Author	Thread: The reason for pictures?
Tulip89 View Profile History	The reason for pictures? Posted : 1 Sep, 2010 08:07 AM I recently came across a profile that had four pictures, all headshots from the exact same angle and with the exact same pose. The difference between the first and second was that the girl was wearing a different shirt, of which only a tiny bit was showing in either picture. I have a feeling 99% of guys would have thought she uploaded the same photo twice. The third photo was the exact same pose, but with her hair slightly wavier, suggesting that it was straight ironed in the previous two. The fourth was the first or second photo with some photoshop stuff done to make it hazy. My question is, why would a girl go to so much trouble to recreate the exact same photo 3x over with her shoulder showing only a hint of a different shirt, and then a different hair style, and then fuzziness? Really though, I think the more important question is, why do you feel like we put pictures up? I like to think that it makes us more comfortable with the people we're talking to. We feel like we know them better because they aren't just a floating head looking over a floating shoulder. People in real life aren't just floating heads over floating shoulders. Our mind knows something isn't right when we have lots of information stored about a person but have yet to attach a picture in our minds to it. People without pictures are no different than characters in books. We may like them, but they don't seem real because they have to be seen to exist to us. Now obviously, a person staying here while they're "taken" to still contribute to the forums can pretty much do whatever they want, since they aren't looking to attract someone anymore, or at least I hope they aren't. Those are just my thoughts. What do you think the value of pictures is? Post Reply
View Profile History	The reason for pictures? Posted : 1 Sep, 2010 10:31 AM I agree... But, do you think it's appropriate for a girl w/ a big chest (who is not taken) to not post full body photos and just send them along after she's been communicating w/ a guy for a week or so? Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	The reason for pictures? Posted : 1 Sep, 2010 12:57 PM It translates "Im insecure about my body" to us. Its a problem that a man will deal with long into a marriage if he chooses a woman like that. Post Reply
View Profile History	The reason for pictures? Posted : 1 Sep, 2010 06:05 PM I prefer profiles with pictures because I want to know that I'm talking to an actual person and not a computer or a :dancingp:. Post Reply
View Profile History	The reason for pictures? Posted : 1 Sep, 2010 06:48 PM Your question: "why would a girl go to so much trouble to recreate the exact same photo 3x over with her shoulder showing only a hint of a different shirt, and then a different hair style, and then fuzziness?" My take: because she wanted something quick to post for a profile, and there was no one else around to take a picture of her. And, it is not any trouble. It is a quick and easy way to post pics. In internet dating, you have pictures and you have words on a screen. That's it. The reason we (those using internet dating sites) post pictures is to attract and inform. JMHO Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	The reason for pictures? Posted : 1 Sep, 2010 07:38 PM If you're right Godslamb, I need to message her to find out what computer she has. Whatever it is, it has an excellent camera on it. Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	The reason for pictures? Posted : 1 Sep, 2010 08:10 PM yah, I was going to say maybe she took the photos herself. what about the pictures that are so small you cant even make out the face? Post Reply
View Profile History	The reason for pictures? Posted : 2 Sep, 2010 03:23 AM I'm interested in what Rabbit said bout this. So who could be categorized as women who are secure of their body? The women who are not afraid to post her full body pics? Post Reply
View Profile History	The reason for pictures? Posted : 2 Sep, 2010 09:36 AM Yes, I would like more info. on what Rabbit said as well. By that logic, all those in the sex trade must be comfortable w/ their bodies, since they show them off. Yet, we know that's not true! Sometimes, those who show the most are the least confident. Also, I have to know a woman who has never struggled w/ body image issues, so if you're looking for her, good luck! :goofball: Men's attitutes towards women go a long ways towards helping body image issues. When men make "accusations" against women who don't post full body photos, that makes them MORE self-conscious, not LESS (at least for me). If a guy on here were to say, "You know what, pix, I think you're beautiful and my opionion about that won't change once I do see a full body picture," then I would have a boost of confidence. I would feel secure in how he sees me and feel more okay with my body around him because of it. Security and body image go hand-in-hand. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	The reason for pictures? Posted : 2 Sep, 2010 10:41 AM Pixy, you make it sound like girls are the only ones who have body image issues. You don't think body image issues come up when I constantly hear from girls how attractive my friends Evan and Chad are? Do you think when the three of us go out to lunch and the waitress talks to them the whole time and can barely be troubled to take my order that body image issues don't surface? Just because they pop up doesn't mean I have to accept them though. God made us the way he made us for a reason. We are complete in him. We shouldn't feel the need to hide who we are from people. People see us in the first millisecond of meeting us, so hiding that on the internet sets off confidence alarms in our brains. I can't speak for Rabbit, but I don't think most guys are looking for a woman without any insecurities at all. We are just looking for a certain level of confidence that they are complete in Christ. I've dated girls with serious body image issues in the past, and keeping them feeling good about themselves was incredibly emotionally draining. We couldn't move forward because all my effort and energy felt like it was being used just to keep her where we started. There's a difference between being confident and showy though. A guy who walks around in a cut-off shirt all the time, talking about how he just got back from the gym and how hard it was to drive his Porsche afterwards is clearly overcompensating. So is the girl in the tiny bikini throwing herself at all the guys and talking about how drunk she is. You can spot that, and we can spot that. We're looking for genuine confidence just like women are. Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	The reason for pictures? Posted : 2 Sep, 2010 01:31 PM i think i would like a body shot also just so that I wont be surprised when we meet (just in case) not that I care about that but I would like to be prepared is all. Post Reply

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