Author	Thread: Looking for some honesty
Admin	Looking for some honesty Posted : 7 Oct, 2010 09:27 AM There have been two occasions on here in which I've messaged a girl and received a response in which she answered my questions. I then followed up with another message with more questions. The second message was ignored, and upon viewing her profile, she had changed it to say she was looking for an athletic guy (said info wasn't there before). If I remember correctly, they had originally said something in their profiles about being nonjudgmental. I would like to know why these girls weren't honest from the beginning. Why didn't they just put that in their profile to begin with? Or, on the other hand, what is so hard about pressing the "I don't think we'd make a good match" button? I realize this has probably been addressed before, but I just want to know what the deal is. Post Reply
View Profile History	Looking for some honesty Posted : 7 Oct, 2010 10:30 AM Well, maybe they didn't think to put that in their profile the first time? I don't understand why, if you write someone, why they can't be courteous enough to answer you, even if they aren't interested!! I'm sorry for your experience but just try to put it behind you and move forward! Post Reply
View Profile History	Looking for some honesty Posted : 7 Oct, 2010 02:44 PM A lot of women operate under the misconception that leading a guy on is more polite than just being honest. She probably felt like she would be being rude if she didn't respond the first time, and then didn't have the guts to be honest and felt like ignoring you would be easier. Likely, she felt like being forward about not being interested to your face would be "mean", as if ignoring you and altering her profile wasn't just as "mean". It was her mistake, not yours. I hope you don't let this discourage you too much. Post Reply
View Profile History	Looking for some honesty Posted : 7 Oct, 2010 03:49 PM Echoing what Rose and siylii said, kaynine ... it's best to just let it go and move on and keep trying ... there are other gals out there waiting to hear from ya who won't be so "crass" and "mean" (intentional or not) in their treatment of their Christian brother's interest in them ... this shouldn't be another "speed dating" type site like so many are, but, alas ... quickly deciding whether or not to write more than one e-mail and truly spending some time getting to know another brother and sister "runs rampant" here as everywhere in our "hurry up" 21st century world!!! ... That's one reason I appreciate our chat forums here ... for we give more of everyone's time and interest here and get to know each other much better than we have often been able to through the e-mail method. Steve Post Reply
cowgirl1984 View Profile History	Looking for some honesty Posted : 7 Oct, 2010 04:00 PM siylii is exactly right. Sometimes women don't know how to say they're not interested, so they just don't say anything at all to avoid "hurting your feelings" but it has the opposite effect. I think guys are guilty of it too a lot in my experience. I have had the same experiences as you, but with guys. You have to let it roll of your back and just keep trying. I agree with the previous posters. Don't get discouraged! There is someone for everyone. Just because you're not what they're looking for doesn't mean someone else on here isn't looking for you. Post Reply
View Profile History	Looking for some honesty Posted : 7 Oct, 2010 04:02 PM All ya'll are right, I shouldn't worry about it. They're probably not the kind of girls I should associate with anyway. Post Reply
View Profile History	Looking for some honesty Posted : 7 Oct, 2010 07:29 PM Right on!! Post Reply
View Profile History	Looking for some honesty Posted : 8 Oct, 2010 02:28 AM humans are often visual creatures.. sadky women and men judge on what they see and not what they do not.. I have figured if they are like that then I was not meant to be in thier life nor them in mine..its all in Gods plan for me.. God bless Post Reply
DEEDEE72 View Profile History	Looking for some honesty Posted : 8 Oct, 2010 03:48 PM When someone "shows" you who they are believe them. Being rejected hurts..But do not waste energy trying to figure out this person...You should be glad you found out now and not when you were emotionally invested... Post Reply