Author	Thread: Shy or passive?
Admin	Shy or passive? Posted : 20 Sep, 2010 12:25 AM How can we (women) differentiate guys being shy and passive? Post Reply
View Profile History	Shy or passive? Posted : 20 Sep, 2010 06:11 AM By talking with them and getting to know them. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Shy or passive? Posted : 20 Sep, 2010 06:17 AM Sometimes it just take a while to figure out which the guy is. The last guy I dated seemed really shy. As in, he was visibly shaking the first time we met in person. He loosened up fairly quickly, though, so it didn't bother me. After a few months of dating, though, I began to see that he was actually more passive than shy. He rarely had an opinion on where we went, what we did, etc. That bothered me a bit, because while I was certainly capable of making those decisions, I never got to know what HE enjoyed. And then there was his mother...apparently he let her run his life and cared more about placating her than he did about building up our relationship. That was another sign of his passivity, but that one didn't show up until near the end of our relationship. So, I think it takes time to tell with some guys. Post Reply
View Profile History	Shy or passive? Posted : 20 Sep, 2010 07:09 AM That's what I mean. I dun mind being with a shy guy, everyone has certain level of shyness. But being with a passive guy is really a big question mark for me.. I'm not sure any woman would want to spend their lifetime with a passive guy. This way the woman would be the head of the family, not the man? Post Reply
stormcountry33 View Profile History	Shy or passive? Posted : 20 Sep, 2010 08:03 AM Thanks for this post...simply because its nice to hear from you ladies that you CAN see a difference between being shy and being passive. I'm a shy guy...but I'll take stand...its like everyone I meet sees me as being passive because of my level of shyness and therefore they don't want to take that chance to get to know me better. Anyway...thanks! Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Shy or passive? Posted : 20 Sep, 2010 08:06 AM While every once in a while there are guys who manage to be shy without being very passive, the problem you're going to run into 9 times out of 10 is that the two go hand in hand. If it's worth it to you to invest the time to figure out who is who, then go ahead. Post Reply
View Profile History	Shy or passive? Posted : 20 Sep, 2010 08:33 AM Lol. Women are not looking for a superhero haha. Well is there any way we women could differentiate it in an instance way? Maybe certain body language, or the way they talk,the way the do communication,the way they take decisions? Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Shy or passive? Posted : 20 Sep, 2010 09:01 AM Like Storm said, does he take a stand for anything? Does he need "permission" to do what he wants to do? Post Reply
ben315 View Profile History	Shy or passive? Posted : 20 Sep, 2010 10:50 AM I am extremely shy to at first. It just usually takes me a while to warm up to a person. Unfortantly most people won't give a shy person a chance. Post Reply
View Profile History	Shy or passive? Posted : 20 Sep, 2010 12:36 PM I would say engage him in a conversation over a controversial subject and see if he takes a stand. You know, something fun, like free will vs predestination :goofball: My shyness tends to come from not being sure of what to do. I have grown up in three different cultures and have moved around a lot. I tend to find it difficult to remember what is socially acceptable in new circumstances. Post Reply
View Profile History	Shy or passive? Posted : 20 Sep, 2010 03:01 PM Shy guys Blush, look down alot and stumble over there words...:glow:...Passives stare off into the distance and dont make much eye contact...:zzzz:...thats my 2 bits...xo Post Reply

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