Author	Thread: just need to know why???
Admin	just need to know why??? Posted : 24 Nov, 2009 03:27 PM why are women so wary of men who manage to be handsome, dress well, polite, and/or witty? u assume that we can have any women we want so thinking that we're dogs.... thats not true at all, at least not for me and prob most guys. what shall i do? dress down and stop taking care of myself..lol. it seems like alot of average joes got some beautiful babe. my ex wife of 11 yrs only dates super average guys. and she is extremely drop dead gorgeous. ok ok, i know that its not suppose to matter but deep down inside, it does play a role in all of us...... Luisito Post Reply
View Profile History	just need to know why??? Posted : 25 Nov, 2009 01:31 AM Well, I do believe that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. If I meet a handsome man, that's wonderful, praise Jesus:applause: lol! But that's only the surface, and I'm not just interested in that. Personality has a lot more influence for me. Can I have an actual conversation with this person? Is he sweet, charming, loving? Can he make me laugh? Does he love Jesus with all his heart, soul, and mind? Do you trust in God? These are things that are much more important for me. If I can meet a man that is a combination of all those things and is physically attractive, then that is wonderful. If I have to chose, though, I will choose the inner beauty. It'd be silly of me to judge outer beauty than inner beauty. Outer beauty fades and deteriorates along with the body; inner beauty is the type of beauty that lasts forever. If I base my relationship on physical attraction, I'm short-selling myself, because I'm basing it on something that is superficial and will not last. I'm not just looking for something in the present, I'm looking for something that will last forever, a future spouse. So, that might be a reason why "beautiful women" are with "average joes." (as you stated in your post) Post Reply
View Profile History	just need to know why??? Posted : 25 Nov, 2009 06:31 AM Luisito, Que pasa hombre? I must ask your forgiveness for "buttin' in" (which is my "one" bad habit). I just can''t pass this subject by. Most beautiful woman get treated superficially because most men can not see pass the superficial. I want to repeat that. Beautiful woman get treated by men based simply on their beauty. Most men never "see" pass their "looks" or obvious "endowments". They can be the smartest, funniest, most astute or intuitive woman ever and men will not get that far enough to notice it. I am sure we all know one or two or three or....men that can not seem to be able to raise their eyes above chest level when speaking with some women. So, these "beautiful" women will either accept this as their lot in life or embrace it as a means of "getting" what they desire. But the Majority of them want to be accepted and treated for the woman they are in their hearts and in their "Souls". So along comes an "average joe" (which on the average these women are usually not aproached by) and the reason this "average joe" has build up the nerve to speak to her is because he thinks she is the most interesting woman on earth and BOOM Bada BOOM! This average joe treats her with Respect and with Courtesy and with a DIGNITY that is not superficial but Sincere (and most times bumbling and stumbling along) and she finds him like a breath of super fresh air and realizes that she can be herself around him and not fear for being judged or comdemned or critized and it becomes a wonderful feeling for her and BADDA Boom Da BOOm she falls in love with a man that was always in love with her. Luisto, you might look at your statement: "...it seems like alot of average joes got some beautiful babe..." When something like that comes out of Rocky''s mouth it sounds cute and endearing, but I would think that to most women being called "Babe" has kinda lost it''s oomph. True, there are some women that like that Neanderthal aspect of men, but they tend to "cast off" those men when a "bigger" Neanderthal comes along. So, I hope you don''t think I am bashing you. I really believe I have pointed out something that you would do well to consider and I think would help you. To change the subject, are you familiar with the band 'Yerba Buena'? They are a riot and excellent musicians. Anyway, Muchacho -- I wish you the best and I will say a prayer for your intentions. Peace Post Reply
View Profile History	just need to know why??? Posted : 25 Nov, 2009 09:45 AM dear folks, most women dont want a man thats prettier than her ..hehe or spends more time in the bath mirror gettin ready than her.. also most guys dont have enuff confidence to approach what is concidered by most a beautiful woman.. so the average joe with the confidence that will approach them gets the chance to prove hes more than just a ruggedly handsome face hehe.. and he will usually treat her like a queen cause he knows how fortunate he is.. ole cattle Post Reply
View Profile History	just need to know why??? Posted : 25 Nov, 2009 02:58 PM You are so right, Cattleman! I have an innate, massive distrust of "pretty" men. Post Reply
View Profile History	just need to know why??? Posted : 25 Nov, 2009 03:30 PM ur right, i agree with all that u say. i too, if i met an average looking women, but had a heart of gold, i wud fall for her. but thats mostly for someone u meet picking the kids up from school, at the super market, at a gas station, anywhere. but on a site like this one, the truth is that if we look at a picture and the attraction just aint there, more than likely ur gonna move on at not even read the profile. its sad but its true. i am prob everything u said as far as personallity goes, but unless a lady gives u a chance and chats with me a bit, their not gonna ever know. i think that urself alongwith alot of othre women, and mind u a said think, lol, that they take one look at a guy like me and title him in two seconds(player) even if he's christian. :( thats sad. all i can say is that i love God, i truely do... thanks for ur comment. plz say hi anytime, ramon Post Reply
View Profile History	just need to know why??? Posted : 25 Nov, 2009 03:32 PM my reply above was meant for africanbeauty19... Post Reply
View Profile History	just need to know why??? Posted : 25 Nov, 2009 04:01 PM now for archimedes, lol, thanks for the comment. first i wanna touch the "babe" part. that IS prob not a word that women like but my intentions were not to show what i call women, in fact, i dont think i ever called a women that, i was only tryin to find a common word that can be understood by most as some Bay Watch type of girl. not that thats what im looking for, just tryin to make the point about the average joe and why they get the attention. my ex, like i said, was very beautiful in the outter. i am not gonna discuss her inner, lol... but with that said, she had low self esteem in our entire time married. she admitted in front of our counseler that i was the best thing to her, that i treated her like a queen. that i attended to her every need, was good and loved and cared about her. i was in shock and almost started to cry. even after all that she said that the reason that our 11 years ended was because of her low self esteem and her thinking that everytime i left the house in anger i was headed to some "babes" house. i only left cause the elders of church told me to not stay and keep fighting. to go take a drive and cool off. she now admits that she as wrong and that its now too late. all i got was a sorry. im not in search of some babe, i want a real, and beautiful women, both inner and outter, if God so will... thanks again, luisito Post Reply
View Profile History	just need to know why??? Posted : 25 Nov, 2009 04:03 PM lol cattle, very well said Post Reply
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View Profile History	just need to know why??? Posted : 25 Nov, 2009 05:20 PM there are many reason woman have low self esteem and basically cannot trust. Maybe they are one that has cheated in a prior relationship or were cheated on. Maybe they saw it go on in their own household up growing up. For myself, I have brothers and my whole life they have always told me "all men are dogs" granted none of us were saved but still, it remains in my head.(but I do know it's not true) I also work with a bunch of guys who are unsaved and i see what goes on and it also makes me cautious. Lie after lie after lie to their wives/girlfriends, they are "out there" really, they need Jesus, but thats normal to them. Basically, when starting a relationship, trust is sooo important that if you dont have it, the relationship is doomed. I believe that when you start a friendship with someone your interested in, you have plenty of time to get to know them to make that call. It's either yes or no. Does this person love God enough that he wouldnt break a marriage covenant? Relationship is about commitment...the most important thing is each others walk with the Lord. I do agree about inner beauty though, it is unfortunate that we do see pictures and decide right there if we're going to correspond with this person based on looks. I try not to because I dont want to hurt anyone, everyone has feelings and rejection is horrible, I wouldnt put anyone through that. God is love and we are Christians (little christs), we should always reflect that. The average is Joe is usually sweeter, but they are very jealous as well. (from my experience.) So, I cant call it, I havent figured it out...this was just my unbiblical opinion. blessings, Jennifer Post Reply

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