Author	Thread: Returning messages?
PnwFaith View Profile History	Returning messages? Posted : 29 Apr, 2010 03:50 PM I'm just curious to get a woman's perspective on this. Sent a couple messages back and forth with someone here. Nothing serious, just getting to know each others interests and what the other is looking for. Days go by, last msg I sent was read and no response. I'm not sure I get this. Does this mean that you've lost interest? It's just a little confusing to me. If this was an indication that someone had lost interest why would they not just be polite and say so? Post Reply
View Profile History	Returning messages? Posted : 29 Apr, 2010 03:59 PM Well, I've been known to sit around on messages for awhile myself (on here/facebook/email)... Not necessarily because I'm not interested, but because: 1. I'm spending my time in the forums and neglecting my inbox. And by the time I read/respond to stuff in the forums, I don't much feel like responding to my messages. 2. I need some time to "digest" the message and ponder how I ought to reply. (Quick to listen, slow to speak, ya know) 3. There are so many messages piled up that it seems more like a chore to respond than anything else... Not such great excuses... just being honest here, though =) Post Reply
View Profile History	Returning messages? Posted : 29 Apr, 2010 06:13 PM Happens to us too. People are just different, not everyone knows email etiquette apparently. Dont worry about it, just hang out here, laugh at all of us and join in. Post Reply
Elisa View Profile History	Returning messages? Posted : 29 Apr, 2010 08:03 PM Sometimes I get swamped with work or school and don't have time to be on here. No matter that I've been corresponding...responsibilities just will not permit it for a bit. Other times, my area loses internet for days at a time. It is all part of living in the middle of blessed nowhere. While the lady could be blowing you off...give her a chance. It could be simply that life is happening. :) Good luck and blessings, Elisa Post Reply
View Profile History	Returning messages? Posted : 29 Apr, 2010 10:44 PM I agree with the ladies comments, but I also think that God leas us all in diferent ways. His timing is everything. Maybe that door is closed & the one He wants you to walk thru, you wouldnt if continuing to chat with that person. Keep the faith God has a plan for all of us. Blessings! Post Reply
ellicapp View Profile History	Returning messages? Posted : 30 Apr, 2010 08:36 AM I sometimes take my time in returning messages because I have a toddler and he distracts me. Other times it is that I am not interested, but if we had been chatting back and forth, and then I stopped responding, I was probably just too busy...that is me though. There are some people out in this world who are scared of hurting peoples feelings and feel like no action is better than one that might hurt someones feelings. This is immature, and if someone is going to act that way toward you, then you deserve better and should move on. Post Reply
View Profile History	Returning messages? Posted : 30 Apr, 2010 09:51 AM I respectfully disagree on the 'too busy' thing. i mean i understand sometimes the tempo picks up and you can't always get back to people right away, but at the sametime you make time for what you want to make time for. i work over 40 hrs a week, i go to school, and have other errands i gotta stay on top of and i still make look for or take the time to write people or write back. i'm not saying everybody should be like me, but if your more interested in staying busy than putting in a little effort to make a potential friend or relationship, why even bother being on a dating site? Post Reply
PnwFaith View Profile History	Returning messages? Posted : 30 Apr, 2010 09:58 AM I have to agree with you Remp. Especially if the other person was the contacted you first. (Which is my case, lol) I understand busy, but if someone is online everyday for days after they read your message it's pretty obvious they don't want to talk. I just think it would be nice if they would say so and not leave you hanging. Post Reply
View Profile History	Returning messages? Posted : 30 Apr, 2010 12:14 PM i agree with you 100% it has happened to me and I'm sure to all of us. your not alone ;) Post Reply
View Profile History	Returning messages? Posted : 30 Apr, 2010 02:16 PM I agree wiht you Pnw. That has happened to em alot. I want to actaully take the time to get to know someone an after a few messages, they just dont talk to me anymore. And in the same case they are almost always on. I have wondered if its becasue we havent made a move and they thought we were dragging it out too much for them? I dont know. I just wish they could atleast follow some email etiquite and, if they arent interested, just say so. I'm a straight foward guy, wouldnt hurt me any. If its not Gods choice for me, then I just have to move on. Post Reply
View Profile History	Returning messages? Posted : 30 Apr, 2010 08:02 PM It seems to be an acceptable way to "toss" people aside in today's largely on-line dating world. It is rude and hurtful. The same thing has happened to me. You just have to shrug and move on, thanking God he protected you from further involvement with that person. Post Reply

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