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b2therizz0 View Profile History	WINK's ... Posted : 29 Jul, 2010 06:00 PM I got a question for all you ladies out there ... Are you creeped out by a guy sending you a wink? Sometimes a woman will ask you not to send them a wink in their self description, and I honor that request if it's made. But other than that, I "wink" at somebody when I feel that we may have something in common, but I want the girl to read my page and find out. It's sort of an icebreaker. Recently over the past 2 months, I've had all my winks completely ignored and I'm wondering what the deal is. Thanks for any feedback ... Post Reply
View Profile History	WINK's ... Posted : 29 Jul, 2010 06:40 PM For myself, I don't mind winks, and I always respond. But also -- a wink is not enough to get my attention. A wink followed by an email - now you are talkin'! But if I get just one wink and never anything else, I always get the impression a guy is going down the list pressing "Wink" to most every girl, hoping to get lucky. It may be a wrong impression, but that is the one I personally get. HTH Post Reply
b2therizz0 View Profile History	WINK's ... Posted : 29 Jul, 2010 07:38 PM I usually only reply after a girl checks out my page ... You know, I wink at you to get you to read my page and then after you do, I follow up ... But your advice is good, I'll try that. Post Reply
b2therizz0 View Profile History	WINK's ... Posted : 29 Jul, 2010 08:22 PM Wow, yeah ... That just backfired. I sent a nice message to a woman I winked at a couple days ago, and got an almost instant reply. My message was just a hello and I was curious why you didn't look at my page. I complimented her on what she said about herself on her page ... And her response was I'll do it when I feel like it and I don't appreciate you harassing me. Wow! I was just curious, not demanding that she do anything. Sheesh! Post Reply
View Profile History	WINK's ... Posted : 30 Jul, 2010 06:17 AM B2 - sorry to hear about your experience. This site, like many others, has a setting you can turn on that blocks the person you are viewing from know you viewed them. (Under Mail Settings) So don't assume a lady has not viewed your profile when in fact she may have done so. Chalk this one up to a lesson learned - don't ask (however nicely you phrase it) why a lady hasn't viewed your profile. Keep praying and seeking, B2. If we don't learn about ourselves during this process then we aren't paying attention. :laugh: Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	WINK's ... Posted : 30 Jul, 2010 07:34 AM b2, you'll likely get a more positive response if you post a picture, and an even better response if you post 3 or 4. Women, like men, like to feel like they know who they're talking to. As for winks, just be bold and send a message. There's no reason to tip-toe around on here. Post Reply
marikashome View Profile History	WINK's ... Posted : 30 Jul, 2010 08:46 AM I'd post a pic too... if you don't want something of your full face, do one with your ball cap down over your eyes, or a far away shot of you in some sport you participate in. (at bat or playing tennis or floating??) I don't just use the one of me in the field, but have gotten several compliments. At first I didn't want to post a pic either, but even posting that one of me at a distance helped. Post Reply
View Profile History	WINK's ... Posted : 30 Jul, 2010 04:46 PM B2, I was on here for about a year before I finally posted my pic. My reasoning was that I wanted the one who contacted me to be interested because of who they saw in the profile, not what they saw in the picture. Since putting my picture on, I have received more responses than before. I have had people comment they never respond to anyone who doesn't have enough self esteem in themselves to post a pic. I can understand this viewpoint. So I posted a pic. As for the winks, I have also found guys do not respond very often to a wink. I'm told it's because it is too easy! Not much thought goes into a wink. So I don't wink anymore. I send a short note expressing my interest and what I like about his profile. God Bless and Guide you in your search! Kristian+5 Post Reply
b2therizz0 View Profile History	WINK's ... Posted : 30 Jul, 2010 07:15 PM My page (and picture) say that if you want a picture you just have to ask. I sometimes wonder if I'm ignored because I don't have a picture up, even though it's as easy as just asking ... Post Reply
View Profile History	WINK's ... Posted : 30 Jul, 2010 07:28 PM I see what you are getting at, B2, but I agree with the others. I don't respond to people who contact me without a picture, nor would I click on a profile (if I was looking through profiles) of someone who did not have a picture. On the internet, all you have are visuals and words on a page. You need to make a decision about a person based on this. What you are doing, by not posting a picture, is taking away 50% of what women use to make a discerning decision about you. Over the internet, that just doesn't work for most people. Post Reply
View Profile History	WINK's ... Posted : 4 Aug, 2010 02:41 AM wink's are like a sign to let someone know that you noticed them, without writing to them.:ribbit: Post Reply