Author	Thread: Help. I honestly and completely don't even know anymore...
Admin	Help. I honestly and completely don't even know anymore... Posted : 30 Jul, 2010 09:13 PM I honestly and completely don't know exactly what I want in a woman. I do know I want a good hearted woman who's a true christian meaning Christ like and lives by God's holy word. I want a strong, loving, caring, and affectionate woman. I want someone who I find attractive anyway but honestly I love a beautiful woman. I know looks and size shouldn't mattery but I like a super skinny to a woman with a little meat on her. I'd like someone fun, outgoing, and someone who'd never cheat or hurt me. Someone who wants kids of course but I'm still debating that one. Even though I say I want some of those things I still don't know exactly what I want. I do know I want someone who's attractive, fun, and care free. I keep praying for God to bring whoever she is into my life cause I simply don't know exactly what I want but I think I know what I need though. Either way I haven't had any luck whatsoever finding someone who's everything I need and who really wants to be with me and stay with me for the rest of their lives. Feels like it's never going to happen.... Post Reply
meesha25 View Profile History	Help. I honestly and completely don't even know anymore... Posted : 31 Jul, 2010 07:35 AM Well I use to have this long list of what I wanted and then I found it. The perfect guy except he wasn't a real Christian. He use to go to church and he knew of God but he didn't pattern his life for Christ. But I thought that was enough haha no its not. We can have a long list but God can change that. I love long hair but i found myself attractive to a bald guy ???? Blue eyes just take my heart away and i found myself with a guy with brown ??? However, the height thing is a must, you have to be taller then me hopefully including heels. haha God knows your heart but He also knows what's best for you. So stay faithful to He and His will and the desires of your heart shall be given unto you. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Help. I honestly and completely don't even know anymore... Posted : 31 Jul, 2010 08:03 AM My best advice is to quit looking for a while and devote yourself to God even more. Something along the lines of, "For the next 6 months, I'm going to give up on a relationship so that I can won't be distracted from really chasing hard after God." Spend a lot of time in prayer, reading the bible, reading Christian books, meeting with older men in the faith, etc. You'll be surprised not only how much you will grow, but also how satisfying it will be. When you take time to step back from constantly thinking about dating, you'll get a refreshed view on it too. Post Reply
View Profile History	Help. I honestly and completely don't even know anymore... Posted : 31 Jul, 2010 12:42 PM I read this and thought it would help: When you feel pessimism clouding your judgment or you start to feel down about the future, remind yourself that every minute counts, and any time spent brooding guarantees nothing but less time to enjoy whatever life might have to offer. At its core, pessimism is impractical because it causes you to spend time dwelling on things that haven't happened yet and aren't guaranteed to happen, and it prevents you from getting things done. Pessimism breeds indecision. It's a waste of time, and time is a limited resource that you can't afford to take for granted. My take with this in mind: You can't be neutral in life we are always conciously or sub-consiously either preparing for the best, or preparing for the worst. Where it gets complicated is being aware of what the worst is like, at which point you just man up, and focus on what you gotta do to get what you want. Same concept as walking on a tight rope or balance beam, don't look down. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Help. I honestly and completely don't even know anymore... Posted : 31 Jul, 2010 03:32 PM Maybe you need to focus more on becoming who you want to be. When you achieve that you will attract to kind of person that fits you, but it's important to have a solid character. Women are looking for honesty and steadfastness. They want to feel safe with someone who won't betray them. A self-sacrificing Christ-like character is the key to life. :peace::peace: Post Reply
thegoodguy1 View Profile History	Help. I honestly and completely don't even know anymore... Posted : 2 Aug, 2010 11:42 AM I seek to be REAL for God everyday. I have not forgotten my Lord! Post Reply
happyjer2911 View Profile History	Help. I honestly and completely don't even know anymore... Posted : 17 Aug, 2010 06:22 PM I feel that you have just stated what you are looking for in a women. If I were you, I would write down 5 things that are a must. 5 things that are a maybe and 5 things that dont matter. Hang it somwhere and pray everytime you see it. I have done this many times when it comes to men. God gives you what you ask for. Post Reply
View Profile History	Help. I honestly and completely don't even know anymore... Posted : 13 Aug, 2013 07:31 PM I know this is an old post, but, I just joined this site last week and happened to click on your page. I agree with some of the other comments on here. You may be spending too much time focusing about this topic that it's taking your mind from other things that are more importantr. Have you devoted some time to helping and serving others-maybe those who are less fortunate, older, disabled? Have you thanked God just because, even though you feel like this "dream girl" may/may not ever show up. I think she will. In fact, I know she will. If you are devoting yourself to the Lord like you claim you are, then, He won't let you down. What I do believe (in my opinion) is often times people have this long list of criteria. This is what YOU want. Sometimes what you want and what God wants may be different. But you will know she is the one for you, when you spend time with her and have that "gut" feeling of wholeness, completeness, and peacefulness. She may only 5 out of 15 things on your so called "list", but, love should also be a unique and wonderful feeling and it's not just a long laundry list of things to uphold and maintain. Just my opinion. Good luck with your quest. Peace J. Post Reply