Author	Thread: For Some Reason....
Admin	For Some Reason.... Posted : 28 Nov, 2009 06:09 PM ...I have the hardest time trying to get girls to notice me, and I don't really understand why. I'm on a college campus of nearly 20,000 people, and I don't ever notice girls looking at me. I don't necessarily think I'm an ugly guy. I try to run 2 miles a day and try to stay in shape because I'm studying to be a police investigator. But yet, I don't ever get looked at by the fairer sex. Is it the way I dress? The way carry myself? My voice sound funny or something? Do I smell? What is it that gets the attention of girls, because I'm in desperate need of it. - Kyle Post Reply
View Profile History	For Some Reason.... Posted : 28 Nov, 2009 07:39 PM Dear Rodey, From a maternal standpoint I can assure you that you are indeed being noticed. It's just the challenge of determining who's looking. Perhaps if you broaden your horizons a bit, check out the somewhat more reserved lady whose killer sense of humor is masked by shyness, or consider a date with someone who seems more like a sister than a passion goddess - you may be in for a serendipitous find. Bless you in your search! P Post Reply
View Profile History	For Some Reason.... Posted : 28 Nov, 2009 11:23 PM I personally think woman have this kinda super natural power faster than a man's eye can detect when checking out a fella Kyle ...lol Rest assured you're being noticed brother, just keep trusting the Lord and being yourself, I doubt you need to do anything more than that to catch their eye. Jim Post Reply
View Profile History	For Some Reason.... Posted : 29 Nov, 2009 01:36 AM Hey Kyle. It may seem that you're not getting noticed by any girls, but I'm sure you are. I'm on campus, too, and I know that I notice many guys...however, I can be a bit shy, so it could be hard for a guy to even detect that I'm looking at him. Also, some women may not openly "flirt" with you or give you any signs that they are interested. Are you involved in any activities on campus, like clubs? It's a lot easier to get to know people there. Be Blessed Post Reply
View Profile History	For Some Reason.... Posted : 29 Nov, 2009 02:26 PM Kyle: I agree with the other posts -- you ARE noticed. You just have to pick up on who is noticing. And they may be shy enough not to let it be obvious. God will guide you. As for you dress, etc. It is up to you whether to make changes there. Ask a good friend to give you advice, and pray for God's guidance. Just keep bein' the person God made you to be. There is a lady out there just waiting for someone like you. Post Reply
View Profile History	For Some Reason.... Posted : 29 Nov, 2009 03:12 PM Thanks everyone. I AM involved in several things on campus. I'm a member of my dorm's governing body, a member of student conduct board (basically the prosecution team for people who get caught with drugs, alcohol, and weapons on campus), and I'm in 2 ministries. Still, I don't ever seem to pique the interest of girls. I know that what sets me apart from most guys that I see with girlfriends is the fact that I'm a bit more 'mellow' than most. I'm not one with a crazy/wacky/zany sense of humor. My humor is very quiet compared to most 19/20 year old guys. Is being mature a "turn off"? I kind of grew up quickly, and I use my head before anything else. I've noticed that being like that is a bit of a rarity on the campus of a state-funded school. - Kyle Post Reply
View Profile History	For Some Reason.... Posted : 29 Nov, 2009 03:18 PM Ask a lady out to eat at a nice place.Volunteer to take her to church.Sometimes the guy has to make the 1st move.Dennis Post Reply
Prov31_Lady View Profile History	For Some Reason.... Posted : 30 Nov, 2009 07:55 AM From you profile, you seem like a very attractive guy so I'm sure girls are noticing you! There are probably a few out there who are hoping you'll notice them and they're not sure what to do about it. I'd advise to focus on girls you know from the ministries you're in. Spend time with them in group events. Talk to them. One of the biggest things you can do is ask questions of a girl you're interested in and take note of what she says. When you see her again, refer back to something she said previously - she'll be VERY impressed because she'll know that you actually noticed her and are being thoughtful. Take a few months to get to know someone as their friend - just enjoy being with her and enjoy the adventure of discovering who she is (again - GROUP events are the way to go here) - and then when you're ready, ask her out on a date :applause: Blessings! Post Reply
View Profile History	For Some Reason.... Posted : 30 Nov, 2009 12:02 PM Greetings Kyle!.. Well in my opinion, it's the guy that is suppose to notice the girl... For God says "he that findeth a wife, findeth a good thing" (he didn't say "she that findeth a husband)... You see a diamond is to be sought, "not the one seeking"... So although a woman or girl may be attracted to you, if she's a child of God "she's going to wait for you to approach her" (whether you're looking for a mere friend or companionship)... I'm not saying that I'm perfectly correct, but that is my perspective... May you continue to be blessed in your endeavors... :glow: PS... for those that wonder why I'm here, is to make myself available and easier for my soulmate to find me (just as a diamond sits in the showcase shelf of a jewlry store)... :yay: Sincerely, AnotherChance2:waving: Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	For Some Reason.... Posted : 30 Nov, 2009 12:55 PM Anotherchance, good words. Kyle, I went through 7 years of college and two degrees (BA and MM) and was not "noticed" by any guys. I noticed them often enough, but felt that it wasn't my job to approach them and tell them, "Hey buddy, when are you going to get around to asking me out?" I tried to be friendly to everyone, I was active on campus, and I had a lot of friends/acquaintances. But no guys ever asked me out. All that to say, find a girl you think you'd like to get to know better, find a way to get to know her in a non-date setting, then take a chance on asking her out...she might just be waiting for you to approach her! Post Reply
View Profile History	For Some Reason.... Posted : 30 Nov, 2009 03:11 PM I guess my biggest issue is just getting the confidence to go up and talk to a random girl. Due to some negative past incidents, I always feel as if a girl will naturally think the worst of a guy that just randomly starts talking to them. - Kyle Post Reply

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