Author	Thread: Would you accept/take your husband back whose been unfaithful & still is?
patou View Profile History	Would you accept/take your husband back whose been unfaithful & still is? Posted : 1 Mar, 2010 11:06 PM Come on sisters, I need your help!!! :prayingf: Ida :purpleangel: Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you accept/take your husband back whose been unfaithful & still is? Posted : 2 Mar, 2010 05:48 AM Hi, Patou People cheat for different reasons. Lack of integrity, being possessed by a lustful spirit, lack of commitment etc... There are other reasons and sometimes they suffer from a combination. Regardless of the reason, cheating is an selfish act. Please don't get me wrong. I admire the courage that wives and husbands have when their spouse has strayed and they both commit to work through it. But to continually be unfaithful in my opinion, is not love. Love does not seek its own. Love does not hurt. A husband is supposed to love his wife as Christ loves the church, willing to lay their life down if they had to. Marriage is a representation of the covenant God has with us, His children. Not committing adultery is basic, one of the 10 commandments. It is so grievous, that Christ names it as the reason for divorce to be lawful in God's eyes. So, to answer your question, if my husband strayed once, it would REALLY depend on the circumstances and how I would feel about it at that time. But if I had a spouse who was continually unfaithful, I would take my 'out' provided for me in the Word and I would show him the door. Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you accept/take your husband back whose been unfaithful & still is? Posted : 2 Mar, 2010 10:28 AM Never, he needs to get help. He could possibly be dealing with a spirit and he wont win unless he takes care of the stronghold by going through inner healing/deliverance. Riveoflife Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you accept/take your husband back whose been unfaithful & still is? Posted : 2 Mar, 2010 10:51 AM Hi, Riveroflfe! Absolutely! All of what you say would go without saying. If a husband and wife are to try to reconcile after one had strayed, it is extremely challenging to repair the damage done. But I have seen it happen. Part of the counseling is dealing with the root reasons of why it happened and dealing with it, flesh, spiritual or whatever it is. I can speak on it because my ex-husband strayed. I chose not to take him back even though he wanted to reconcile. Because of the circumstances, I chose to use my 'out'. I have not regretted it because he to this day refuses to deal with himself. I believe everyone has a choice how they will live their life. I choose a man who will be faithful!:rolleyes: Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you accept/take your husband back whose been unfaithful & still is? Posted : 2 Mar, 2010 11:17 AM yep and you deserve it! we all do ;) Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you accept/take your husband back whose been unfaithful & still is? Posted : 2 Mar, 2010 03:56 PM patou/ida I wouldn't take a man back. One thing that I want to mention is that some woman do is that they can be in denial or taking the blame for the man cheating. I think this type of commitment isn't love and someone knowing what faithful means. You can be lead into taking on the whole responsibility of someone else wrong choice if you don't watch it. If their are kids involved this is a double reason some woman take it to heart to give in to staying with the commitment with someone who cheats. I think if a man is so committed to go behind your back and do this then he isn't willing to work things out with the relationship any ways. Tell me Why is it all of a sudden so hard to communicate with your wife and mother to their children? I have seen and heard both men and women dump a perfect good relationship over nothing. NO one seems to know how to work on the spark that the flame has been put out but can go to another woman or man and do it. Why? and How is that? I know that the honeymoon can be over and its not a bed of roses but when you choose to Marry you should really think about the actions that is not going to possibly stay the same. You have to be willing to progress with each other. Just my 2 senses... Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you accept/take your husband back whose been unfaithful & still is? Posted : 2 Mar, 2010 04:02 PM NOPE !!! Given ~ wise words lady...xo Post Reply
patou View Profile History	Would you accept/take your husband back whose been unfaithful & still is? Posted : 2 Mar, 2010 04:05 PM Thanks sisters (1babygirl & Riveroflife) for all your input. Please pray for him.:prayingf: Your sis in Christ, Ida Post Reply
patou View Profile History	Would you accept/take your husband back whose been unfaithful & still is? Posted : 2 Mar, 2010 04:40 PM And to both of you (Givenlife & Godsjude),thanks! Ida :waving: Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you accept/take your husband back whose been unfaithful & still is? Posted : 2 Mar, 2010 07:05 PM I would not. Not, that is, until he had gotten help. But he couldn't live with me until he had, and it would take a long time to build up the trust again, for me to get to the point where I would live under the same roof. Post Reply
patou View Profile History	Would you accept/take your husband back whose been unfaithful & still is? Posted : 4 Mar, 2010 10:50 PM Thanks godslamb for replying. God bless all of you my dear sisters in Christ! :angel: Ida :waving: Post Reply

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