Author	Thread: Are these red flags?
Admin	Are these red flags? Posted : 31 Dec, 2014 12:41 AM -For a ''Christian'' guy to post shirtless pictures on his facebook -For him to have lots of friends that are girls, commenting on his pictures and his attractiveness -For him to mostly have pictures by himself, and not much evidence of guy friends/a friend group Thanks Post Reply
Dannygal View Profile History	Are these red flags? Posted : 31 Dec, 2014 07:52 AM I would certainly say the first one is a red flag. Post Reply
View Profile History	Are these red flags? Posted : 31 Dec, 2014 02:09 PM They are all red flags. Post Reply
osol_letse View Profile History	Are these red flags? Posted : 1 Jan, 2015 05:12 AM no doubt they are..I wouldn't have second thought to think they not.. Post Reply
HoosierHomeschooler View Profile History	Are these red flags? Posted : 1 Jan, 2015 08:34 AM Interesting responses. When men suggest that women who pose in short skirts, short shorts, or swimsuits are being unspiritual or carnal, they are often criticized for being Pharisees. You may be right those are red flags ... but if so ... why aren't immodest poses by women red flags? Post Reply
Hisjoymypeace View Profile History	Are these red flags? Posted : 1 Jan, 2015 11:33 AM I must concur with Hoosierhomeschooler! Both genders are guilty of some version or another of the red flags mentioned in the OP...if we're honest with each other!! The question is, can we all live with these superficial flaws and still be a blessing to one another? Post Reply
View Profile History	Are these red flags? Posted : 1 Jan, 2015 08:07 PM I don't think women should wear bikinis in public, or other revealing clothing, but they are constantly held to a higher standard than men. I didn't mention them, because it goes without saying. Men can just as easily cause lust in women as women can in men. It's not fair that we are expecting to cover our bums, stomachs, thighs, cleavage, chest and upper arms, and men can basically walk around in a speedo with no comments. I kind of think men should have their torso covered and modest shorts when they are swimming. Please, no more comments about women dressing modestly here. We already know, it's something we've had drummed into us since we were young. It's time for men to get a similar message. Post Reply
CuriousGeorge View Profile History	Are these red flags? Posted : 1 Jan, 2015 10:47 PM but how are points 2 and 3 red flags? especially point 2 which is out of his control... women - -, Post Reply
HoosierHomeschooler View Profile History	Are these red flags? Posted : 2 Jan, 2015 04:31 AM "-For him to mostly have pictures by himself, and not much evidence of guy friends/a friend group" I guess my FB page is guilty there. I have a few pics by myself and a lot with my kids. Also I have a lot of pictures of just the children. I seriously doubt there's one picture of me with other men. I haven't done very much worthy of pictures with groups other than family since I finished college. Sure, there's work, but who takes pictures with his co-workers? Sure, there are church work days and Christmas cantatas and fellowship dinners and times visiting with other families, but who takes pictures of those? I'm not sure this is a valid criterion. "Hangin' with the guys" is not a sure mark of maturity. I understand you're trying to avoid somebody who tries to be a chick magnet. But these are not all "chick magnet" characteristics. Post Reply
View Profile History	Are these red flags? Posted : 2 Jan, 2015 10:56 PM Fair enough. My main concern was the shirtless pictures (it might have been ok if he was at the beach or something, or with some friends, but he was by himself, posing, in about six different pictures, in his bathroom, to show off his torso, abs, arms etc- at least it seemed that way). Post Reply
1mountain View Profile History	Are these red flags? Posted : 6 Jan, 2015 02:18 AM >selfie time at the water cooler!!!< :ROFL: Ok well my personal take would be that while tasteless shirtless pictures or bathroom pictures aren't a red flag. That said I do very much find either to be tasteless. If he's wearing modest trunks at the beach and playing in the water shirtless then no not tasteless. Basically if it's gratuitous 'nudity' then I find it to be trashy. As for bikini / swimsuit pictures posted by gals well again there's a delicate issue, what some find offensive others won't. I know there's been some talk about it here but I don't find anything wrong with a bathing suit picture so long as it's tastefully done and not a distastefully skimpy suit. Keep in mind though who you want to attract. If you want to land a Quaker then dress like one. As for no pictures with his buddies, guys aren't particularly prone as a gender to take group pictures. Something about the way we interact. We're more prone to snap shots of our friends doing something cool or have our friends snap a shot of us doing something than we are to do a 'group hug!' and take a selfie. If he seems to have no friends that might be an issue though. I have very few friends I ever see in person I must admit, but have many friends on line around the world. I've never had many friends honestly. There were times when I didn't have any friends of my own. Nothing wrong with me, just didn't have any of my own. I have a few close ones and that's enough for my taste. Nope don't have any pictures with them and me in the same frame either. Post Reply

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