Author	Thread: Why are women so picky?
rainbowian View Profile History	Why are women so picky? Posted : 6 Oct, 2010 07:23 PM No hate, just wondering. It's like they want perfection. Isn't it possible that they're ruling out quality people based on things that ultimately aren't all that important? Post Reply
View Profile History	Why are women so picky? Posted : 6 Oct, 2010 07:45 PM It�s VERY likely many women, and men, are ruling other people out based on very trivial things. But think, would you want to be with somebody who would treat people differently for little things? You are really being protected from their nitpicking that would just continue if you were to be together. But yes, it has to be very frustrating�. A lot of women, and I think particularly on this site, are looking for a lot of important things, and a lot of unimportant things. They want to be taken care of, so there has to be money and a house already there for them. That is their interpretation of being �cared� for. They want a Christian superhero, somebody who is involved in their church and other people�s lives in a big way. A lot of them want virgins, or people who have never been married or never had kids. They want the full package of big and little things. What is important for you is to be the man you would want your woman to want. What do you think a woman should prioritize in a man? What would God want them to prioritize? These are the things you should worry about. Besides, there are a TON of single people out there, so likelihood is that a TON of them won�t even begin to be right for you, and vice versa. Hang in there! Post Reply
View Profile History	Why are women so picky? Posted : 6 Oct, 2010 07:54 PM Why wouldn't they be ? Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Why are women so picky? Posted : 6 Oct, 2010 08:04 PM The sad thing about it is (on both sides) alot of people have their list, but they cant reciprocate or give as a good as they want. Also there is nothing wrong with standards but alot of people think they are entitled to these things, which is prideful. :) Post Reply
Elisa View Profile History	Why are women so picky? Posted : 6 Oct, 2010 08:12 PM Hi there, What is important to one person is not so important to another. For example, to me, education is of tantamount importance. Yet for many people, this is not so. Some will say that God is more important than education. To those I would say, of course He is. That is not even option. So, to continue...... While I believe strongly and deeply in education, you may or may not. This is not a condemnation, simply an observation. Furthermore, what you labeled pickiness is a possibility for both males and females. Many men will not even communicate with women who are not slender. To them, size is of extreme importance. I do not hold the same belief, however I respect their right to theirs. For me, the body is simply the vessel that contains the mind and soul. Big deal what it looks like. However, for some, the body is a huge deal. Rather than getting frustrated, angry, or hurt (this one is tough for me), I try to honor the diversity and individuality people bring to the world. Blessings and hang in there. Post Reply
paschen81 View Profile History	Why are women so picky? Posted : 6 Oct, 2010 08:46 PM I'm not as picky as I use to be... however I do still have a general idea of what I want in a mate. I'm sure if I'm still single in another 10 to 15 years those last few ideas will also be trashed and I'll take the first person who wants me... however, I'm not at that point yet and as such I will keep my list of things I'm looking for. However, a guy with a job is ideal as my last 2 boyfriends did not have jobs and I supported them... I'm tired of paying ALL the bills. I want someone who is able to at least help out a little I own my own house so I don't need a guy with a house (though being able to fix a house would be a plus but not necessary) I have to have things that we both find interesting or fun... I can't imagine my mate only camping with me because he wants to "please" me or me heinously attempting to play football just to "please" my guy. I do not expect us to share 100% of our hobbies and such but at least 2 or 3 things we can do together is a must and having topics of interest that we enjoy discussing is needed as well. I also need a guy who understands that I need "me" time. Time when I need to be alone by myself to just unwind and reflect and maybe belt out a few worship songs if I'm needing to... during these moments I would hope my mate had his own "me" time to hang out with the boys or do other things he enjoys doing that I may not find fun or interesting... And lastly, yes I do have to find the guy attractive to be anything more than a friend... however, my idea of what's attractive is quite varied and not limited to a certain few physical qualities. My 1st bf was almost 6ft 300lbs and had that "rough guy" look my last bf was 5'7'' and weighed 130 who had that "nerdy geek" look about him. Opposites you could say between the two but I was equally attracted to each. Well... there it is... that's my "list" it's not too picky now is it? Post Reply
View Profile History	Why are women so picky? Posted : 6 Oct, 2010 09:22 PM Your profile has no picture and you have not answered your profile questions with more than one word. Perhaps you can at least do that before you can start complaining. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why are women so picky? Posted : 6 Oct, 2010 10:09 PM I do agree that it would be beneficial for you to fill out your profile. The only thing other that you've said other than the basic demographic information is that you enjoy cooking. I certainly can't speak for all women out there, but I do know that, while I would enjoy a man who likes to cook, that it's certainly not my only criteria. It's also not a must-have, meaning that I would not read that and think to myself, "Wow, that's exactly what I've been looking for." What I'm looking for is a marriage that would honour God and I hope that my profile reflects that. I try hard to have very little criteria outside of what's truly necessary to have a God-honouring marriage. But, the Bible is very firm and "picky" about some things, so I am too... That doesn't mean that I'm looking for perfection, but it does mean that I want someone who know what Christianity demands of us and is striving towards that consistently. If someone wants to just toss out part of God's Word as not applying to him for whatever reason, then we're not going to get very far... Post Reply
View Profile History	Why are women so picky? Posted : 6 Oct, 2010 10:42 PM Statistically, choosing one man out of more than 6 billion people in this earth, I can't see why a woman can't be picky. On the other hand, same thing applied to men as well, so both men and women, "normally", should be picky =) Post Reply
rainbowian View Profile History	Why are women so picky? Posted : 7 Oct, 2010 07:53 PM Thank you siylii, Rabbit32, Elisa, paschen81, pixy and JesusLovesYouAndMe for your helpful answers. :applause: And to clarify, as I wasn't too descriptive earlier, I mean the ones that say he has to be tall + handsome + rich + funny + whatever else. "Well... there it is... that's my "list" it's not too picky now is it? " Not at all. I'd say it's very fair. "Your profile has no picture and you have not answered your profile questions with more than one word. Perhaps you can at least do that before you can start complaining. " Not sure what this is about. Post Reply