Praise The LORD And SAVIOUR JESUS CHRIST And GOD Bless you saints of GOD. I already know what I believe concerning this situation, but I ask your opinion. Here's the situation.
A man's wife once met a man on the internet whom she was about to go on a date with but it didn't happen. They both lived in different states and still do. In the process of time, both got married to different persons. One day the husband of this woman who was once about to date this other man, but didn't, found his wife on the internet playing "scrabble" with this man. She explained who the man was to her present husband, but initially seem to be playing with this man kinda under cover (not open to her husband).
The husband noticed that his wife and this man were playing "scrabble" late at night, way after midnight, in the day, ect. The husband took issue with this and wanted the contact to cease, because of the possibility of the evil that could happen.
The wife acted as if she would stop, but continued. The husband then contacted this man and requested that he ceased to interact with his wife. The man refused stating that as long as the wife was o.k with it, he would continue. This began to cause problems in the marriage, but the interaction continued.
The husband then reached out to the man's wife and explained this situation. She didn't contact him back. All of this was done online and nothing by phone nor in person. Now the man whom this husband's wife was about to date before, but didn't became very upset that this husband had contacted his wife and demanded that this husband not contact his wife (though he was still in contact with the wife of this husband). After going back and forth with verbal exchanges, the man stated that he would cease contact with this woman whom he was once about to date, but didn't. This woman who is now married. After some weeks, the husband to whom this woman is now married done some snooping and noticed that the interaction continued. He became so stressed over this that he began to have pains in his heart area and went to the hospital. His relationship with GOD was strained. He became angry that GOD had let all of this happen and didn't stop it as he had ask GOD to do. His wife still refuses to cease interaction with this man, insisting that nothing is going on. But the husband feels disrespected that the woman wouldn't honor his request. Now the woman is saying that she wishes to have nothing to do with her husband. Still refusing to cease communication with this other man and now (she states) his wife also.
Question:
Is the present husband overreacting?
Is the wife and this other man in the wrong?
How should the husband handle this, as he still loves his wife?
I would like to comment after I've heard your viewpoints. Thanks and GOD Bless.
I don't think the husband is overreacting at all, I believe it's his right to ask his wife to stop something that doesn't make him feel comfortable, especially that ceasing scrabble with that guy won't really affect her.
The scripture says " Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. "
The Bible is "very clear" in that passage of Ephesians 5: 21-24
* Is the wife and this other man in the wrong?
I can't say neither they're wrong or right, but we shouldn't give the adversary a ground, or tools to attack for he is" as roaring lion walketh about seeking whom he may devour".
* How should the husband handle this, as he still loves his wife?
I think he should pray & ask other saints to pray for his situation with his wife & the other guy that was suppose to date her before. He could also ask leaders from the church to support him & try to discuss with her all the facts about her communication with that guy & express his concerns to convince her.
I just wonder why would someone make his/her spouse suffer to that extend over such a trifle thing? I mean what's the point of voluntarily creating chances for troubles??
Praise the LORD And SAVIOUR JESUS CHRIST. Thanks for all of your replies.
Simply put, a woman is to obey her husband and love him. Walking in these two would have ended this issue before it became an issue. Yet a man should never allow anyone to come in between him and GOD.
Be blessed saints of GOD, In The Wonderful And Glorious NAME of our LORD JESUS The CHRIST, our GOD And SAVIOUR For Ever and Ever. Amen.
The woman lost faith/trust in her husband long before she considered dating this other man. Then to continue her relationship with him only validated her distrust.
The woman needs to be open with her husband about her issues with him and her husband, if he truly wants to keep his marriage, needs to be open to hear her concerns. Together they have to be willing to work on the marriage.
Vice versa for the other couple. The scrabble playing husband and the unknowing wife.
I agree with Phoenixlady. Yes to them all. But I am under the impression that they "almost dated" before she married her husband, is that correct? So if that is the case he over reacted by asking her not to have contact. I think males and females can be strictly friends. However her response was disrespectful and she should have respected her husband's wishes by stopping contact.
If they were married when she almost dated this other man I think the husband's wishes were more than fair.
Either way they should seek counseling from their pastor. I also think they both let their relationship with God falter, thus allowing temptation and deceit into their marriage. Sometimes it is our relationship with God that has faltered, and we have to fix that before we are able to fix anything else. He uses bad things in our lives to bring us closer to Him.
the battle is spiritual not physical.leave the battle to jesus,his wife is under spiritual slavery that wants to brake his marriage.the man should fast and pray to seek jesus intrvention,the wife was spiritualy lued into it and now she cannot come out of it it only Jesus who can deliver her,please man pray fot the deliverance of your wife from principalities and rulers of darkness,please jesus save that marriage
