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Admin	Financial support of parents Posted : 18 Jan, 2020 10:52 PM Money is one of the things that strains relationships. What is your opinion of a guy who supports his parents? It is not that his parents are unwise financially but life long illness and medical expenses have taken a toll. Post Reply
Jayzeee View Profile History	Financial support of parents Posted : 19 Jan, 2020 02:45 AM I personally have never been in a situation where I had to offer financial help to my parents. But I think it's an honourable thing to do, and I'd like to think that the response of most children, would be to offer assistance in whatever way they can... Post Reply
Moonlight7 View Profile History	Financial support of parents Posted : 22 Jan, 2020 04:38 PM I think it's Honorable of a man to support his parents in need. Many can not Afford to do that functionally even though they may want to help them. Many elderly people can get government assistance. I would look into that if not already! Post Reply
View Profile History	Financial support of parents Posted : 23 Jan, 2020 12:22 AM Thank you for your reply. In my case my mother doesn't qualify for assistance. Her work history is not long or recent enough. To qualify for assistance. I would have to provide fraudulent information about our finances. We are in the proverbial crack of the government social security system. I can only afford to support by postponing my life till something changes. Not complaining, it's just the way it is. Just curious if anyone in a similar situation. Post Reply
Teddyhug^ View Profile History	Financial support of parents Posted : 23 Jan, 2020 09:32 AM Barnowl123! I tell you what KIND SIR, I wish I was there to give you a high five! This "strain relationship" that you speak of really exposes the ones you are in a relationship with, namely your girlfriend it sounds like. If she loves you, she should understand and support your decisions as a provider! Its your male instincts and she should welcome it and help because of her instincts in being nurturing as a female! What gives? She sounds selfish to me and here's the deal, if she KNOWS you support your parents in need, then she should KNOW that you would support her needs in the future! To fall in love with you all the more! Wish I was there to give you a hug and a hand shake bubba! YOU the MAN Barnowl123! What a testimony! Post Reply
View Profile History	Financial support of parents Posted : 23 Jan, 2020 07:02 PM Hello Teddyhug, thank you for the encouraging words. God bless you brother. Post Reply
View Profile History	Financial support of parents Posted : 24 Jan, 2020 07:22 AM I dont understand why you dont have government medical assistance. Post Reply
View Profile History	Financial support of parents Posted : 24 Jan, 2020 07:41 AM Supporting parents is not an issue in our culture. It is expected for us to support our parents in their old age or in case of disability. And it's not limited to parents. We also support our siblings in case the family income is not enough to support the whole family. Insurance is not yet very popular here and most people have no retirement plans. We manage with support from all members of the family. Everyone helps. While parents are still young and able to support the family, they labor to send their children to school until they finish college. And the children live with the parents even as adults while they're still single. It is only when a daughter or son marries when she or he leaves the ancestral home to build her or his own family. The insurance issue and retirement plans are slowly changing but the family support will always be part of our culture. It's common in Asia and most westerners don't understand that. Post Reply
View Profile History	Financial support of parents Posted : 24 Jan, 2020 08:27 AM It's tricky. It's good that you are helping your mom and it wouldn't be good of you to leave her destitute. But, once you marry, you have greater responsibility towards your spouse than you you do towards your mom. The Bible teaches that a man is to leave his mother and father to join with his wife. If providing for your mom will interfere with providing for your wife, that's not right. Especially, if the your mom needs financial support is because of any poor choices that she made in the past. In which case, providing for your parents gwts in the way of "as a man sows, so shall he reap." Which I don't if that is the case or not, nor am I suggesting that it is. I'm just putting that out there for anyone who might reading this for who it might be the case for. Post Reply
View Profile History	Financial support of parents Posted : 24 Jan, 2020 06:35 PM Hello Spiritual connection, to qualify for assistance my mother has to prove she has worked for a minimum amount of time. For her age she needs a minimum of 5 years with in the last 10 years. She only has worked 3 years and this was 20 years ago. There is another way but the government requires us to submit documents proving need for assistance. The criteria for this assistance are even greater. Since we have life insurance we are ineligible. I don't mind helping out financially. I admire the Asian and Latin culture who care for family. Here in the West few care for there parents. I have not met any ladies yet who okay with support of their parents. Still looking not giving up yet. Post Reply
View Profile History	Financial support of parents Posted : 24 Jan, 2020 06:49 PM Hello Country ivy, Thank you for your reply. Poor choice doesn't really apply in my case. It is hard to help being born with a medical condition. I feel the same about needing to separately supporting a family of my own. Not sure how to do this without abandoning them. Not that I would. Asian culture is expected to support parents while we in the West do not value them as we should. Living in a selfish society and not being selfish puts one at a disadvantage. Post Reply

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