Author	Thread: making some bad mistakes and need some advice
ydaniel2009 View Profile History	making some bad mistakes and need some advice Posted : 30 Oct, 2010 04:24 PM I have only started doing online dating and i have found it hard. I am not well versed in dating period and i have noticed i have sometimes on my messages sound like if i am trying to move to fast or say the wrong things. I need some guidance on how to do this online dating without scaring anyone away. Their is one subscriber that i think i have gotten upset and i just want her to know that i respect her privacy and want to apologize if i made her think i was after anything. Post Reply
View Profile History	making some bad mistakes and need some advice Posted : 30 Oct, 2010 05:04 PM Other than apologizing, if you make a mistake, there�s not really much you can do about. Just try to learn from your mistakes and move on. Basically all you can do is, use your instinct to determine how fast or slow a relationship should be going. If you�ve only met online recently, say within the last week stick to talking only on CDFF, unless you live fairly close to each other. Talk about her interest and yours. After a period of time, when you are ready to share e-mails with her, ask her if it would be okay to e-mail outside CDFF. Eventually you will also chat on the phone or text, etc �. Take advantage of the fact that CDFF has IM. This little is a safe way of chatting, without swapping numbers. Try and setup times to meet online for instant chatting. But keep in mind, it does not always work. If worse comes to worse, you can also head for the chat rooms and meet there. Although, you will have others in there chatting at the same time. As for meeting in person, the further away you live, the more I recommend you really know this person and let her get to know you, through chats, e-mails, phone conversations. And when you do decide to meet in person, try and meet in her city first, to where she will feel safer. As to how long it should take to meet, one person I know has been waiting for 6 months before meeting someone who lives about 4 hours away. They let their friendship build up before deciding to meet in person. Have fun learning the ropes of online dating. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	making some bad mistakes and need some advice Posted : 30 Oct, 2010 05:38 PM One of the simplest things you can do is put up a couple more pictures up, expand your profile, and clean up the typos in it. There's also a balance you'll have to learn between being overbearing and being timid. Confidently do what feels right. Some girls might not like that, but so what? You can't live life bulldozing over other people, but you also can't tiptoe around on the chance that you might possibly offend somebody. Post Reply
teach_ib View Profile History	making some bad mistakes and need some advice Posted : 30 Oct, 2010 07:11 PM I recommend adding additional info to your profile to spark conversation. Since you list you are looking to start a business or new work, you might want to talk about that in your profile. This is a tough time in the job market; however, you should indicate what you do for work. It is a turn off for a guy to immediate ask to leave this forum to talk in private e-mail or IM. I've seen many guys in their first contact provide an e-mail and give an excuse that they can't use the website to communicate...but they can use yahoo or gmail. Post Reply