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jason18

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Seeking advice from Mom/Older woman 35+
Posted : 13 Feb, 2015 08:32 AM

Hi, my name is Jason and I am 18 years old and seeking the advice and help from a Mom or older woman.



I would like to find a woman to be friends with online and share my thoughts and feelings with. I am a virgin and love the Lord, and do not plan on having sex until marriage.



Around the age of 14 I begin to have different thoughts and feelings towards older women...my Mom, her friends and my older female teachers. It was like all of a sudden I noticed women totally different. The girls my age that I have dated, I end up liking their Mom's more than them...I have never told a woman my true thoughts, but just keep it to myself.



I hope to find someone that can help me to better understand my feelings and ask and answer questions. I really hope I can find an older woman to date someday, and that can teach me. There is lots more, but I prefer to share that in private with you.



Thanks for listening...if you think you can help and would like to chat or be friends...please send me a message.



God bless you,



Jason

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Hisjoymypeace

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Seeking advice from Mom/Older woman 35+
Posted : 13 Feb, 2015 04:53 PM

Well my young friend, your feelings regarding older women...from my own experience, is quite normal(smile)!



Roughly around the age you are now, I had those same type of thoughts and feelings you've had. Young men who were my age seemed...ummm how can I say it..."immature"(smile)!! But what I've discovered over the years is that women tend to mature not only more quickly physically, but more quickly mentally and sometimes even more emotionally, then men their same age! Yet truthfully, men can still experience meeting women in their age range, who are immature! As you can see, a problem that plagues both genders!



Attracting to someone of the opposite sex whose older seems as if it's a cry for maturity...for experience(smile)! Though your experiencing this need at this time, the only thing I recommend is that you don't seclude yourself entirely from your age counterpart. You'll never know who God will bring to you who'll not only be in your age range, but who'll be of the same mental, spiritual and emotional levels as yourself(smile)! God's best to you.

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HoosierHomeschooler

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Seeking advice from Mom/Older woman 35+
Posted : 14 Feb, 2015 02:25 PM

Jason,



I'm not a mom and never will be, but perhaps my perspective could help.



When I was your age I often found myself attracted to girls a year or 2 older than myself. Unfortunately (or so I thought) they were usually attracted to guys a year or 2 older than them!



And at college I knew several guys who were attracted to women something like 5 years older. One of the younger guys in freshman English seemed to have quite a crush on the good-looking grad assistant who taught his class. He was quite dismayed to learn that, not only was she 6 years older than he and working on a degree 1 or 2 levels above his ... but was married.



Maturity is attractive. We've probably all had our fill of the giggly girls who seem perpetually in 7th grade. And the women definitely say the same thing about guys. I knew one girl whom I never would have guessed was 3 years younger than myself. She carried herself so maturely.



I seriously doubt there's much up-side in finding a girlfriend your mom's age or nearly. But if you get into the venues where the more mature young people congregate, you should be able to find someone mature enough to attract you and still young enough to be your partner. I mean ... you're not looking for another mom, right? :) Maybe debate team or chess club instead of cheerleaders.

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