Author	Thread: So how much $ do you want from a guy
Jesusiseverything View Profile History	So how much $ do you want from a guy Posted : 29 Jan, 2010 07:54 PM I had a horrific business/ministry failure 4 years ago that wiped out my credit and put me in debt. Now, I am trying to start a new ministry but I have not yet had much of an income. How much $$ do you think a man should earn and how good of credit should he have? When do you think someone should date in a situation like this? I take the verse "He who does not provide for his own house.... very seriously. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	So how much $ do you want from a guy Posted : 29 Jan, 2010 09:23 PM Well, to be honest, exact amount of income doesn't matter so much. Whether or not a man can provide sufficiently for his family matters a lot. As for debt, I personally would be hesitant to seriously date or marry a man who has a lot of debt. I understand bad things happen. But if I marry someone and finances are combined, their debt becomes my debt. If they bail on it, I still have to pay for it. The only way I'd marry someone with debt is if the debt somehow stays entirely in his name, not mine. I don't think a marriage should have to operate that way, though. It's not healthy. I guess as long as you are up front and honest about your debt, and as long as you have a plan to pay it off, you are fine to go ahead and date. Post Reply
View Profile History	So how much $ do you want from a guy Posted : 30 Jan, 2010 10:29 AM Hello JIE, Without knowing your whole situation, I think that perhaps you've answered your own question. If being able to provide for your house is very important to you, and you aren't able to do that right now, perhaps just finding some women friends would be best for you right now. That way you aren't feeling any added pressures. If you were to find a Godly woman in the process, I'm sure she'd wait until you got your house prepared before beginning a relationship. I agree with what bcpianogal said for the most part. For me, it would depend on what the debt was for. (Ihope this doesn't sound shallow) For example, if the debt was for a house, farm, vehicles, etc I would not mind. But if it were credit cards or some other debt from a previous marriage, I'd rather it be taken care of first so he and I could start off fresh; that would almost be like bringing leftover baggage. This was a tough question to answer without the benefit of hearing voice or seeing expressions. I hope I don't come across as shallow. I've put the same restraints on myself. With love, T Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	So how much $ do you want from a guy Posted : 30 Jan, 2010 11:35 AM Yeah...I don't have much debt but I do have a problem with this myself. I just feel like I need to be able to offer stability and security to someone before I ask them to tie themselves to me forever. I know money and possessions are not important...and maybe it's some worldly mindset that has a hold on me, but it just feels like something I have to do before I'm allowed to ask someone to share my life... :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	So how much $ do you want from a guy Posted : 1 Feb, 2010 03:23 PM Guys got money..????...Where..????...jus kiddin round... Well...im not lookin for a mans $$$ cuz all the $$$ belongs ta GOD. An if a man has Debt concerning a Ministry bout GOD than the man or others purty much didnt use GODs $$$ very well. But ima purty sure if ya ask GOD for a loan to clean up the Debt, He'd probly loan it ta ya. But youd havta pay it back with (Interest)...Cuz the only thing GOD gives (Free of Charge) without expectin anything in return is HIS son, JESUS. Ya know...Grace. GODs Riches at Christs Expense...So the (Interest) on the loan...well...ya gota work for that...cuz nothin else in this world is free... May GOD pour out His Blessins upon You an your Ministry. And also help ya with the Debt an bring ya a Good Women ta help ya with it all...luv ya..xo Post Reply
View Profile History	So how much $ do you want from a guy Posted : 1 Feb, 2010 05:11 PM i'd like my future husband to make almost as much as i make in a salary, except if he has a job that is a service to society. For example he is a teacher, minister, non-profit manager, etc. What you probably don't know or haven't experienced is that when the wife makes more money than the husband, it affects his status for himself. He will blame the wife for expecting more money from him and not see himself coasting along as the main reason. This position has more merit for the older generation. The younger generation doesn't appear to have the same ties to spouse roles, especially i've notice since i've been getting interest from 28 - 40+ yr old (yes, some bit too young for me!). Best approach to dating is to be straight forward about your finances and your goals. She will be considerate and willing to go dutch. Plus, you can figure out ways to go on dates that requires little money... cities offer plenty of "free" stuff to do that can be easily planned. Also, pb & banana sandwiches are nice surprise for the bag lunch. Post Reply
kaylaj View Profile History	So how much $ do you want from a guy Posted : 5 Feb, 2010 03:17 PM For me it really doesn't matter how much money a guy has as long as he is ambitious and willing to work hard at what he wants to achieve. Also if he doesn't mind if his wife makes more money than him and don't make it an issue. In a family, both spouses must be able to contribute financially to the household, it doesn't matter to me how much but as long as both can contribute. To be frank, I would think twice about a guy who as occurred a lot of debt ( that suggest to me that he might not be wise with money) and that could pose a problem in the long run. Post Reply
View Profile History	So how much $ do you want from a guy Posted : 5 Feb, 2010 04:12 PM dear kayla, welcome to the forums.. ole cattle Post Reply