Author	Thread: Dating
Admin	Dating Posted : 13 May, 2010 09:14 PM So I was wondering why every girl I've met wants to date rather than court. Is it just modern cultural influences or what? Are there any women around who still believe in courting? Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating Posted : 13 May, 2010 09:22 PM Just guessing here, but it may be ...... because she is not sure what that is/means. Also, different cultures may have different definitions of what courting means. It is also an old-fashioned term not commonly used in online dating. My suggestion would be to find someone you can connect with, and after getting to know each other a little you can introduce her to courting as you understand it and want it. And see if she would be willing to to it. Good luck! Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating Posted : 13 May, 2010 09:33 PM hmmm, interesting question. courtship in this day and age would be a most refreshing outlook if i knew what it was. i'm not interested in dating, i prefer getting to know someone before i consider them for a relationship then the dating can officially begin. maybe with an elaboration of courtship i would be better suited to answer if i prefer it. educate me please:dunce: Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating Posted : 13 May, 2010 10:06 PM Well these days folks like to date for a couple months until they feel comfortable enough around the other. Then they like to move in together to see if they are "right" for each other instead of relying on God to show them that. Courtship is the practice of getting to know a romantic interest the honorable way. If both parties agree that they are attracted to the other, the man will go to her father or the head of her house and request permission to court. The courtship can last as long as need be. The whole idea is to spend time around each other WHILE around other people like family and friends. This facilitates honor and integrity. You only spend time with each other around other people, never alone. This is done because you don't just marry the other person, you marry their family as well. They are the ones who know the person you want to marry best. They will be able to tell you/show you if marriage is the wise thing to do. Some courtships last a few months and some last a few years but they always last long enough for God to speak to everyone involved about the intended union. Courtship is based on the assumption that marriage is for life. No do-overs. I really think people date because it's the popular thing to do. No one knows what courting is or what it's for anymore. That and the fact that people can't keep it in their pants. What has happened to us? Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Dating Posted : 13 May, 2010 10:18 PM Courtship just doesn't work well in modern society outside of high school. Once the girl moves off to college and gets out on her own, it's incredibly impractical. Christian dating doesn't force you to compromise your morals, but just works better in a society where children aren't always living right near their parents and parents aren't always as involved as they would need to be in courtship. Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating Posted : 13 May, 2010 10:31 PM As long as permission to court is given from the family, the couple can court around friends if family is not an option. Like double dating but all the time. Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating Posted : 13 May, 2010 10:39 PM that sounds like a caribbean thing! people do that here all the time! i don't believe they know they are doing it, maybe because it's so culturally embedded that it lost it's name... idk. with the exception of the asking the father and the formality it sounds like life on an island.. i think i prefer that.:waving: Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Dating Posted : 13 May, 2010 10:42 PM And most Christian parents have given their daughter to date whoever she chooses. Also, why do you need to be supervised if you're in public? Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating Posted : 13 May, 2010 10:42 PM tulip that is a very sober point. courtship is best suited for less vast geography. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Dating Posted : 13 May, 2010 10:49 PM What if a girl has parents who aren't Christian? What if her parents are both deceased? I definitely don't support dating the secular way, but there IS a middle ground where both people are being smart about what they're doing, honoring God in their relationship, but don't necessarily need to stick to traditional courtship. Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating Posted : 13 May, 2010 10:52 PM Because you're not always going to be in public. What if you want to watch a movie together at home? One thing leads to another ALWAYS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Me personally, I value my reputation and my integrity too much to put myself in that kind of situation. I would never let something like college or geography get in the way. If God is trusted and the couple is committed to the courtship, they are protected. All things work together for the good of those who love Him. - Romans 8:28 Post Reply

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