Author	Thread: Divorced Women
Admin	Divorced Women Posted : 22 Nov, 2010 06:05 PM Matt 5:32 ~ " But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become a adulteress and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery." Tough verse for some, maybe I can help? The verse is straight forward, all that needs to be done is define, "marital unfaithfulness". The greek word used is 'porneia' where we get the word pornography. This is undoubtedly referring to sexual sin. If you got divorced for any other reason other than. "porneia", in my opinion I believe the following is what scripture calls you to. However the Holy Spirit may ask you to go beyond the call of scripture for your individual situation. If your divorce is over and done with; Gods Grace is sufficient to cover you, however it does not release you of the responsibility of making the right choices now. As I interpret scripture here are your choices: If your spouse after the divorce has remarried or otherwise having relations (no longer faithful to you) you are free to remarry or stay single. If your spouse has remained faithful to you after the divorce you are free to reconcile or stay single. Hopefully this will help anyone struggling with this, as I suspect some are. If you disagree, have further questions or comment; feel free. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Divorced Women Posted : 22 Nov, 2010 09:02 PM I agree. It's probably hard for some to accept this, but since when is the "right thing" easy? :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	Divorced Women Posted : 23 Nov, 2010 06:34 AM I agree with your breakdown of the situation. I also believe that many hold people to this when they married and divorced while they were in the world (before coming to Christ). When you accept Jesus ALL your sins are forgiven and you have a fresh start.:dancingp: Post Reply
brobiilly_newhope_ View Profile History	Divorced Women Posted : 23 Nov, 2010 10:40 AM I agree, I battled it for awhile exspecially me being an preacher. But my ex cheated on me 4 times that I know of and the kicker was when she stole her 250.00 from my old church offering plate, and not only that but her last fling was an drug dealer and I just found out sunday that not only that but he was an devil worshiper, So yes I feel like I had just cause to not fight once she filed for an dvrce. I forgave it 3 times but after the last and her admitting to stealing the money my fight was gone. I did take an year to collect myself afterwards and just me and god alot of alone time. But I came to the conclusion that if God sends me someone he does. But now Im 33 and at that point in my life where I want an family. Some men would run if someone had kids but I actually find it an plus. Cause I never had any with my ex wife dont know if she couldnt or was doin something to keep from it, after everything she did I wouldnt put it pass her. But I was able to release it and forgive it just dont mean I will ever have dealings with her again. But now I'm lookin for to that next chapter in my life whoever that may be. Post Reply
View Profile History	Divorced Women Posted : 23 Nov, 2010 10:46 AM Ima in Agreement also...xo Post Reply
View Profile History	Divorced Women Posted : 23 Nov, 2010 01:33 PM I studied that word and found it to be the same,even including abuse as that is a form of unfaithfulness. That would be an individual's decision, though. Thanks for clarifying and bringing it up. :purpleangel: Post Reply
Firehawk View Profile History	Divorced Women Posted : 24 Nov, 2010 11:16 PM There seems to be lots of controversy over this word "Porneia." I do agree that the word translated to "marital unfaithfulness" is pretty accurate. Though our society seems to jump on bandwagon that this only means adultery. Theologians differ greatly over the meaning of this word, but the term is more general in nature than adultery. The word for adultery is "moicheia." I believe "porneia" can refer to anything from drug or alcohol abuse to the occult to sexual abuse to sexual addiction to sexual perversion. Furthermore, the biggest concern I have with the fore-mentioned bandwagon is that people use a spouses adultery as a get out of jail free card (especially within the Christian circle). If someone committed adultery, yet confessed/repented to their partner (and God), I don't think divorce is the best course of action. And truth be known, we all have been adulterers to Jesus anyways, metaphorically speaking. Post Reply
Firehawk View Profile History	Divorced Women Posted : 24 Nov, 2010 11:25 PM If anybody is interested, here are a couple great resources on the topic of divorce and remarriage: http://www.marshillchurch.org/media/1st-corinthians/divorce-and-remarriage http://www.desiringgod.org/resource-library/articles/divorce-remarriage-a-position-paper I am more in agreement with the first link. I think it lines up better with the theme of Scripture than the second, but there is nothing Scripturally incorrect with the second link. It is just a more conservative perspective than the first. Post Reply