Author	Thread: What do you think LADIES?
Admin	What do you think LADIES? Posted : 21 Jul, 2009 11:27 AM Wow, I'm chalaxing and something ran across my mind... Why does one verbaly, physically and mentally abuse a person, "when that person is willing to cater to their every need?" For there's many that say they want to be loved, but they don't have a clue "how to love"... Yet they claim they never truly been loved or understood... Is it that they truly have no love for themselves and are incapable of loving anyone else and if so, how can you help them? I can't seem to figure these things out, can someone try to explain?... "Because being hard core and shutting them out, is not always the answer and the God in me want to help those in whom I come in contact with"... What's your thoughts?.. PS... I am a true believer, that our Delay is not Denial or Defeat... It's just a Preperation for that in-which is and yet to come... In advance, I thank all of you for your responses. AnotherChance2*:waving: Post Reply
View Profile History	What do you think LADIES? Posted : 21 Jul, 2009 02:13 PM Okay, where's all of my sista's in Christ at, that dosen't mind speaking her mind?... Are we home from work or study yet?... I'm waiting on your opinions, replies and honesty... You can even personally respond in a message to me, I really want to know your thoughts (We can keep it among ourselves, and I don't bite or fight, "I promise") Smile... I look forward to hearing from you, and may you be & continue to stay blessed in all that you do.:waving: Sincerely, AnotherChance2* Post Reply
View Profile History	What do you think LADIES? Posted : 21 Jul, 2009 03:57 PM Another.. Let first say that I have seen abuse first hand both in my home as a teenager and the homes of friends and even relatives. While I was never physically abused I do know all too well that verbal abuse is just as damaging. it took me YEARS to work out those issues. My husband hit me once and I backed him up with a cast iron skillet and he NEVER hit me again. I have seen abusers and what they feel MAY be love but they do not SHOW love they show insecurity and a low self essteem..Thier need to control those they abuse over rides ANY Christain instinct they may have. They want to feel a sense of power and in being powerful I believe they want to be god like to those they abuse. I can tell you that I struggled a long time with how God could allow people to be abused. And more than that how he could expect me to forgive an abuser. I still have not come to complete turms with that but am working on it. I have forgiven those who have abused me but I have a harder time with those that abuse kids.. GBU Post Reply
View Profile History	What do you think LADIES? Posted : 21 Jul, 2009 04:15 PM dear shy, nice open heartfelt post.. ole cattle Post Reply
View Profile History	What do you think LADIES? Posted : 21 Jul, 2009 05:38 PM Ole.. thanks.. Its a subject I have given a LOT of thought to in my life. for many many reasons.. GBU Post Reply
View Profile History	What do you think LADIES? Posted : 22 Jul, 2009 05:28 PM Thanks for sharing your post with us Shy... I know it isn't an easy subject, and I'm very proud of you knowing how to face and handle your abuser... A lot of people never make it out of some of those situations. I too, "truly despise those who abuse a child"... Unfortunately, most of your abusers have been abused before themselves and have become ill in thinking that its right or common... I just don't understand it, and maybe I never will, "but why or how could they place that same experience on another human being"... It seems like they'd break the cycle with themselves and help others through the pain of being abused... I say this, because I too am a victim of multiple abuses. However I thank God for coming into my life and allowing me to see my errors in holding onto that anger and pain. By me forgiving those which wrongfully abused me, "I removed a ton of bricks off of my shoulders and restored my heart & soul"... Please believe me when I say that it wasn't easy... But when I did, I gave my first :boxing: knock-out (without having to physically fight)... an "oh what a relief it was"... (smile)... Again, thank you my dear sista! May you be abundantly blessed in all that you do... Please feel free to chat with me anytime... I thank God for looking down on me and giving me another chance to help others out, of what I've been through... AnotherChance2 Post Reply