Author	Thread: well...
Admin	well... Posted : 7 Jul, 2010 06:19 PM I am thinking of leaving this site. I have not had alot of luck and it seems that anyone I have managed to make contact with has fallen off the face of the earth. And anyone else that i try to make contact with (doesnt matter if it is a wink or message) they usually do not respond. To be honest, it is very discouraging and I am not sure what to do. I figure that this is all happening because of one of two things: 1. God doesnt want me talking to anyone because of current things in my life which will only interfere, or 2. i either try to hard/or am just not like-able. I dunno. I guess that I am just depressed with all of this. I would like to find someone, I am very lonely, but when things do not work out, well, what are you going to do? You cant just shrug it off like it is nothing. It doesnt matter if it is the first reason I mentioned, Im human. I guess I am looking for advice, maybe comfort. I dunno. I guess that I just wanted to say something and be done with it. Post Reply
View Profile History	well... Posted : 7 Jul, 2010 06:41 PM Hey! I know the exact feelings you are experiencing. I'll give the advice given to me with my own twist. First, you have to see how awesome it is that you now know people who are NOT ordained for you. Check them off the list! Second, there is a time and season for everything under the sun. Col 2:10 says that we are complete in Him. He is the answer to your lonliness. When you feel lonely sing praises and let His presence fill you with fullness of joy. Email me anytime, I always am ready for a new friend. Post Reply
View Profile History	well... Posted : 7 Jul, 2010 07:02 PM Hey Noghrit: Only you can know what God is saying to you. Be very, very sure He is telling you to leave --- and it is not your emotions talking. I know the emotions you talk about very well. It is hard to pick yourself up and go on and try again. And again. And again. In my experience, that is what internet dating is about. Babygirl is right -- be happy in who you are, and know that God WILL take care of you. He has already protected you from people that were not in His will for you. So continue seeking, unless the Lord tells you differently. Post Reply
LincolnAdams View Profile History	well... Posted : 7 Jul, 2010 10:06 PM Trust me, it's not you, it's them. The problem is partly due to the makeup of dating sites. If I had to guess the demographics, I'd say it would consist of 70 percent guys, 20 percent women, and 10 percent scammers. Under those circumstances, while the men are sitting on their thumbs waiting for women they've messaged to get back to them, the same women on the other hand are getting 50 messages a day from guys vying for their attention. Even the ugly ones. :winksmile: You've got a lot of competition my brutha. It's given women an overinflated sense of self importance too, because now they can pick and choose, and the more evil ones seem to get off on rejecting guys just for giggles. It's like a power trip, and I've seen it over and over again. So don't feel bad, I personally think this is particularly an issue of living in an Westernized/Americanized culture where people just don't know how to be polite to each other anymore, and has succeeded into turning much of our population into foaming, man hating feminists. If you want a change in tone, I would suggest joining a foreign dating site instead, but make sure you learn how to spot the scammers, and use webcams and Skype whenever possible Once you do that you shouldn't have a problem. And trust me, you will see a night and day difference. I've been looking to the Internet to meet people beyond the borders of my state and country, and I think it's extremely telling that there are women I can go see and fellowship with abroad in other countries from the UK to Australia as brother and sisters in Christ, but I have YET to say the same about American women. I joined this site hoping I'd make enough friends in other states too, but nope. Very telling indeed. Post Reply
View Profile History	well... Posted : 7 Jul, 2010 10:37 PM To be honest I've been thinking about it too. All this unrequited love can't be healthy. I'm pretty sure I'll leave when I get back to the states and can go back to real life. Post Reply
View Profile History	well... Posted : 8 Jul, 2010 11:40 AM "unrequited love" This term stood out while reading your post Brandon. It's a bit of a strong sentiment for someone you are not already in a relationship with. Does that term summarize your approach to women you are interested in? Post Reply
View Profile History	well... Posted : 8 Jul, 2010 12:04 PM Not that I was asking for any advice, but yeah I used to. Post Reply
View Profile History	well... Posted : 8 Jul, 2010 12:09 PM Wait, wait, wait. Unrequited love is when you get feelings for somebody that doesn't reciprocate. Do you think it's an uncommon experience for people on here? People that actually try I mean. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	well... Posted : 8 Jul, 2010 12:13 PM Well, after reading through your profile, you do have quite a lot in the way of specific preferences/requirements. One thing I figured out whilst on here is that your profile should be as much about you and as little about what you're looking for as possible. People that don't think they fit your criteria will not reply, and people that don't like the fact that you have "criteria" will stop reading half-way through your profile(even though they probably do anyway). Leave yourself open. Just let everybody know what you're all about, and don't put limits on things if you don't want to limit the responses/emails you get. You never know. You might find someone that you weren't expecting, and if they don't fit, just be nice and kindly let them know,. But if I were you, I'd still pursue friendships and conversations with everyone just to really find out what you're really attracted to/who's attracted to you. #1 way to get noticed?? Post on the forums. :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	well... Posted : 8 Jul, 2010 12:23 PM Not that I was trying to give you any advice, it sounded like a very strong term. I think we would both be better off if I refrain from asking you any questions. Post Reply
View Profile History	well... Posted : 8 Jul, 2010 01:54 PM @Donthitthatmark: Here is my experience, it doesnt matter what I put in my profile. I have done everything from a simple "I'm a simple guy who is looking for a Christian girl. I like (insert random things). Anything else, ask." to what I have now. What is sad is that while what I have now has worked to some extent, the other didnt work at all. Even the middle ground hasnt done much. Of course, the opposite is true in that when a girl has little to nothing, I wont message them. I want to have something to go on when I message someone. Of course, when a girl has a somewhat detailed profile, and I use some things in it to start a convo, I usually swing and miss. Apparently I keep talking to all of the girls who dont care. It kills me also when the girl says in her profile "I will reply" or something similar...and then they do not. I try to respond at least. Giving them the benefit of the doubt isnt easy though. @everyone else: I appreciate the comments and advice and support. Somethings have changed, but more in a trust God sense. He has been working on me and giving me a little jolt of confidence every now and then just to remind me to trust Him. Post Reply

First

Page : 1 2

Next  5 >>

Last