Author	Thread: What, sisters, have you learned from your past relationships that will help you in your search for "the One"?
Admin	What, sisters, have you learned from your past relationships that will help you in your search for "the One"? Posted : 24 Oct, 2010 11:13 AM Be interesting to hear this .. many of you are single and have never been married, but many of you are also divorced or even widowed. All of you, however, can benefit from what others have learned about love and relationships here .. what would you sisters be willing to share with others here about what you have learned about this that might help others? What have you learned are the "do's" and "don'ts"? How have you come to learn how the Bible speaks to where you are as you learn these things? What have you learned from the mistakes and even failures? What will you be (or ARE) doing DIFFERENTLY? Post Reply
View Profile History	What, sisters, have you learned from your past relationships that will help you in your search for "the One"? Posted : 24 Oct, 2010 01:05 PM The most important thing I have learned from past relationships is that there ARE better men out there and that I do not have to settle because there is nothing more. When I started dating, I already had a very negative view of men. Considering the behavior and personalities of the men in my immediate family, one could not be too surprised. I did not put up with mistreatment, but I also was not picky about the type of guy I dated. Guys with no social skills, or that were into drugs or drinking; I did not date nearly as many guys as my peers, but I had some extremes in my experiences. It was meeting my best friend online and dating him for a while that created hope in me. He was not a Christian, but he and I shared many moral standards and worldviews, and he treated me like I was the best thing ever. For the first time I was dating somebody who, in many ways, I could respect. However, I could not respect him in all things, so we eventually became �just friends�. Had I not met and known him I might have never dated again or would have settled for somebody because I truly believed that men were just scum and that was all they could be. It was frustrating, because I was always very attracted to and interested in men, so it was hard to just not date. After this friend, I felt like I could go out with confidence knowing that there were men that can treat women like more than maids or prostitutes. Then, in my short stint at a four-year college, I felt pressured into dating a new friend who I quickly learned I could not stand and could not see eye-to-eye with on almost anything, but he was so devoted to me that I felt like I had to stay with him (dumbest thing ever, I know) for a LONG period of time. He called himself �Christian� and was very nice, but he openly chose to ignore certain Biblical principles, admittedly, and thought I was unreasonable for disagreeing with those choices. Several months passed before I realized that I did not like him, but that I was only lying to myself so as not to hurt him, and broke it off. Then I met DontHitThatMark, and after being amazed and impressed with his forum posts, and our conversations together, learned that there are nice, Christian men with whom I can agree out there. I have learned that single people need to be realistic when looking for that special someone, and that does not mean expecting the worst. It means knowing there is both good and bad out there and that the �one� is just �one� out of countless others. I have also learned how important religion is to me. It was not when I started dating, because a teacher�s misinterpretation of the Bible to me made me hate God for a while, but as I grew and regained interest in the Bible and read its passages for myself, I realized how much I could rely on it to guide me, especially in my relationships with guys. Post Reply
View Profile History	What, sisters, have you learned from your past relationships that will help you in your search for "the One"? Posted : 24 Oct, 2010 01:58 PM Go slow Pray Don't be afraid to ask questions, or answer them Talk about him to your friends Listen to your friends Pray Have an exit plan if you meet Talk about God. A lot. Pray Ask about his walk with God, share yours Learn from your mistakes Pray Go slow Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	What, sisters, have you learned from your past relationships that will help you in your search for "the One"? Posted : 24 Oct, 2010 03:23 PM Here's one that I learned from my last dating relationship: There is nothing wrong with living with your parents, but moving out HAS to be in the plans for the future!!! If the in-laws intend to be the live-in-laws, forget it. :stop: This tip is geared toward the younger folks out there who probably DO still live with their parents/family, as I do...but I fully intend to move out once I get married, if not before then! My one and only ex-boyfriend had no such intentions. I was stupid to date him as long as I did, and would have blindly continued to do so had he not broken up with me...probably due to his mommy's negative opinions of me. Post Reply
View Profile History	What, sisters, have you learned from your past relationships that will help you in your search for "the One"? Posted : 24 Oct, 2010 04:28 PM listen to your gut be OPEN and dont keep walls up Manners are VERY VERY important watch how he treats everyone, it will be how he treats you NO smokers.. uggggg Pray about him alone and with him and expect him to do the same GO SLOW and once again listen to your gut Post Reply
View Profile History	What, sisters, have you learned from your past relationships that will help you in your search for "the One"? Posted : 24 Oct, 2010 08:25 PM Yeah, I'm with you pianogal... I think there is a reason the Bible stipulates that a man will LEAVE his mother and father to be united to his wife. :goofball: Post Reply
marikashome View Profile History	What, sisters, have you learned from your past relationships that will help you in your search for "the One"? Posted : 24 Oct, 2010 09:48 PM If something about a situation makes me uncomfortable, the nicest thing I can do for both of us is say so. If he is upset that I'm uncomfortable or if what makes me uncomfortable is something "I can't quite put my finger on" or that is intrinsically a part of him, he is NOT the one. Period. Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	What, sisters, have you learned from your past relationships that will help you in your search for "the One"? Posted : 25 Oct, 2010 09:05 AM what i learned from past relationships: not to take the other person for granted to focus on the good traits relationships are work when the going gets rough, dont run the other way never mention the word "divorce" in an argument fight fair, careful with the other persons heart it's ok if you heart is exposed and your walls are down Post Reply