Author	Thread: Not the best way, but what now?
stormcountry33 View Profile History	Not the best way, but what now? Posted : 8 Nov, 2010 08:59 AM Ladies I need some help...some insight. At church on sunday this woman Im very much interested in went to the alter and was very emotional...so after church I text her to see how she was doing and that if needed she could call me to talk. She replied by saying that she was ok just stressed and confused and feeling like everything is a game and she is loosing. So under what I felt was God's leading I told her I was sorry she was confused and that I was too...I told her I didn't like to see her hurting and that I cared about her. Then finished up with just keeping focus on God to let His will be done. She has not responded to that text and I'm wondering if I didn't blow my chances. Her ex and the father or her little girl goes to the same church and they did sit together but prior to church service starting she did make it a point to come and talk to me...the ex did follow her down to the alter and what confuses me is that him and the pastor exchanged grins...kind of confused about that. So anyway...where do you ladies think I may stand with this woman. be gentle but honest...I'll admit I'm a tender heart. thanks for you thoughts. -storm Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Not the best way, but what now? Posted : 8 Nov, 2010 09:14 AM My first thought when reading your post was that perhaps this lady and her ex are trying to work things out between then...and possibly see if getting back together is a possibility. If they've brought the pastor into it (for counseling purposes, most likely), that could explain the grin. Of course, I have NO idea if this is the case. It's just what came to mind first. My advice would be to just give it time, watch from the sidelines, be there for her if she needs you, pray about it and pray for her, but don't throw yourself at her. I also wouldn't worry about her not answering your last text. It might have seemed to not require an answer, or if she IS trying to work things out with her ex, she may not have felt comfortable 1) explaining that, or 2) communicating with a single guy. Good luck. Wouldn't it be nice if God just hung signs over everyone's head with things like "This one! She's the one for you!" or "Needs prayer, but does not need a guy." Unfortunately, it's not that easy. :rolleyes: Post Reply
View Profile History	Not the best way, but what now? Posted : 8 Nov, 2010 09:28 AM Wow! I am not a lady and they will have more insight from her perspective than I ....BUT..... Sorry brother I gotta call this one as I see it: You seem more concerned about "blowing your chances" with her than what God is doing in her life. Get out of the way and let God work; he does not ' need' your help. Just take a prayerful step back in prayer and only take what he gives you. There is more than just you and her in this ; there is a child, a ex and most imortantly Jesus himself is involved working for the best interests of all concerned. I apologize for my sharpness, but we all need a reality check once in awhile; myself included. A true brother will tell you the truth. Be her friend when she wants a friend, pray that God will bring a Godlly woman into her life as a friend or mentor and be in prayer for Gods best in that broken family. (God may give her to you, but you will never know if it was Gods will if you 'take' her) Post Reply
View Profile History	Not the best way, but what now? Posted : 8 Nov, 2010 10:06 AM @bcpianogal You said that so much sweeter than I. You learned your 'softness' from not pounding the keys??? Post Reply
View Profile History	Not the best way, but what now? Posted : 8 Nov, 2010 10:24 AM Storm, I suppose that this is the same lady you have been talking about for the past months? Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Not the best way, but what now? Posted : 8 Nov, 2010 10:48 AM Storm, you really need to move on man. You didn't blow your chances with her Sunday. She hasn't been interested in you in months. You need to either accept that you can only be friends with her or just stop seeing her/texting her Post Reply
View Profile History	Not the best way, but what now? Posted : 8 Nov, 2010 12:36 PM Gotta say I agree with Tulip on this one. She seem to just be asking God to help her and her ex work things out. All you can do is be there for her if she needs someone to pray with or something. Just let God's will be done. Don't let it get to you though. Sometimes you just gotta let things roll off your back like water off a ducks back. It's not easy but that's how it is. If it's God's will for you two to be together then it will happen but if not he will bring someone better into your life. Either way obessing over it isn't going to help the situation. Post Reply
View Profile History	Not the best way, but what now? Posted : 8 Nov, 2010 01:31 PM Storm, all I know is what you've said here. But it sounds to me like you missed a chance to be her friend. To listen to her without injecting yourself into it, to be there as a sounding board, someone safe for her to talk things out with. Instead it sounds like you tried to talk about her and you and your (it sounds like: non-existent) relationship. So in that way, yeah I would say you blew it. As for the smile..... that could mean anything. And chances are very high it has nothing to do with you. Post Reply
View Profile History	Not the best way, but what now? Posted : 8 Nov, 2010 01:59 PM Dang! You asked for a tender hearted response, but yo bro's ain't havin' none of that! I agree with BP. And I also will just add that I don't want anyone who is confused. The spirit of confusion is biblically not from God. If you are confused as well, it may be best to take some time and seek God til your sight is clear and your spirit settled and at peace. Post Reply
View Profile History	Not the best way, but what now? Posted : 8 Nov, 2010 02:27 PM I can't disagree with you babygirl. I've been feeling guilty lately always worrying and being confused about stuff in my life but the only way to find peace is just to give all to God. Stop trying to sort it out yourself and just let God's will be done. Post Reply
DEEDEE72 View Profile History	Not the best way, but what now? Posted : 8 Nov, 2010 03:54 PM Women like men to just listen.....Sometimes we go through things that only God can help with....There is nothing anyone can say..I have found this a little frustrating in men..Until I understood men are fixers....Give her time and then send her another text or call her an let her know yoou are praying for her... Post Reply

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