This is already based on the assumption that you want a husband who is a genuine man of faith, is completely sold out to Jesus, has a strong foundation on God's Word, and desires to live for His Glory.
With that said, how do you weigh these elements?
1. The amount of money in his bank account
2. Worldly status, position, power (i.e. job/career/vocation)
In all honesty Brother, I think we are all here for it is important to find someone of faith, beyond that it is a balance in all things that speaks to their walk with the Lord. The way we live our lives speaks to this for the Bible tells us to get out of debt, it also encourages us to give to the poor, which is why most Christians are not necessarily rich people because they are generous people, but I don't know too many people that are real quick to want to date someone that has a good healthy six figure debt or more either? How about you brother, if the girl you have an eye one were to come clean and admit she is going through bankruptcy for the third time are you going to think twice about trusting her with your checkbook?
The same is true of looks. How do they carry the gifts the Lord gave them? That topic has been addressed many times on this forum, or maybe even undressed a few times on this forum. But it is more than they clothes. Often times people use their looks to charm others, to manipulate them to their way of thinking or do do something for them, not very Godly. Yet there are also many wonderful Christian people that are naturally beautiful, who dress modestly, and are often shy and do not try to draw forth attention.
I forget the other categories you listed, but does it matter? Balance is part of being a Christian, and we are given discernment to protect us so we don't get involved with someone that professes faith but carries a shallow self-centered nature that does not speak of an effort to walk in faith.
I have met many alcoholics that love God, but I would never consider marrying one of them that is not in recovery. I have already been down that long road when I was young and naive. The Lord has given me discernment enough to see that is not something I am ready to do again. Any addict that is not in recovery is not someone I would consider joining my life with. Is that shallow? No, its discernment. It is about balance.
We all look for what we feel is balance, don't you think? Balance might mean different things to different people, but I think we all seek that.
This is already based on the assumption that you want a husband who is a genuine man of faith, is completely sold out to Jesus, has a strong foundation on God's Word, and desires to live for His Glory.
With that said, how do you weigh these elements?
Oky Doky�.
1. The amount of money in his bank account
Hummm�Well if he has some that�s good. If he don�t, I�m pretty sure he will figure out something.
Refer to #5 mentally.
2. Worldly status, position, power (i.e. job/career/vocation)
Hummm�.if his status is Worldly, then how strong is his foundation in God ?
Job- depends. Does he need one ? I might just have some Honey-Do�s for him�lol
3. Physical appearance
Well�all that matters there is he be attractive in my eyes�
4. Common goals/dreams for the future
A definite must have. Evenly yoked. On the same page. Mutual Purpose.
I'm not sure this is so much a survey on marriage as a survey on what people look for in the opposite sex.
First and foremost: what does God say to me when I look at hiim and read his profile? Does he mention specific spiritual things about his beliefs and walk? Am I prompted to talk to him? Pray about it?
On to your questions:
1. The amount of money in his bank account
NOPE. Money comes and goes. As long as he is wise with whatever money he has.
2. Worldly status, position, power (i.e. job/career/vocation)
NOPE
3. Physical appearance
Yes. But my #1 (above) always trumps whatever may catch my eye. It is by no means the final determinator.
I believe that common goals are most important-with those goals being the desire to seek after the Lord and live our lives in accordance to His will.
The next would be compatability, which goes hand in hand with common goals.
From the choices, physical appearance would be next, although it doesn't matter what you look like. The way you love the Lord and the way you love me would cause the your attractiveness to grow.
As long as he honors God with whatever he makes - pays his tithe first, then his bills, then is wise with the rest - then that's all that matters. I really don't care if he makes very little or a lot.
2. Worldly status, position, power (i.e. job/career/vocation)
As long as he knows his calling and is atively pursing that. But his life needs to be balanced. BALANCE is the key word for most issues. If he spends too much time at work, then our relationship will eventually crumble. If he doesn't work enough, same thing.
3. Physical appearance
He needs to take care of what he's got. That's what I'm striving to do as well. His appearance should show that he's confident, but not arrogant.
4. Common goals/dreams for the future
There are some goals/dreams that definitely need to line up and others that are flexible. For example, I'm looking for a man who places high value in attending a church regularly and participating in the body of Christ. But as for where we live, I could live just about anywhere and still establish my career, so I'm ready to follow my husband wherever he wants to go.
We definitely need to connect very deeply in all of these areas, but I don't expect it to happen overnight. These things take time. In the beginning, two people need to connect on surface issues and then as they get to know each other, they will discover whether or not they connect on a deeper level in these areas.
