Author	Thread: How important is Intelligence to you?
Admin	How important is Intelligence to you? Posted : 18 Dec, 2010 12:00 AM Do you prefer your mate to be: Less intelligent As intelligent More intelligent then you? And just how important is Intelligence to you? Post Reply
View Profile History	How important is Intelligence to you? Posted : 18 Dec, 2010 12:07 AM I prefer him to be as intelligent as I am or more intelligent than I am. I would definitely be hesitant about the relationship if he was less intelligent. It's very important to me because I'd want him to be able to help with homeschooling our child(ren). He should be able to help select curriculum or to look over curriculum that I've written myself. I value conversation, as well; and it's difficult for me to have lengthy, meaningful conversations with people who aren't that intelligent. I want to feel like my husband and I are cut from the same cloth. In order to experience that "bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh" kind of oneness, there has to be some intellectual equality, I think. Post Reply
paschen81 View Profile History	How important is Intelligence to you? Posted : 18 Dec, 2010 06:20 AM I pretty much agree with Pixy on this one. I am a person who enjoys discussing current events and a variety of topics more than just surface level. I like to be able to get below the surface of a topic and get to the reasons and meanings and fundamentals even if it does give me a headache sometimes. I enjoy being able to learn about new things and would enjoy being taught by my would be husband. I however have dated guys who weren't as intelligent and while it wasn't a disaster I noticed often times I without thinking use "big words" that he wouldn't understand and he would use "small words" in ways that would confuse me or frustrate me. Most of our arguments were due to him not understanding me and me getting frustrated at trying to explain things. That said a lot of difference in intelligence can be overcome if both people in the relationship are willing to learn and grow and are also good communicators. Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	How important is Intelligence to you? Posted : 18 Dec, 2010 07:45 AM I dont know that intelligence will keep a relationship together but it makes for great conversation :) well, more like him talking and me asking a million questions, hehe. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	How important is Intelligence to you? Posted : 18 Dec, 2010 08:44 AM I agree with what Pixy said. Also, to me, intelligence is more than just "book smarts" (though "book smarts" are great!)...intelligence can simply be having a lot of common sense, a lot of skill/talent in some area, great conversation skills, etc. There are a lot of very intelligent people out there who didn't do so fabulously in college (or never went to college). I do put some importance on an education, but it's not the "end all" for determining intelligence. Post Reply
Joy2theW0rld View Profile History	How important is Intelligence to you? Posted : 18 Dec, 2010 08:52 AM I am reminded of the theory of multiple intelligences by researcher Howard Gardner which gives nine types of intelligence 1. Spatial- This area deals with spatial judgment and the ability to visualize with the mind's eye 2. Linguistic- This area has to do with words, spoken or written 3. Logical-mathematical- This area has to do with logic, abstractions, reasoning, and numbers 4. Bodily-kinesthetic- The core elements of the bodily-kinesthetic intelligence are control of one's bodily motions and the capacity to handle objects skillfullyto train responses so they become like reflexes 5. Musical- This area has to do with sensitivity to sounds, rhythms, tones, and music 6. Interpersonal- This area has to do with interaction with others 7. Intrapersonal- This area has to do with introspective and self-reflective capacities 8. Naturalistic- This area has to do with nature, nurturing and relating information to one�s natural surroundings 9. Existential- This area has to do with the ability to contemplate phenomena or questions beyond sensory data, such as the infinite and infinitesimal The theory was never verified but it is significant because it allows us to look at different types of intelligence Post Reply
View Profile History	How important is Intelligence to you? Posted : 18 Dec, 2010 05:13 PM Intelligence!!!! How is that measured..by the worlds standards ? I would like someone who possesses Godly wisdom...After all that is the Very Best! Book brains are good but nothing compared to God wisdom for the spirit man..with Christ in You - anything is possible.:dancingp: Post Reply
View Profile History	How important is Intelligence to you? Posted : 18 Dec, 2010 09:55 PM Preference for me would be having more knowledge that I do but not showing off or underestimate anyone because of his "smartness". For me intelligence is a gift from God but we could do something about it to sharpen it by reading books etc. I have met some very intelligent men (high IQ) without very much knowledge attached in him at it really hard for us to even make a conversation. Most people with knowledge are intelligent and fun to talk to. Post Reply
View Profile History	How important is Intelligence to you? Posted : 18 Dec, 2010 10:05 PM What I find interesting is the �class� of women that have answered this thread so far. I would be correct in saying that you all are �vibrant� � Very Intelligent � Articulate � Insightful � and the �type� of women that helped settle this great country of ours. You are the kind of woman that needs to be by a man�s side�not behind and the type that a �smart� man Wants by his side. You are on �equal� terms and look for a �true� partner in your mate. While you expect a leadership role from him�you look at it more as �the Head� that Christ speaks of in Scripture. You do not want to and will not be a �door mat�. You need Intellectual stimulation as well as Spiritual stimulation and also Intimacy. Look around ladies�what you have here is Quality�not so much Quantity�and I know that there are more here. Yes sir�Interesting! Post Reply
marikashome View Profile History	How important is Intelligence to you? Posted : 20 Dec, 2010 07:31 AM There are different kinds of intelligence and different things we can be intelligent about. I want someone who is intelligent, but if we can work together as a team, I could, for instance, be the financial intelligence and he could be the mechanical intelligence. Teamwork is more important than "intelligence" to me. Post Reply