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10 Signs ALL Women & Men Should Look Out For...
Posted : 8 May, 2010 09:13 PM
Got this from AOL News. Great Article hope everyone women and men reads it, and take heed...:hearts:
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Signs He's Thinking About His Ex
Filed under: Dating Tips
Posted Apr 20th 2010 3:28PM
Print Article by Lyz for AOL Personals
Sure, he's dating you, but does your guy really have a bad case of ex regret? Here is how you know if he's still thinking about his ex.
My first real relationship wasn't really that real. Turns out he was still thinking about his ex and trying to use me to make her jealous. But he played that one wrong. Dating a short girl with glasses doesn't really threaten a tall blond professional volleyball player. In hindsight, I probably knew -- but he had a convertible.
So, how can you make sure you don't end up like me: only in it for the convertible. Here are 10 signs your man is still thinking about his ex.
1. You haven't met his friends
If you've been seeing one another for a while (read: more than five months) and he still hasn't introduced you to his friends, this is a sure sign that he has reservations about going public with your relationship. And while he could have reservations about many things regarding your relationship, if any of these other signs are true, you can suspect it's because he's thinking about his ex.
2. He's still friends with her mom on Facebook
A lot of people are still friends with their ex on Facebook; this happens. But if he is still friends with her mother, aunts, uncles, sisters and brothers, then you know that he still has deep connections with her and is hoping to get back together with her.
3. He lies about talking to her
If there was nothing to hide, why lie? Even if nothing has happened between them and he assures you nothing will, hiding their innocent conversations shows that he is hiding something else. Probably the fact that he is still thinking about her.
4. You're not official
You've met his friends and family, but only as a "friend" -- while privately he tells you otherwise -- something is up. Often, men who are still hung up on their ex want to leave the door open for getting back together with her. If he is just stringing you along without committing, he could still be holding out for his ex.
5. Your dates consist of hanging out alone at his apartment
Sure, he doesn't have to wine and dine you every night. But if you just started dating this guy and every date consists of hanging out at his place, eating pizza and watching movies, something isn't right. The beginning of a relationship is when he is supposed to woo you. If his heart isn't in your dates, his heart probably isn't with you, either.
6. He doesn't want to talk about her
If he is tight-lipped on the subject, but he is still in regular contact with her, your man has a bad case of ex regret. While it's OK if your man doesn't want to open up about his true feelings, especially if it's early in the relationship, if he is still buddies with her but refuses to give you the details, he is hiding something.
7. He talks about her too much
After reading No. 6, you are probably thinking, "make up your mind!" But the truth is, either extreme -- too silent or too chatty -- is a warning sign. The occasional conversation lets you know that he has settled his past relationship as old business. However, if he still brings her up all the time, then he is still thinking about his ex. Remember, even if he is telling you what a conniving jerk she was, if he is constantly hung up on how she treated him or other aspects of their relationship, he is still hung up on her.
8. He gets angry and defensive when you mention her
It's natural to be curious about your lover's ex-lovers; but if you bring her up and he goes on the defensive, something isn't right. Of course, if it's the 40 millionth time you've brought it up, then of course, he might be a little ticked. But if you bring it up and he lashes out at you, he is still thinking about her ... either that or he has some anger issues. If he is serious about your relationship, he'll want to reassure you that you are the only one; he won't respond with anger.
9. He's suspicious of your ex
A lot of people deal with guilt by transferring their feelings onto others (thank you, Dr. Freud). So if he is accusing you of being hung up on your ex (and you aren't) then, your man is thinking about his ex.
10. You hooked up before his relationship was over
This one doesn't seem so intuitive. If he'd leave her for you, then of course he's not thinking about his ex, right? Wrong. If your relationship with him overlapped with his past relationship, then you can conclude that this guy has a hard time wrapping things up and dealing with the issues that arise in his current relationship -- and right now that current relationship is with you.
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