Author	Thread: Why do women tend to overlook the good ones?
Admin	Why do women tend to overlook the good ones? Posted : 15 Dec, 2009 12:15 AM My question is simple really."Why do most women look past the honest, kind, average looking and most true hearted men?" What I mean is this: It has been my experience in asking women out and getting turned down only to find out that she past me up for some no good drug addict drunk. Or some abusing, controlling freak. Or someone 20 years younger and far too immature. Why do women do this? I am honest, hard working, very kind, very passionate and romantic. I just don't get it. My final question to you women is this: Are looks, money, roughness and immaturity that much of an attraction for you? I may not be the best looking man in the world but I do know where my heart is and that to me is what counts most. Thank you for reading. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why do women tend to overlook the good ones? Posted : 15 Dec, 2009 07:06 PM I don't think there is a "pat" answer to this. Your post could be written by me, about me, asking guys "WHY?" Men do this, too. Why they do..... can be anything from not learning from past lessons, to not listening to God, to poor self esteem, to peer pressure..... to just about anything. I don't have anything more profound or helpful than that on your question. I think men and women have been asking this of each other for centuries. Post Reply
Tarasye View Profile History	Why do women tend to overlook the good ones? Posted : 15 Dec, 2009 08:51 PM Good answer, Godslamb, and to that I might add that evil is enticing and people are easily led astray. We are our own worst enemies, and that is not gender specific. Tarasye Post Reply
southerngrace09 View Profile History	Why do women tend to overlook the good ones? Posted : 16 Dec, 2009 12:22 PM Im the girl who used to be that way. I guess to be honest with you I am still attracted to the "bad boy" the most, but ive learned to stay away. In my opinion we look for these type of guys because we want to be the reason they change. Its an exciting love story. Which all women long for. As much as we try to change them, it just doesnt happen. Post Reply
tristan07 View Profile History	Why do women tend to overlook the good ones? Posted : 16 Dec, 2009 04:30 PM Take it from a *bad boy*. we aren't all we're cracked up to be. There is a reason we are the way we are... and change needs to come from God not woman. I am wild as can be, which is often attractive at first, but gets tiring when it doesnt settle down. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why do women tend to overlook the good ones? Posted : 29 Dec, 2009 02:53 PM I am just curious as to what kind of woman you are attracted to; because you might be asking the wrong one(s) out on a date.. :angel:. On a serious note, most men that fall into the category you described do not 'come off' that way at first. These men tend to be deceptive and do not display their 'true colors' until the women are so far gone in the relationship (emotionally) and then it can be very difficult for them to walk away. I agree, some women are drawn to the 'bad boy' type and in most cases they are looking for protection and believe it can be had from these kind of relationships. I was once in a relationship where there was a lot of control and abuse issues (which were not detected in the early stage) and after years of investing in the relationship it took me quite a while to walk away. Many times I have been asked why did I stay so long in the relationship and I must say that many times the abuser/control freak will play on your emotion saying that he or she is sorry and need one more chance, but there comes a time when that one more chance becomes one too many. I encourage you to continue to pray for direction and be patient as a man who finds a wife finds a good thing! Post Reply
Peaceful_Angel View Profile History	Why do women tend to overlook the good ones? Posted : 6 Apr, 2010 10:24 AM WOW I didnt get past the 1st few lines and i had to reply to this. I have been one of those women who past the good guy for the drug or drinking bad boy kind, I am here to tell you GIVE ME THE GOOD GUY honest hardworking and hardloving kind of guy PLEASEEEEEEEEEEEEE. I have made me share of mistakes in the past and i have so learned from them. Can I please get a good guy for once, one who is willing to take it one day at a time, to listen, to show he cares, and to be faithful honest and trustworthy PLEASEEEEEEEEEE. Liz Post Reply
hachaliah08 View Profile History	Why do women tend to overlook the good ones? Posted : 23 Sep, 2012 04:41 PM I think that reason is fairly simply, not a complicated issue at all. God made us all different, where as all see beauty differently; what we are looking for in people varies, etc. I believe that the Lord made us so uniquely different because of the desires of the different people. I also believe that as we grow, or go through the various seasons of life, our desires have to tendency to change. So that beauty or bad person image in which we looked for in our youth, we understand that in order to make it in life, that more is needed that the superficial things. But there is that small group that have a tendency to stay a child even past their 40's and 50's. Post Reply