Author	Thread: Why don't I get responses?
Admin	Why don't I get responses? Posted : 17 Jul, 2010 08:32 PM I have sent out numerous messages to young women asking if they would like to be friends (that's all I'm looking for, and its usually addressed to young women who say they are looking for a friend). The messages are brief, just asking if they'd like to talk. I've noticed that some of these young women have viewed my profile and read the message, but didn't respond. Some haven't been read, but I'm wondering, how hard is it to click the "I'm not interested" button? I'd rather be told that the person is not interested than be ignored; I mean, I get ignored enough by young women that I come into contact with in the outside world! I'm not trying to complain, just wondering why it is so hard to get even one response. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why don't I get responses? Posted : 17 Jul, 2010 08:50 PM I received a wink about two days ago. I am always surprised when I get any contact because i've got no pics and no profile info either. I replied accordingly, expressing what I stated previously and asked what prompted the wink. And as you, no response. But guess what, things happen, or in this case don't happen and it's up to us to keep.it.moving. You want to know why? I have an equally interesting question, why does it matter? Life happens is all i'm saying, and you can control only you! Post Reply
View Profile History	Why don't I get responses? Posted : 17 Jul, 2010 09:38 PM Men and women of different ages have complained on this site about this very same issue. In my opinion, it seems to be part of the nature of internet dating. It is a rude and unkind way to treat someone. Women need to be ladies and say "No, thank you" and men need to man up and do the same. Just my opinion. Hang in there -- keep trying. And thank God for protecting you from women who treat people that way. Post Reply
livetheword View Profile History	Why don't I get responses? Posted : 17 Jul, 2010 10:42 PM hey brother, i know ur probably lookin for a female perspective butt i got some advice that might help u . when i first came on this site i had the same problem . but i finaly figured out what the problem was . i was being too direct . yes its good to be honest but there is a diference . u mite ask a girl if they would like to be friends and she might be ok with it on some level but then the question comes of what to talk about . try this aproah better . dont ask just be theyre friend... read there pro and find out what they like to do and see if anything that they list as liking is anything that u like . and if so start the first message with it ( example: i love football , the cardinals are my team . how about u?) keep it short and sweet . if u start talkin to them by showing intrest in there intrest . theyll be quicker to replie because u gave them somethin to talk about with you . that theyre pasionate about . so before u know it ur just friends without even asking oof-course in a perfet world ppl would just replie to be polite . butt lets be breal here . some ppl dont have the desency . so if they still dont replie just right it off becuase that person probably isnt someone you truly need to talk too in the first place Post Reply
View Profile History	Why don't I get responses? Posted : 18 Jul, 2010 11:14 AM @livetheword, thanks for the advice. I'll give that a try next time. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why don't I get responses? Posted : 19 Jul, 2010 08:34 PM @godslamb, I definitely agree that it is rude to ignore a message. I usually try to send some type of response to someone who messages me, even if it is to say that I'm not interested. I wouldn't think it would be that hard to click that button that says that tells the person they're not interested, but maybe some feel its just easier to ignore a message than to respond with a simple "no." Post Reply
View Profile History	Why don't I get responses? Posted : 19 Jul, 2010 09:28 PM People ignoring things, maybe their way of saying I'm not interested. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why don't I get responses? Posted : 19 Jul, 2010 09:46 PM I don't know why you don't. I don't even know why I don't, but I do know how to not let it drag me down and actually feel good about this experience most of the time and make it a worthwhile pasttime: Don't put all your eggs into one basket. Write as many women as possible saying something simple, positive, encouraging, or funny. Expect nothing in return every time you send a message. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why don't I get responses? Posted : 20 Jul, 2010 03:46 PM Things are starting to look up.:glow: Post Reply
View Profile History	Why don't I get responses? Posted : 24 Jul, 2010 06:32 PM Ok, another question: If a girl states in her profile that she'll talk to anyone who messages her or that she is looking for new friends, isn't she lying when she either reads and ignores your messages or suddenly stops the back-and-forth messages after one response? Post Reply
springrose10 View Profile History	Why don't I get responses? Posted : 25 Jul, 2010 09:45 PM Hi Kaynine, As to your first question, I really do try to respond to all of my messages, though I've stopped responding to winks. I'm not usually compatible with the winkers and the most common responses were that they liked my smile or just wanted to say hi as they were passing through the profiles. I've never developed a friendship from a wink. To your second question, I'd say that things aren't always what they seem. We can't possiblly know what is going on at the other end of the e-mail. Maybe she got a phone call right after she read your message and hasn't had time to get back. Maybe there has been a death in the family and she doesn't want to tell you or anyone else, what is going on with her, she just needs time. That is not a condition under which I would take the time to change my profile wording. A couple months ago I was very, very busy at work and did put that in my profile...that communciation may be slow. I'm thinking though, that it wouldn't cross most people's minds to change their profiles. Recently, I've been having some health problems. Some days I feel well enough to read my mail, but not like I want to concentrate hard enough to put a coherent response together. I might wait a day or two. I think that when we make assumptions as to what others are thinking or doing, we are in danger of casting the first stone. Pray and stay focused on what you are looking for and not on the negatives in the process. God has a plan. God saved us by grace. Please extend that grace to others. We don't know who might be in great need of it. Blessings, Rose Post Reply