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jimmypeters27

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Posted : 10 Mar, 2010 10:58 AM

Hello ladies. I want to ask you what you really want in a Christian man. What is the most important and how could a man impress you with his first email to get you curious to get to know him?

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Posted : 10 Mar, 2010 01:09 PM

Haha, you have like 8 views and no one has given you an answer...very interesting!!! I too am interested in the answer. Good post!!!

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Posted : 10 Mar, 2010 01:18 PM

well, as far as email contact goes, it must reflect someone who read my profile (if there were something to real :laugh:) and show that there was some genuine reason that they decided to write. sometimes men are guilty of casting a wide net and it shows in detatched and generic email contact. advice? it must come from within, only you can know what drew you to write that email... so dont hide it when you decide to! some women are actually interested in good conversation.

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Posted : 10 Mar, 2010 01:27 PM

A few things that I am (or was) looking for...

1. A man of God, who would be the spiritual leader of the family

2. A man of integrity, who is honest and can be trusted without exception

3. A man of good repute, who has good standing among friends, family, co-workers, and authorities.

4. A man of kindness, who would make a good husband and father.

5. A man of wisdom, who is not afraid to make decisions and do what is best for his family.



Now, for that first email... It shouldn't be too long, but it should be very specific. You might say what you liked about my profile that set it apart from others. You should tell me what you are looking for in a relationship (wife, girlfriend, friend, distraction, fun, etc.) and ask me what I'm looking for in a relationship. Tell me about yourself beyond what is in your profile. Don't give me a laundry list of your faults and baggage, but do be honest with me. Don't give me your wish-list of what you hope to get in a girl. Ask me a couple questions to get to know me better, but don't get TOO personal in the first email.



I hope this helps!

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Posted : 10 Mar, 2010 06:39 PM

I agree with BC.



I would also have to add, and even though I am only 18, I am too looking for a life-long partner.



But to add, Someone who shares my values and it on the same spiritual level as I am.



Everything has to be balanced. Physical can NOT outweigh the emotional. Vice Versa. Spiritual can NOT outweight the emotional.

It all has to have a balance in the relationship, as having too much of one of these, can end a relationship, or turn into something that isn't the best of decisions.



I hope that little paragraph made sense. I tried to explain it just as I remember it being said to me.



Even though I'm younger, I hope I helped as well.

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Posted : 10 Mar, 2010 07:45 PM

For myself, I want a man who has a deep faith, participates in church (not just attending Sunday sevices), reads his Bible every day, and prays. Some of these profiles --- these men sound like they are Biblical scholars and have these long quotations from scriptures! Yikes! too intimidating for me!



The other ladies answered the question about the email. Specifics - yes. Ask an open-ended question - yes.

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Posted : 11 Mar, 2010 06:04 AM

Ladies...



...taking notes!



Jumpshigh...what was that middle part? The one about Vice in verses?

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Posted : 11 Mar, 2010 06:53 AM

Be yourself! That's always a good way to impress someone...and if they're not impressed? You probably shouldn't like them anyway.





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Posted : 11 Mar, 2010 06:54 AM

There are a couple things that I could never overlook is that he has to be able to teach me and of course be in alignment with God's word. Respect is a must and he needs to be healed or well on his way from past relationships and any emotional difficulties that would hinder something new.

Fruit of the spirit in his life.

I think people that say they know what they're looking could be missing it and also be missing out on something great under their nose because they dont fit into the box they've created.

This is coming from a woman that is a little older and has been single awhile and honestly every time I think I have it figured out what exactly I need/want in a husband the Lord just comes in and makes me feel like I'm putting limits on Him and all those things I thought I figured out mean absolutely nothing.

There, hope that helps.

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Posted : 11 Mar, 2010 07:42 AM

Arch.



I learned this from my youth pastor, which why I say it might not apply and I may not be explaining it exactly right.



There are three main levels in every relationship you come in contact with.



Physical

Spiritual

Emotional



Oh course. Physical cannot outweigh the Emotional. Or vice versa.

Emotional CAN outweigh the Physical, but...I think that would be kind of hard in my opinion (I do NOT mean be a shallow person!!)

And Of course Spiritual cannot just sit there underneath all of these.



It all has to balance. Spiritual intertwines with the Emotional which intertwines with the Physical.



It's like on movies when you see someone with "powers" mess with the weather nature.

It all has to balance. If you mess with a single part of it TOO much. It can lead to a bad thing.





And. I don't remember the ending part. I don't know if he said Spritiual could be above all of it.

But I also don't see why it couldn't.





And Once Again, I may have not explained that very well at all.





But that's that :)

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Posted : 11 Mar, 2010 09:40 AM

Creative is a good one with me, the way of wooing me.

I want to be in a state of heart and mind like



You would be living like it was the 1st kiss, the 1st time for every thing that drew you together. Yes I love to be the main character in my own love story.... :)



Even though its not a perfect world I would like to be in love as if it never mattered what place you were in and facing in life.

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