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Admin	Courting???? Posted : 29 Oct, 2009 05:51 PM What is courting to you? What the do (s) and don't (s)? I like your opinion before I give mine. This kind be interesting. Post Reply
View Profile History	Courting???? Posted : 29 Oct, 2009 07:04 PM dear fearless, to me datin is what you do to decide who it is ya wanna court for marriage.. ole cattle Post Reply
View Profile History	Courting???? Posted : 30 Oct, 2009 01:03 PM Dating is the worldview. Courting is Gods model. Post Reply
View Profile History	Courting???? Posted : 31 Oct, 2009 10:13 AM treat the lady like your sister.What would you do to your sister? Buy her a meal? Take her shopping?Make sure she has a good reputation. Treat her with respect.We all are brothers and sisters in christ. Post Reply
View Profile History	Courting???? Posted : 31 Oct, 2009 10:26 AM Courting or dating, seems words are interchangeable, as the difference is in the beholding. Personally, i look to the action... words are only good as long as the action supports them. if he is a devoted Christian how is he serving man/doing Jesus' will...not how many bible verses he knows. I just had another incident of this man wearing workout clothes to come see me... even if to stop by, the action is making the effort in appearance because he is coming to see me. Telling me that he values our discussions / time spent together, but then the only times we get together is by my suggestions is an example of the words not matching the action. Note: i believe we (people) look for qualities in that someone special that was missing in the past relationship. Post Reply
View Profile History	Courting???? Posted : 4 Nov, 2009 05:10 AM I have a bitter laugh for this question, not because I feel that courting or dating are bad, but the terms have been redefined over and over in my lifetime. I grew up going to Joshua Harris "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" seminars and reading all the other Christian dating books (each stating a different set of rules). My parents also strongly encouraged that I didn't do the traditional dating when I was in high school. I got to college and so backward in my ways that I got the reputation that I wouldn't date at all (found this out my senior year from a good guy friend). Immediately out of college I was in a great group of singles, good ratio of men to women, and what did the men in the group do? Nothing. I started to discover that each guy in the group was playing by a different set of dating rules. One had to ask her father, another had to spend so many times with her in a group setting, one had to "court" her in her family's home, another felt like her father should approach him, and yet another felt it was perfectly okay to go on a few dates to see where it went. Out of one group of friends, there were ten sets of rules. The ladies of the group didn't know how to balance this, by showing interest in one guy she may be too forward, by not showing interest in another guy she wasn't being forward enough. After all these experiences, I've come to the conclusion. Pray about. Seek the Father's will about the situation. Don't get caught up in the dating/courting rules. Draw the boundary lines where it is comfortable for the relationship you are pursuing. What are we pursuing as Christians anyway? Bringing glory to the Father with our lives and our relationships? If that was our focus in the dating world, there'd be a whole lot fewer books and my guess fewer frustrated Christian singles. Post Reply
View Profile History	Courting???? Posted : 4 Nov, 2009 05:18 AM dear color, welcome to the forums.. and it seems like you had quite the predicament lol.... that was cute.. ole cattle Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Courting???? Posted : 4 Nov, 2009 06:12 AM Colorofmay, I totally understand what you mean!!! You just about could have been describing my own experiences with dating and courting. I, too, have come to a conclusion about courting and dating...it totally depends on the situation! Post Reply
View Profile History	Courting???? Posted : 5 Nov, 2009 07:16 PM Courting and dating is a tricky process that involves God and boundaries. It is a process just like everything else with God where mostly men are learning how to treat a women. Sometimes I wonder how much does a women know about love. Do we as singles look into what is love and really look at the words of love like patience and unselfish. Why did God use those words in the love chapter? What is he teaches us? God bless Post Reply