Some years ago I was at a camp and a guy walks up to me and places his hand on my shoulder, and claims that no woman will ever love or like me. Then telling me he has cursed me. At the time I brushed it off thinking he was talking crazy. How could this be true. God is greater than anything. He protects us from evil. After several years I struggle with being single and not having someone to help me and love me for who I am. I never really thought of what that guy said until a little over a year ago, and I believe that Jesus is greater than any curse someone may proclaim. But I do wonder. Often women seem uncomfortable with me.
I do not feel I am bad or the worst guy there is. Many times I struggled with how to communicate with some women. In some cases I would try too hard. I would try to do nice things for a young lady, and I would try to impress her. I would also try to talk to her, but many times I seem to get too close physically and making her uneasy. Then there are those times when I don't try very hard, cause I don't want to scare anyone off. I never seem to be able to balance how to communicate with some women.
Often I would see others getting in relationships and getting married, wondering when will I find her. At times I think there is no-one for me. I feel as if I don't get a chance, because of my limitations. I am blind and deaf, as well not being able to go to places by driving. It appears that I would be too dependent on others for help. Women seem to be afraid of my limitations. I am not a guy that most women would look at and be awed at. I am no Mr. Darcey. Also, I had a young lady tell me I was too short. It is hard to hear things like "Ignore him, that's what we do."
Often I hear that I should be content with being single. Thus, I get the "content speech." Many times it Comes from those who have what you desire. They comment without putting themselves in my shoes. I know we all experienced loneliness, and I am not the only one who struggles with not having that special someone. It is foolish to think that I am the only one that has a hard time being content. I do give it to Jesus, but is os a hard thing to do when you have little or no success. I wasted money on a dating site and got no where. I feel that my chances are slim for me to have that helper. I used to hear that God had someone for me. Funny when you get older you don't hear that anymore.
There are those who think I will never get married. My family seems to think that and people have said that no one could never love me. At times I doubt, but I do believe that God has someone for me. But He will strengthen me. I know we are not truly alone when we have Jesus. However, I have a hard time being content because there is that part of me that want to prove people wrong. Only God knowS the the future. I do place my desire for a mate. As it is hard to see others around you getting married I have to trust in God, for He will provide. But that begs one question.
How I cursed? It is easy to dismiss this question as crazy talk. I know I have a tendency to over analyze and think. There are things that can be hidden in our mind and heard that can keep us from certain blessings. There is nothing that can go against the power of Jesus. I am only asking this REquest to ask for prayer and to put this to rest once and for all. Also, I wanted to get it off my chest because this has been eating at me for about two years.
Thanks for reading and praying
J G
1/28/11
"For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the powers, against the world forces of this darkness, against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places." (Ephesians 6:12, NASB95)
Look, if it's a curse, then it can be broken, I think. Jesus took on Himself our curses, diseases, and sins on the cross. He suffered so we don't have to.
Isaiah 54:17 says,
"'No weapon formed against you shall prosper, and every tongue which rises against you in judgment you shall CONDEMN. This is the heritage of the servants of the LORD, and their righteousness is from Me,' says the LORD."
You have a right to break the curse. You have to say out loud, "I break this curse in the name of Jesus, and I declare it has no power over my life. I cancel it in Jesus' name."
On the other hand, if the kid was just making an observation and just said "that's a curse" but really didn't have power behind it, then that's something else. I am an introvert, and it's a lot harder to connect with women when you're not an open, outgoing creature. That's the truth. There's no magic in this. If you want to make friends, you have to be friendly, open, outgoing, fun, etc. And if you're not, then it's difficult. Being an introvert is not a curse. It's just like having brown eyes or blue eyes. Some people are like this and some people are like that. It's just more difficult to get married when you don't like to be the center of attention.
My brother, you asked, "am I cursed"? I personally believe that only you can believe if you really are or not! You've written that, I'm paraphrasing, in Jesus is where we as believers have our strength. Do you really believe that?
As far as I know, The Lord made it abundantly clear in His Word, that greater is He that is within us, than he that is within the world! You seem to know what you know thru His Word, it's now about how you apply it to your everyday existence!
The challenges you've faced and conquered being deaf and blind, tells me that you are certainly more than a conqueror in and thru Christ Jesus! Your singleness and conquered challenges, if looked at thru God's eyes, can and could be an awesome blessing and testimony to others who maybe struggling with the same! And yes I understand the desire and anxiety you feel wanting that special someone in your life. But whatever you do don't allow the enemy to convince you that being without a mate is your destiny! If you really believe that, then he has won! And all that The Lord has possibly destined for you and that precious love He's preparing for you, can be thwarted! My brother whatever you do, don't miss out on what God has for you that would ultimately give Him all the honor, glory and praise!!! Keep praying.....keep hoping.....stay faithful! In His Name.....
You're not cursed, you're just letting that idiot mess with your head. I think at least half of the male and female population struggles with dating, loneliness, confidence, and happiness for years. I've struggled with all those things for years, but I don't feel lonely or unhappy anymore. It wasn't always the case but a few months ago I finally learned that all you have to be able to do is make yourself happy. If you can figure out how to do that then it doesn't matter if you're single, and, what's more, you stand a far greater chance of not being single for much longer anyway.
Dude kinda letting the devil get a hold of your life by believing in a curse. Your a child of God man. Believe in Him not a fear. Yes curses can be real but God is stronger. So just take it to Him.
Curses can be real but not when they are said maliciously like the way it was done to you.
But I would advice you(for you to feel settled),refuse the curse in Jesus name and accept Jesus' clensing in your life.Believe that no one can curse you,you are a child of God.
God told Barack,whatever He has blessed no one can curse.Believe you are blessed,and if its the will of God you get a mate,you will get.God has good plans for all.Don't rely on your own understanding.
Tell God you want to be happy regardless of the situation you are in.
Trust in Christ,for He is the one in you, and is bigger and stronger than the one in the world.
I think someone just wanted to get their jollies by being very cruel and mean to you.
you are very bright, and obviously well read; "knows who Mr. Darcy is!"
Natives in Africa, would believe that the witchdoctor could curse them to death. They would lie down, stop eating and drinking if they thought the witch doctor cursed them; of course, they died!
The mind has great and terrible power. As St. Paul says, "Whatsoever things are pure, holy and good, THINK ON THESE THINGS!!!!!!!!!!!
Ok this is going to sound crazy but I bet you it will work. Fulfil the so called curse. What do I mean by this? :ribbit:
Well you express difficulties with girls. Not perhaps like Raj from TBBT but in ways I once struggled. The simple fact is you're letting your hopes and emotions cloud your own judgement, and your sense of what they're feeling and thinking. Empathy is what enables us to be in a real relationship, in communion with each other. You aren't really picking up from them what they feel and want, it's clouded by your own mind and feelings. Every guy and gal goes through that by the way. This leads to awkward situations where they become uncomfortable.
Here's what I suggest and I hope you get what I mean and hear me out. Pray to God about it and offer the Lord a vow that you will not date or seek dates for a period of time, say six months, or a year. During that time never let yourself think 'I like her' or about dating or your own hopes of finding a relationship. Make all the friendships you want, but limit yourself to seeking friendship. Then be a good friend to those girls you talk with. With that barrier of your own mind out of the way you'll learn to read situations much better, and to empathize with girls much better. After the time you committed to God is over, you will be equipped in your mind and heart to actually seek what you and all of us wish to find. And when you find her you'll be more ready to be an equal partner in that relationship and deeply understand that girl's emotions and needs. :winksmile:
I would rebuke the CURSE in Jesus name because no power or authority can come over that name!!
It is the same as believing I broke a lot of mirrors in my life. Is that what caused my bad luck of losing my husband at a young age. I refuse to believe that lie
