Author	Thread: first dates & interests
Admin	first dates & interests Posted : 4 Nov, 2010 07:29 AM Hi to everyone! there is these questions i dare to ask you all.On interest ,i will like to know when some of men may look at some girls profiles,and they are somethings that seems so "out of our leagues" on this section and she may want a guy with the same similar or close interest as well,should we still try to contact her or it's just a waste of time? althuogh i have replied to Anyanns' section "what men want in women?" was "that we should share at least one interest together whether it's music,sports,books..." etc. "But the #1 thing we should share is the(bible) for crying out loud" i still have to ask to hear your opinions on this.On first dates ,is it overdoing it to buy her expensive stuff or carring her to an expensive place?Or is it better to go the cheap route and take her to a fastfood restaurant or rent a movie or something?I need to hear you all also on this as well. Of course,evryone is different,but most people can't handle other peoples' differences & qualities and this leads to sperations,divorces& breakups also. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	first dates & interests Posted : 4 Nov, 2010 07:50 AM To address your first question, don't worry if you're in someone's league or not. Make a solid effort in your message to be strong, funny, confident, and personable, and what do you have to lose? It's just a message. I do caution you, however, to make sure she still has an active profile on here. It can be depressing to message a girl and not even have it read. As far as your second question goes, I caution you very strongly against spending much money on the first couple dates. It makes you look like you're trying to buy her affection. However, the sad truth of it is, if you take her to McDonald's, she'll think you're cheap. A better alternative is to get creative. Coffee dates are excellent first dates, since coffee is only a couple dollars, and it's a great place to get to know each other. You may be spending less, but it feels slightly more upscale, which I think is why girls are more ok with a coffee first date than a McDonald's first date. After that, cook for her, go on a walk and have a picnic, go to a free concert, etc. It requires more thought and effort than simply dropping lots of money on dinner and a movie, but she'll appreciate you being different. Post Reply
View Profile History	first dates & interests Posted : 4 Nov, 2010 08:09 AM To Tulip: Amen brother! a very good response!you & Twosprrows shoul write a book together,seriously! ihope to hear from him soon also! Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	first dates & interests Posted : 4 Nov, 2010 08:37 AM Forget Twosparrows! I'm not splitting my book-money with that joker! Er...um...I mean...perhaps if we both wrote our own books we could reach a wider audience...yeah... Post Reply
View Profile History	first dates & interests Posted : 4 Nov, 2010 12:30 PM thanks for the views,but someone please respond! Post Reply
View Profile History	first dates & interests Posted : 4 Nov, 2010 06:50 PM Tulip: :ROFL: I agree with what Tulip said. Don't spend too much, but fast food is also out. Go for something in between. The exception I would make is if someone were on a fixed income, temporarily unemployed, or with some other circumstance that made finances tight. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	first dates & interests Posted : 4 Nov, 2010 07:23 PM Definitely agree with Tulip on this one. Don't spend a lot of money on the first couple dates. Coffee is a great first meeting/date idea. Starbucks (or similar place) offers a nice atmosphere, but it won't break the bank. If you are concerned that she doesn't like coffee, and therefore you don't want to suggest a coffee place, remember that they usually have other things, like hot chocolate, tea, fruit freezes, sodas, etc. She'll find SOMETHING that she likes. I know that the first time I met my ex-boyfriend, we met at a little coffee shop/cafe in a bookstore. He was afraid that it would sound too geeky, but it sounded about perfect to me. It wasn't a date, and we each bought our own food/drinks. We spend maybe $7-$8 each for our lunch, it was nice and quiet, and when conversation started to slow after 2 hours, we walked around and talked about the books for another hour. After that first meeting, he insisted on paying for EVERYTHING we did, so I was careful to suggest some "freebie" dates. We would go for a picnic one weekend, then go to lunch and a movie the next, then go to his or my house the next for dinner and games/movie/conversation with the families. This creative type of dating also allowed us to discover each others' interests on a different level than what we'd filled out online or talked about via email. Post Reply
View Profile History	first dates & interests Posted : 5 Nov, 2010 02:15 PM Thanks so much for all of your opioins:applause::applause:!!! Post Reply
View Profile History	first dates & interests Posted : 7 Nov, 2010 09:36 AM Question# 1) Don't worry if she is out of your league ; she might have poor eyesight! Question# 2) Spending to much money on the first date will impress the wrong woman. Being thrifty (not cheap) with finesse will impress the right kind of woman. Twolip Tusparrows hmmmmm...... Post Reply
View Profile History	first dates & interests Posted : 7 Nov, 2010 09:43 AM To: Twosparrows,thankyou for comments.:applause::applause::applause:&:ROFL::ROFL: Post Reply
marikashome View Profile History	first dates & interests Posted : 10 Nov, 2010 09:27 AM When a man messages me and neither his profile nor his message points to anything he might have in common with me, I have to wonder why he messaged me to begin with. Did he read my profile? Is he a scammer? ??? But if a man tries to find some common ground with me, I don't generally consider them out of my league until I know them a little better. Even diamonds sometimes appear to be common rocks until they are opened up. And on the other hand, there are pieces of glass that look like diamonds til you test them. A good first date for me is a quiet, not too expensive meal-dutch-or even a shared activity. I would be fascinated with a man who had messaged me awhile and then the guts to mention that he'd volunteered to cook Thanksgiving meals for delivery to shut ins and wanted to know if I'd like to participate too, or something like that. Not only is that a man who knows what he's doing, but he's willing to share his heart. (hee hee and now if someone messages me and says that, I'll be checking to see if he's a regular volunteer or if he dropped out of thin air right after November 10!!) Post Reply