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cowgirl1984 View Profile History	Are you tired of... Posted : 14 Oct, 2010 06:47 PM ...carrying conversations? I don't know if most of us ladies experience this or if it's pretty much just me, but I am getting very tired of carrying conversations. There are a few guys I talk to with whom I have good conversations, but it seems like the majority of guys who message me either never ask questions, write VERY short messages, or worse give one-word answers. I am tired of trying to carry conversations with guys whose profiles make them seem like someone I want to talk to. I don't know if they're just duds or if it's a "guy thing," and if it's a "guy thing" then does anyone have advice for how I can coax a decent conversation? Another question is, what are some things guys (or girls if you're a guy and are willing to share your input as well) have said that make it seem like they're trying too hard to impress you? That's another thing that annoys me... Post Reply
View Profile History	Are you tired of... Posted : 14 Oct, 2010 07:38 PM Sometimes I've had to carry conversations. They usually don't last long. I dislike it when a guy gushes over looks. Or, tries to find out right away personal information about me. I have also had nice conversations with a guy..... only to have him pop out with a totally inapprpropiate comment about what he wants to do to/with me. Ug! All of sudden - just out pops this totally un-Christian thing. I really dislike that. Post Reply
cowgirl1984 View Profile History	Are you tired of... Posted : 14 Oct, 2010 08:14 PM Yay! I'm not all alone! Ugh, that's creepy! I had a similar experience with this guy I'd been talking to for a while. We were having great conversations and then one day he asks an incredibly personal, inappropriate question. But we had great conversations, and I have always professed to be very open about things, and the way he asked it seemed so "innocent." But then, aren't they ALL innocent? :ROFL: It was uncomfortable. I still talked to him for a bit because I was hoping it was just "one of those things" but we eventually just kind of stopped talking anyway. Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Are you tired of... Posted : 14 Oct, 2010 08:40 PM oooo I dispise the one word utterances, I know there is a rule out there that says a conversatin needs to be a volley :) Post Reply
cowgirl1984 View Profile History	Are you tired of... Posted : 14 Oct, 2010 08:43 PM Yes Post Reply
cowgirl1984 View Profile History	Are you tired of... Posted : 14 Oct, 2010 08:45 PM :ROFL: It just didn't seem right to not post a one word reply there, and there are so many witty folks out there I had to make sure and beat y'all to it :dancingp::yay: Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Are you tired of... Posted : 14 Oct, 2010 09:17 PM It isn't a guy thing. It's a people thing. People in general are bad at conversation. Post Reply
cowgirl1984 View Profile History	Are you tired of... Posted : 14 Oct, 2010 10:54 PM Okay, here's a mind-bender, and I think it depends on the individual so I'm looking forward to seeing the answers... Do you think the online scenario further inhibits conversation? Or do you think it helps? Also, in cases where conversation is lacking, but you both liked each others profiles, do you give up after a few messages or do you keep trying? And if you keep trying, what are some suggestions for how to get a TWO-sided conversation rolling? Post Reply
View Profile History	Are you tired of... Posted : 14 Oct, 2010 11:03 PM I think you are right to a certain degree, Tulip.p in general are afraid to put themselves out there. Afraid to share certain aspects of their lives that are personal or thought to be uninteresting. Many don't know how to share parts of our humanity because we don't fully recognize it from day to day. Our joy, pain, anger, love, confusion, suffering, everything that makes us human. The reason why Christ loved us so much. He came in part to show us that he understands our plight so that we can better understand eachother. I believe that in order to have good conversation we must be willing to go deeper than just the usual "hi, how are you?" "good" or " how's the weather?" "not bad". These can be good conversation starters but usually become a moot point after awhile. I would suggest trying to share about your day, thoughts, realizations, trials, encounters with others or anything else you might experience in your daily life. Conversation can be very easy and comfortable if you know how. Look deeper into what happens in your life. If you can believe it I have been know to talk too much. heheheh. Post Reply
View Profile History	Are you tired of... Posted : 15 Oct, 2010 01:26 AM YES! Trying to communicate w/ some people is like talking to a wall... I don't usually give such people much of a chance. Good communication is key to a relationship and if a guy is unable to truly communicate, then he needs to do some maturing before he seeks a wife. As far as trying to get a conversation going, you could try sending him a link to an article or something that you find interesting and try to get him talking about that. It's possible that he's just nervous about talking personally and needs some time to warm up to you. If the two of you could talk about something neutral, then maybe you could gradually steer the conversation to more personal topics. John Piper (the Desiring God website) has a lot of great articles, sermons, etc. that a "couple" could discuss. Post Reply
View Profile History	Are you tired of... Posted : 15 Oct, 2010 03:36 AM Good point Pixy. It might be better to start off with a non personal topic, and then move on to something more personal. Also, try to stay away from questions that can easily lead to a yes or no answer. Don't ask him if he likes something, but instead asking what he likes or dislikes about something. I usually will give my answer first so that they can have an idea of what I am looking for. Post Reply

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