Author	Thread: Not sure what's going on....?
stormcountry33 View Profile History	Not sure what's going on....? Posted : 2 Aug, 2010 09:11 AM Ladies I need some more help in trying to figure out what's going on. There is this young woman that I'm interested in that I have known for 8 years that recently left the relationship she was in b/c when she accepted Christ as her savior he didn't support that...I tried to encourage her in her spiritual walk, her little girl loves me, I invited her to go canoeing which she initially said she wanted to go but due to her work schedule she wasn't able to go. I saw her last night and she said that we would have to try to plan something for sometime that she had off which "may not be til winter". She claims she has never recieved any of my text because her texting doesn't always work right which would explain why she didn't respond to any of them but I just talked to her friend in Texas who told me that they had been texting back in forth for a couple of days. I guess I'm just confused...I'd like to know what she meant by her comment about not having any time off til winter and also did she really not get my text or is she simply saying that because she wants me to think that her phone won't do texting too well? Just looking for some insight...HELP!!!! Haha!! Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Not sure what's going on....? Posted : 2 Aug, 2010 10:42 AM Relax man Remember your chasing after a clay pot, who is just that with out Jesus. Be content with being loved by, God everyone else WIL fail you, so God deserves your total devotion, and to be first. God is soverighn, he works even we sleep, he is tirless, he has a future and a hope for you, HE IS FOR YOU. Dont worry about, busy yourself with something else and put it on the back burner. :) Post Reply
View Profile History	Not sure what's going on....? Posted : 2 Aug, 2010 11:06 AM "Always believe ppl when they show you who they are and what they're about." (Believe the direct and indirect msges) --Madea Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Not sure what's going on....? Posted : 2 Aug, 2010 03:55 PM In my experience, she's most likely just lying through her teeth. Drop her like a lead balloon and move on. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Not sure what's going on....? Posted : 2 Aug, 2010 07:18 PM I would say we need to trust people until they're proven guilty. It doesn't sound like either of you have committed to anything as far as a relationship goes, I see no reason to jump on something this small. If she's lying it's on her head, not yours. Just let it go and see what happens. :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	Not sure what's going on....? Posted : 2 Aug, 2010 07:51 PM Stormy - it sounds to me as if she is confused. I remember very well how awkward and confused I felt when I tried dating for the first time as a Christian woman. All I had known before was dating as a non-Christian. I knew what I SHOULD do (and should not do), but not how to go about it. My suggestion is that you not put any pressure on her; continue to talk and be friendly. She just needs time to grow in the Lord and settle a little from leaving a relationship. Post Reply
stormcountry33 View Profile History	Not sure what's going on....? Posted : 4 Aug, 2010 09:41 AM I don't think she is lying about getting the messages b/c she doesn't come across "awkward" when I see/talk with her. I am trying to give her time and space...just know from past experience that too much time and space and she'll be swept away by someone else. We haven't committed to any relationship...I just feel very strongly for her and would like us to build on our friendship and would like to see it become more. My hope and prayer is that God is moving on her heart to perhaps return those same feelings. Am I hopeless?? Post Reply
View Profile History	Not sure what's going on....? Posted : 5 Aug, 2010 06:10 PM It sounds to me like she's avoiding you =( I like what babygirl said. It's very true and something good to keep in mind. It shows a lack of discernment when we think of people more highly than they've shown themselves to be (or the reverse). No time off until the winter?? Seriously?? People make time for what they want to make time for... Nobody works 24/7... I would continue to be her friend, but don't push her. Her actions may not even be personal. She may just need some time. But don't put your life on hold assuming that she'll reciprocate someday. Remember that good friends are of value too =) Post Reply
stormcountry33 View Profile History	Not sure what's going on....? Posted : 6 Aug, 2010 10:02 AM So am I hopeless?? Haha! I do know that I can't get my brother texts so I know that is possible and my phone was once used by the one and ony Fred Flintstone so she may not have gotten my text I don't know. I will admit it does sound strange that she could have text her friend in Texas but I don't know whether or not they had trouble in texting. They still could of had trouble. Either way, I am just hoping and praying that God's Will coincides with my heart's desires and that if it don't that I'll be able to accept it. God is good and He'll take care of me. Post Reply
View Profile History	Not sure what's going on....? Posted : 6 Aug, 2010 05:30 PM Nooo... you're not hopeless. Keep praying and keep being her friend. It's easy for any of us to sit here and tell you what appears to be going on and what steps could logically be taken from here. But it's your heart that's involved and sometimes following one's heart, despite any logic to the contrary, is the very best thing one can do. I'll keep praying too, and feel free to message me if you need to talk. Post Reply