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sisygirl

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Posted : 3 Jul, 2014 11:43 PM

When does one start living up to his/her marriage vows?



Or should I rather ask my question this way:



When is one recognized married?



Before or after having the marriage certificate and told by a poster, "I now pronounce you husband and wife?"



I'd really appreciate if your answer was to be inspired by a scripture, though you're still welcome to share your thought if its not biblically based.



Thank you!!

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Posted : 4 Jul, 2014 01:25 PM

And welcome back my sister(smile)! I've missed you, as I believe others here have as well!



Jumping right into to your interesting post and searching His Word for reference, I first must say that I strongly believe that when a Christian man and women have "betroth" themselves to one another, that covenant is just as strong as a marriage itself! They have virtually bequeath themselves to each other "spiritually" until the formal ritual of marriage is performed before God and man!



After becoming betrothed or in modern times "engaged", I believe is when the marriage technically begins! The entire chapter of Genesis 24, refers wonderfully to how God can bring two people together in "betrothal" before marriage! Again key here, God Himself, bought Isaac and Rebekah together! A "marriage" that was already made in heaven way before it was made in the earth(smile)!



The question is do we who believe really honor this awesome covenant, knowing what we know, in it's beginning stages as we could or should?

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Posted : 4 Jul, 2014 10:28 PM

Sweet sister



Have no idea how much I missed you too. Was infect thinking of you when typing this question and thank you for sharing your view on this.



Its interesting that you had to bring forth the passage of Isaac and Rebekah as an inspiration of your reply, those two are one of the reasons I asked this question. It amazes me that they had to make love first and then considered as 'one flesh'

While Adam referred to Eve as his wife and being one flesh with her long before love making. This however is a little besides the point since I'm not seeking to know when must the two make love? Looking at Adam's marriage to Eve, makes me wonder if a ritual is even necessarily if two can have their vows exchanged intimately in private before God. Not because they rushing to make love, this can wait



Was just wondering about a piece of paper referred to as a marriage certificate, when in actual fact is only a paper,

When does one start living up to his/her marriage vows?



Thanks again for your input on this!!

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Posted : 12 Jul, 2014 12:44 AM

Hello all,



I guess this is the post I was referred to, as I have no idea of what has been discussed before, since I have been absent, but should I be wrong, kindly direct me there.



Now to the question posed here, I believe marriage vows start, right from the onset of the relationship, and that is why I say a christian relationship/courtship is just like a mini-marriage, which has all the components of what happens in a marriage except the physical intimacy. This tells why the Christians' way of going about a relationship is different from the unbelievers' way(s).



As for the example sister Joy gave, I believe the marriage started immediately the consent of Rebecca's parents were sought and also when Rebecca accepted and we could say that a full blown marriage was contracted at that time Isaac took her in. Although the situation of Genesis 24 may not fully go operational in today's world but we can say the way God guides His children in the way of marriage follows that pattern of Genesis 24. God doesn't do experimenting when matching His own children, that is why His ways are not ours most times.

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