Author	Thread: I WILL NOT SETTLE
DEEDEE72 View Profile History	I WILL NOT SETTLE Posted : 24 Oct, 2010 10:11 AM I will not settle even if I have to be single the rest of my life? Post Reply
View Profile History	I WILL NOT SETTLE Posted : 24 Oct, 2010 10:52 AM Sounds rather selfish. If no one meets MY standards, I won't let them in MY life. I can understand not compromising in important Biblical principals, but if every guy out there is "just not for me", then I think one needs to rethink your standards. I know it is not easy to find someone, but some people ask for too much. I know of someone who "settled" for a guy instead of remaining single. They have been married for over 20 years and have had a good marriage, even if he still has an annoyihng personality. Post Reply
View Profile History	I WILL NOT SETTLE Posted : 24 Oct, 2010 11:04 AM There are some things that I won't compromise on, but other things that I will. So I will not settle either! (on the things that I won't compromise on) Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	I WILL NOT SETTLE Posted : 24 Oct, 2010 11:33 AM What are you settling on? My friend Fonda "settled" for a guy who was shorter than her, and it looks like they're on their way to marriage. She turned him down for a date twice before accepting, actually. So what is settling, exactly? Biblically, what do we really deserve? Do we really deserve rewards in the form of a mate based on only sinning in certain ways, but not others? Post Reply
rainbowian View Profile History	I WILL NOT SETTLE Posted : 24 Oct, 2010 11:55 AM How high are your standards? If your standards are so high that you eliminate 95% of men then it's unlikely you'll find anybody. In that case, assuming the person is genuinely looking for somebody, they need to be willing to settle for less. The best thing is to pick 3 or 4 qualities that the person must have and don't worry much about everything else. There's a good book about this by Lori Gottlieb called "Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough". Post Reply
View Profile History	I WILL NOT SETTLE Posted : 24 Oct, 2010 01:04 PM That is so sad :-( If all women think like this ; I fear I also sill be single for the rest of my life. I was rather counting on finding a woman who WOULD settle :goofball: Post Reply
View Profile History	I WILL NOT SETTLE Posted : 24 Oct, 2010 01:54 PM You "will not settle" .... on what? What church he goes to? How tall he is? How he eats his food? Seat up or down? Drive like a maniac or safely? Poor relations with his family or great? Multiple marriages or just one? Long distance away or in the same town? Post Reply
View Profile History	I WILL NOT SETTLE Posted : 24 Oct, 2010 02:03 PM Reminds me of a line from a female comedian. You always have to look good. You never know when you might bump into Mr. You Might Do. :ROFL: Post Reply
DEEDEE72 View Profile History	I WILL NOT SETTLE Posted : 24 Oct, 2010 03:12 PM Please let me clarify...I heard this statement on The Millionare Matchmaker and thought. I just want to know what everyone else thought....... Post Reply
View Profile History	I WILL NOT SETTLE Posted : 25 Oct, 2010 08:32 AM Is this where we get the expression "settling down"? Two people finally decided to "settle" with each other, come way may, because of love? Actually, in wisdom, we'll ALL have to "settle" in our hearts with something or other different from us in the character and lifestyle of the one we love, so there can only be a few SPECIFIC things that we really NEED not to "settle" on concerning the gal or guy we are seeking from God to share the rest of our lives with as our "Life in Christ Mates" before we "settle down" to barefoot enjoy the blessing of our love for each other!!! :hearts::hearts::hearts: So, know these few SPECIFIC things, let everything else go and BAREFOOT GO FOR IT as God leads your hearts in developing your relationship and discovering that SPECIAL BAREFOOT LOVE that He intends to be your lifelong blessing for the rest of your lives!!! :dancingp::dancingp::dancingp: Steve Post Reply
paschen81 View Profile History	I WILL NOT SETTLE Posted : 27 Oct, 2010 08:01 PM I myself have found myself thinking about the subject of "settling" for less than my desires. Each year that passes I lower my standards required in a mate... Now, I find myself wondering... do I really want to lower my standards any lower? I mean, do I give up wanting someone who can have intelligent conversation? do I give up wanting someone who enjoys similar things as me? do I give up wanting someone who will take care of me and settle for someone who I must pay for everything and do everything for so they can sit at home all day and play video games? So I'm at that point where...I'm asking myself... Do I now say I will not settle... or do I continue to lower my expectations and just take the first person who asks me to marry him? I don't think I could lower them anymore than I have... but then is that being selfish? What if I'm not meant to have someone I can discuss deep topics with (be it spiritual topics or current events) and wanting that is my being selfish. I really try not to dwell on it too much or I find myself wanting to give up on the possibility of ever being married but that idea I don't want to face either... Post Reply