I'm not sure it does. Speaking as a college student (graduated 2008) and a full-time worker for the past..... many years. It is a fact of life now-a-days. Very few households can get by with just one salary.
I guess you could say that I'm a career woman at the moment. I have two college degrees (BA and MM), and teach college full-time.
How did I get to where I am today? Well, my original goal was to finish high school, court/date a guy, and get married around the time I turned 20...after all, that's what a lot of my friends and their older siblings did. But no guys were waiting for me to finish high school so they could court me, so I went to college with the intentions of finding a guy and getting married the summer after I graduated. (Yeah, was hoping for a MRS degree in addition to the BA!) Once again, no guy came along. So I went to graduate school. SURELY someone would want me in the next two years. After all, all I wanted was to get married, have a couple kids, and teach piano lessons. I didn't want a real career other than the career of homemaker. Once again, no guy. I didn't know what I was going to do next. I was tired of college, and I didn't have enough piano students to support myself right then.
About a month before I graduated with my masters degree, I got a phone call from my former piano teacher. She told me that there was an opening in the music department at the college, and if I wanted the job, it was mine. Did I LOOK stupid?!?! Of COURSE I wanted the job! How else was I going to make enough money to pay the rent?
So that's how I became a career woman. I really do love my job, but I don't want to stay there forever. If I ever get married and have kids, I still want to be a homemaker. That's what I feel God has called me to do. If I never get married, then at least I have a stable job for as long as they need or want me.
I forgot to say how it would impact today's family! I think that when both parents work full-time away from home, the kids have to be raised by other people. The parents might not be able to totally regulate what the children are taught, and they might not be able to choose who does the raising. I don't think that's the best situation. The parents should do the raising. If one parent can work from home (like I could), that might be ideal. If not, then I think the family should at least try to survive on one income until the kids are old enough to start school. The whole idea of taking an infant to daycare just terrifies me.
My story parallels bc's. However, when I did get married, I quit working. So, I've been in and out of a career.
I have very strong feelings about a mother being available to her kids and nurturing them. God must have agreed that not putting my daughter in day care was the right thing for us. He provided a parttime job that paid the bills and allowed me to take my daughter to school in the morning and pick her up after school. I never missed a field trip or school program. I guess mostly it was just sheer detemination on my part to make sure my daughter had everything she needed from her mom. I'm all she has.
How do you think this has impacted or will impact todays family.
Financially, great. Two incomes from husband and wife.
Less gossiping also (watch Desperate Housewives lol).
Plus, I think not all women these days can stand to be a housewife all day long if they used to be working before they got married. Some women can�t stand just stay home and practically do things that don�t really need their �head� (no offense to housewives but houseworks don�t really need a hard thinking, I assume). Tiring, but.
Usually career women would have their children taken care by other people while they are out to work.
I personally don�t agree if the children are taken care by other people but their mother only (at least in their golden age). And, thank God for technology, people now can work from home.
Have more things to be discussed with the husband when both of them got home, and the wife gets the chance to deal with more people rather than just her main family, people in the neighborhood/organization, aka more network the wife could be developed, means more people the wife could talk to. Maybe less fight, if the husband is tired and not in the mood of hearing his wife then the wife already talked to other people at work before. Or, could be less communication since both husband and wife are working hard so barely talk to each other, and nor husband or wife would want to take care of the children since when they got home they wanted to relax and enjoy themselves, alone.
I believe it is not the situation, but how we anticipate and handle it wisely :) hope that gives you thought of the question!
Actually women will gossip to whoever is there if they are a gossip, if they are at work than they more than likely have more people to gossip to.
Being a stay at home mom is very demanding and requires that she have her head in the game. Shes more like a CEO, I know from experience there is way too much going on than just cleaning and cooking.
Day care providers and public schools can alos provide indontrination of the worlds values into children, just ask the folks from CA
The more people the wife can talk to can also mean the more she can talk to others about her problems, and also the more she chance she can talk to another man about her problems. More affairs start at work than any other place.
Both parents when they get home are often to drained to do ne thing with eachother, or with the kids. The kids are left to their own devices and the relationship between a man and woman can get stagnant.
Fortuantly for us God forknew these situations, and has already perscribed commandments for this ;)
My story is similar to bc's. I always planned to go to college; my family set up the college fund when I was a toddler and going to college seemed as logical as going to high school for me. So I went. I dated a few guys during college, but nothing turned into a permanent relationship. When I finished school, I took a job to get by, thinking that I would marry soon. That didn't happen, either.
Over the years, my focus shifted from "soon I'll be married" to just doing what I enjoy. About 8 years ago I landed a really good job, and have gone up from there. If I were to meet and marry the right man, I wouldn't want to work full time, but might start a small business from my home, depending on our finances and the needs of any kids he might have or we might adopt.
I think it can be difficult for younger kids not to have the stability of Mom at home. But kids are pretty resilient. If they have a good babysitter/daycare to go to, they benefit from the experience of being with other kids and from the focused attention. If they are in a home or daycare that doesn't meet their needs emotionally, mentally, or physically, the situation can be detrimental.
Older kids who are in school most of the time their parents are at work probably benefit quite a bit. They have structure and routine, still have their parents with them when they are home, and hopefully will learn responsibility and good work ethics from watching their parents and assisting at home with tasks that a stay at home mom would have done for them. Also, depending on how the additional income is used, they can benefit from college savings plans (better educational opportunities), educational vacations and activities, a safer neighborhood to live in, and so forth.
What it boils down to is not whether or not the mother works, but whether or not BOTH parents are actively involved in the child's life, caring, listening, and loving the child in the moments they have. My grandparents complained about women working outside the home. Most were raised with over 10 siblings. Yet I've heard few concerns that those children might not be getting their needs met emotionally or mentally. Considering this, do you think that one or two children raised in a two-income home get less attention than children of that generation who were raised in a one income home with more siblings?
"The more people the wife can talk to can also mean the more she can talk to others about her problems, and also the more she chance she can talk to another man about her problems. More affairs start at work than any other place."
If a relationship is healthy and her husband provides love, respect, and open communication, a woman would have no reason to disclose personal problems in the workplace because her husband is supportive.
If her husband is controlling and will not allow her to have friends to talk with, then he is forcing her to find others to help her process her feelings and she will end up bonding with someone who gives her a listening ear. Any woman in a relationship that is not allowing her to have friends outside the marriage relationship should be seeking professional advice as to whether or not her marriage is emotionally or physically abusive.
I work to pay my bills. After my divorce I had to. It was not until I came to know Christ that I see the problem with wives and mothers working outside the home. My children are grown and I was able to be home with them while they were young.
the impact on the families is HUGE if both parents are working who is raising the children? If the kids are grown why would you need 2 incomes? I am one of those people who think we place too much value on things we own.. we can make do with less if we do not keep up with the jones
