Author	Thread: Interested
jimmypeters27 View Profile History	Interested Posted : 13 Jan, 2010 05:03 AM Why is it that when a man attempts to communicate he is ignored? What is it that you would like to see in the first email to know whether or not you would like to talk to the man who initiated contact? Post Reply
Hayley2020 View Profile History	Interested Posted : 13 Jan, 2010 04:28 PM Hey! Honestly, if a man sends me a message and just says " hey, how are you" or "hey how is your day going" or anything along those lines, I find that to be REALLY boring and it totally turns me off to even replying. I like it when people that are interested will at least send me a short message! Hope everything works out for you Post Reply
View Profile History	Interested Posted : 13 Jan, 2010 05:36 PM I agree with Hayley. Leave an open-ended question, or comment on something specific in her profile or pictures. Give her something to respond to. The only time I never reply to a man is 1) when he does not have a profile picture or 2) when he is obviously outside the areas I'm looking for. For instance, if a 26 year old left me a message I would not respond. Or if someone living in another country left me a message I would also not respond. Sorry about your experiences! I don't know if it helps, but it has happened to me many times, also. (With men, I mean) :laugh: Post Reply
GraceMae View Profile History	Interested Posted : 13 Jan, 2010 07:09 PM Godslamb... I'm with you on what to include in that email. I feel a little different about responding though. I make it a point to respond to anyone who sends me a message. It's a courtesy thing for me. It may not be the response they expect, but I feel every first initial message does deserve a reply. That is, unless I get a dis-respectful message that doesn't warrant a response. :winksmile: :excited: You know what I mean. I've been fortunate so far in not having to be blatently rude with anyone yet. ~ GraceMae Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Interested Posted : 13 Jan, 2010 07:42 PM I agree with Hayley. When the message has no substance, I am less likely to respond with interest. If the message is "Hi how are you," I might respond with "Fine, thanks, and you?" If the answer I get back is "I'm ok. Can we talk?"...well, I don't have time for conversations like that. (By the way, that is not from an actual conversation I've had; I made it up. I've had very similar conversations on here, though!) If a message is antagonistic in nature (that doesn't happen often on here, but it does on another site I'm on), I usually ignore it. If the sender persists, I'll respond kindly but firmly and let the sender know that he will be blocked the next time he sends a message like that. :angeldevil: A good first email will likely list the things that the sender liked about my profile...it will be detailed, so I know the sender actually read my profile. The sender will tell me a bit about himself that is not necessarily in his profile. He will also ask me a couple questions that are interesting and beg to be answered. A first email like that is much more likely to make me interested, assuming the profile is also interesting! Post Reply
View Profile History	Interested Posted : 14 Jan, 2010 12:02 AM Wow. This actually helps me out a little. My main issue is: when sending the first message, what kinda questions to ask about. Usually, the females on this site are pretty specific in their profiles. While this is useful in finding someone whom you can relate to, it makes finding a good question to start with quite a bit harder. For this reason, I keep my profile short and sweet. I want to have stuff to talk about later. Should I NOT do this? Garrett Post Reply
Peters View Profile History	Interested Posted : 24 Feb, 2010 07:35 PM It also depends on if you are going to get a reply lol. So if you spend time typing away and get no reply, what is the point? Post Reply
View Profile History	Interested Posted : 7 Mar, 2010 11:15 AM I'm in the opposite situation - the guy will start the conversations, and then expect us ladies to keep it going. Which is fine - to an extent. I don't mind keeping the questions/conversation flowing, but I think the guys should be able to hold their own as well. :) Post Reply