comes to only giving someone who's physically attractive and meets their "criteria" their time and attention. Me, personally, looks do have a small amount of importance, but are quickly overrode by personality. Post Reply

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