Author	Thread: Why cant i just let it go
holy_boi_512 View Profile History	Why cant i just let it go Posted : 13 Jul, 2010 04:49 PM I don't understand this and am having a hard time letting it go but, I met someone here yesterday and we talked for a while yesterday and we talked for a lil bit today. We were talking via i.m and I told her that I was saving myself for marriage and told her that other people I've met have had a problem with that and all of a sudden she just ends the convo.. this has happen before and I am bad at handling rejection. Just not sure how to just let it go Post Reply
View Profile History	Why cant i just let it go Posted : 13 Jul, 2010 06:12 PM Be true to yourself and what you know is right. These women obviously have different values and have to answer to God for their conduct. Take encouragement, that if you keep yourself pure, that a woman with like values will be attracted to you and be right for you. I know, you'd think Christians on a Christian dating site would speed up the matching process. Unfortunately, because we are all unique and have different life experiences, the process seems to take longer than we would wish for. Be the best man you can be, and you will attract the same kind of mate. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why cant i just let it go Posted : 13 Jul, 2010 06:47 PM Your hard time is the emotional rejection you feel. Praise God (look at how much He loves you!) that you found out b4 you had invested too much time into it. Let the Holy Spirit lead and take your time building a foundation of friendship in any relationship. Doing that has allowed me to stay cool with him when we find out we are not ordained to be together. You did the right thing, be proud of your stand. Quick lesson in that everybody here is not saved or God sent. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why cant i just let it go Posted : 13 Jul, 2010 06:55 PM Same here brother,I get that alot and it's hard to let go of something like that. Post Reply
GraceMae View Profile History	Why cant i just let it go Posted : 13 Jul, 2010 09:34 PM HB... well, it begins with you.... (softly speaking now...) if you are standing strong about yourself and firm/adament about staying pure and celibate until marraige, then ok... The key is "standing and staying committed to how you want to be for your future wife"...no matter what.[You can change that anytime.] It's a blessing in disquise that many women will not see nor appreciate. And that, my brother in Christ is thier loss, and your gain. It'll become easier and easier for you to recognize, and shake the dust off, and continue on... Now vice versa... It's hard sometimes as I see Christian men, that are good in "every way" until it comes to this issue of celibacy until marraige. We have the option of compromising ourselves, as I did once, but then you learn the unfortunate way, the deception. The deception hurts, and will oftentimes strengthen you in ways (without bitterness I might add) in staying stronger and more committed in what you really want and your lifestyle until you find your spouse. You seem to have a good heart and an humble spirit, so continue the race. It is good that you feel comfortable enough to share with this community of believers. We are all fortunate to have one another to boost, encourage, and lift up. ~ GraceMae Post Reply
View Profile History	Why cant i just let it go Posted : 14 Jul, 2010 07:33 AM "Why cant i just let it go"? Well that's The Holy Spirit telling you that there is something there you need to learn, to realise, to see and try to change. You have to examine yourself and by process of trial and error you will see what it is. No one can tell you exactly what, but you will get some help. Maybe it's your approach? Maybe you simulate how you think the relationship should be when The Holy Spirit is trying to guide you and usher you into a more meaningful walk with him. Only you know! But don't ignore "the nudge", there is a blessing there for you. Post Reply
SOS4EMAILFRIEND View Profile History	Why cant i just let it go Posted : 14 Jul, 2010 11:22 AM HB This world is a funny place. A woman would be called names if she would not be a virgin before getting married. But a man who lives in celibacy before gettting married, is also called names by women (and laughed at by men) In this wicked world we still have a double standard. A woman should be 100% pure. That is wonderful, right and so romantic. However, a man who is 100% pure is scary..... Is there something wrong with this man? Does he have a problem? Is that the reason why he is on a dating site in the first place? Unfortunately, a lot of women, and that includes some christian ones, miss the ability to understand your motives. It is a difficult path that you are walking. Have faith and have God and the Holy Ghost lead you. And do not be too much interested in what others have to say about your choices. For what it is worth, I admire you. :bow::bow::bow: Oh and about letting go..... that is just one of the many lessons life is going to teach you.... and trust me, you are only on the beginning.... Post Reply
View Profile History	Why cant i just let it go Posted : 15 Jul, 2010 07:17 PM I too have had this issue, and the conclusion that I have drawn over these past few yrs is this...if a person decides that they cannot handle not being physical, technically that is their loss and my gain, I refuse to conform to the standards of people, and choose to follow exactly what my God requires of me...granted it is a tough choice and I struggle with it at times, but perseverance just makes me stronger, and I am fully confident that God has the right person waiting for me that will not only understand, but also fully support my decision...hang in there man, it is a tough slog, but the benefits far outweigh anything negative that this world will throw in your face...God sees your patience, and will reward your virtue...some people just do not understand, nor do they wish to walk as God would have them...Fully adhering to His standards...2nd Chronicles 16:9....your fellow brother in Christ.......Jim Post Reply
Jessi713 View Profile History	Why cant i just let it go Posted : 24 Jul, 2010 01:53 AM Keep it as simple as possible with yourself and her. You never know what the situation was. God has a plan and she apparently not part of it when it comes to you (unless God puts her there again). Do not beat yourself up and you do not need reassurance. Be confident in your relationship with God and He will put the right one in your life. Just keep your eyes on Him. Mat 6:33 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why cant i just let it go Posted : 2 Aug, 2010 09:58 AM you are meeting bad girls,,,i hve been rejected a million times,,but i know ny worth,,and i dont have to prove it,,so one day u'll meet her, who will want to talk more,,keep the faith man! Post Reply