Author	Thread: Advice please...
Admin	Advice please... Posted : 19 Aug, 2010 06:41 AM Ok so I'm new to the idea of online dating and have a question for some of you that are more experienced since it looks like some of you have some great advice from some of the posts I've read on here! :-) Is is just me or does it seem to be jumping in the deep end right off the bat when during your first email or IM chat a guy wants to know about kissing preferences, whether you like to cuddle and seems to want to focus on the physical side of things? I guess for myself I'd like a friend first and than see where it goes. I mean I do realize that we are on a "dating" site, but am I wrong to want to know someone a little better before the conversation heads in the physical direction? And if I don't have my expectations set too high on this does anyone have advice for dealing with guys that head that direction fairly quickly in the conversation? Thanks in advance!! Post Reply
View Profile History	Advice please... Posted : 19 Aug, 2010 06:50 AM Deep end. Definitly. Post Reply
View Profile History	Advice please... Posted : 19 Aug, 2010 07:27 AM Thanks for being a guy and confirming that. Any advice on handling a conversation that goes that way? Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Advice please... Posted : 19 Aug, 2010 07:27 AM Yeah, those would be the scary ones. I would just imagine the email as a real life conversation and if it creeps you out, take off running...well...the cyber-version of running away from creepy people... :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	Advice please... Posted : 19 Aug, 2010 07:53 AM Yeah, best just to stop emailing. You got a creeper though, so it might be a bumpy road. Sorry. Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	Advice please... Posted : 19 Aug, 2010 09:07 AM My opinion, when they talk to you like that they are mistaking you for a girl who moves fast. I just say "If your trying to get me to conversate with you, this is not the right approach." it's called Respect Post Reply
View Profile History	Advice please... Posted : 19 Aug, 2010 10:51 AM Here, here. That is perfect riveroflife1 :Mug: :applause: Post Reply
View Profile History	Advice please... Posted : 19 Aug, 2010 06:51 PM Yes, deep end. I've been asked how often I like sex from "Christian" men within the first 10 minutes of talking with them. Sheesh! Stick to your values. Don't stoop to their level. They are NOT real Christians. Post Reply
tdkcountry View Profile History	Advice please... Posted : 20 Aug, 2010 10:26 AM You are 100% correct; the focus has to be on friendship first and foremost. Allowing sufficient time for the friendship to develop that consist of lots of communication, listening, understanding and just showing respect, care, and concern. I'm convinced that the physical part of a relationship will blossom properly in the sight of God only if the roots of the friendship are deep and secure. Anyone jumping in to early with physical is mislead and both with be greatly disappointed. Work and build on the friendship will provide a positive path forward for a lasting relationship with romance. Attempt to get this the wrong way around will be disappointing and likely destructive. Don't get me wrong the physical intimacy is very important and ties directly to the emotional intimacy; they both are interconnected like a ring and each affects each other. A last word of encouragement is that the "Spiritual" commitment of both girl and boy is critical. Praying for each other will seal the bond of relationship and love. Make a "long story" short your priorities young lady are correct. Post Reply
tdkcountry View Profile History	Advice please... Posted : 20 Aug, 2010 10:26 AM You are 100% correct; the focus has to be on friendship first and foremost. Allowing sufficient time for the friendship to develop that consist of lots of communication, listening, understanding and just showing respect, care, and concern. I'm convinced that the physical part of a relationship will blossom properly in the sight of God only if the roots of the friendship are deep and secure. Anyone jumping in to early with physical is mislead and both with be greatly disappointed. Work and build on the friendship will provide a positive path forward for a lasting relationship with romance. Attempt to get this the wrong way around will be disappointing and likely destructive. Don't get me wrong the physical intimacy is very important and ties directly to the emotional intimacy; they both are interconnected like a ring and each affects each other. A last word of encouragement is that the "Spiritual" commitment of both girl and boy is critical. Praying for each other will seal the bond of relationship and love. Make a "long story" short your priorities young lady are correct. Post Reply
Dragunov View Profile History	Advice please... Posted : 21 Aug, 2010 12:37 AM First comes fondness, then love and then the physical stuff. If the man is a man of God, he knows that. Post Reply

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