Author	Thread: First Messages that steal your attention.
Admin	First Messages that steal your attention. Posted : 13 Nov, 2009 10:48 AM I wanna post something light here. I've just realized that I have my fave type of first messages; and it's funny that I tend to reply those types first, without even look at the senders' profiles. I believe everybody has their own preferences and it could be different. That's why I'd like to ask you,girls, what kind of first messages that steal your attention and drive you to click the reply message button? (And probably this thread could be a guideline or an enlightment for guys who want to send first messages to someone they like here. Lol) Post Reply
NatalDeLaMer View Profile History	First Messages that steal your attention. Posted : 15 Nov, 2009 12:29 AM I kind of like the quirky messages the best. Something funny or unusual that grabs my attention or makes me laugh. Also, they get bonus points for referencing something in my profile (hooray if they actually read the whole thing!) So I'm likely to respond to messages like that. First messages I DON'T like: 1. Extremely short or vague ones. I mean, if they guy just says 'hey', I feel stumped for a reply. 2. If he asks a question that I feel I've adequately answered IN my profile. I don't think it's too much to ask for someone to read the whole profile before messaging me. 3. If the guy is a bit too intense. I don't want your myspace, facebook, twitter and phone number if I've never even had a conversation with you before. So that's basically what I like...and what I don't. I hope that helps people who aren't quite sure what to put in a message. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	First Messages that steal your attention. Posted : 15 Nov, 2009 11:40 AM I would take a second look at (and probably answer) a message that is simple and sweet. The author would have taken the time to write in correct English (not perfect, just mostly correct!), and might ask a question about something in my profile. He might also mention or hint at something we have in common. He would also let me know that the ball in is my court by saying that I could let him know if I want to chat. Low pressure is always good. I agree that I would NOT answer a message from a guy who tries to send me all of his contact info right off. Seriously? It would take several e-mails and probably quite a few lengthy IM conversations before I'd even consider giving a guy any info like that, so why would I want his right off? Post Reply