Author	Thread: Ladies, why dion't you just say you aren't interested?
spaceman_212 View Profile History	Ladies, why dion't you just say you aren't interested? Posted : 19 May, 2014 07:58 AM I get it, when a guy sends you a message he is probably one of many. If statistics prove correct there are a lot more men then there are women and I get that. but, and there is a big but. I like to think I'm an alright guy. I'm young, I'm fairly successful, but it seems for every message like 50 messages I send I get one reply. It's almost kind of embarrassing. I realize you might look over my profile and decide you don't think we would be a good match but let me know! I'm sure I'm not the only guy that's tired of seeing my messages read but never replied to. If you aren't interested why don't you just say so? Post Reply
View Profile History	Ladies, why dion't you just say you aren't interested? Posted : 19 May, 2014 10:47 AM As an older female, the same can be said for men. There are many reasons people don't reply, but there seems to be two main ones. 1) they're not interested in you, and 2) they might be interested but get distracted, too busy to reply after reading your message then forget to respond. You're correct. It's better to just say 'thanks, but no thanks'. You'll get those kinds of messages from people who are thoughtful and empathetic. They see real people behind each message. Those who ignore you, they either don't want to hurt your feelings or don't care. Both are inconsiderate, but then no one has written a book about etiquette for the internet. If you don't get a response back from someone, thank the Lord. We don't have the insight to know what that person is really like, but the Lord does. They could be your worst nightmare, a nagger or a selfish and self centered person. Or maybe, some people are fine, but they're growing/learning/making mistakes, or the Lord is keeping everyone away except for the one He has for you. In other words, I don't know, and probably, no one else does either. Just trust the Lord with your future, and pray pray pray. Keep sending those messages, and stay strong! Post Reply
Hisjoymypeace View Profile History	Ladies, why dion't you just say you aren't interested? Posted : 19 May, 2014 12:11 PM Amen Friendlynshy.....amen! Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Ladies, why dion't you just say you aren't interested? Posted : 20 May, 2014 08:21 AM Just a tip, you might want to change your profile picture. I'm not a woman, but my first impression was a negative one, especially since that is your only picture. Nothing wrong with guns, but it just looks weird to have that as your only picture on here. :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	Ladies, why dion't you just say you aren't interested? Posted : 22 May, 2014 12:23 PM ^ It's disconcerting; the way he's comfortably backed up against the wall, firearm in hand. Looks as though he's about to casually terminate the other guy walking through the corridor! On a serious note, a woman would receive more than her fair share of unfavourable responses if she was always willing to say "thanks, but no thanks" Men don't respond well to rejection, and women don't like things that creep.. On these here walls, all men are spiders until proven otherwise. Spaceman, you're not a bad looking guy (no homo :laugh: ) Try ditching the scatter gun message approach, and be more selective about who you chose to initiate contact with. I only contact those who arouse my interest sevenfold. Personalised messages and a willingness to emotionally invest in a conversation serves me well enough. Good luck and God bless. Post Reply
View Profile History	Ladies, why dion't you just say you aren't interested? Posted : 22 May, 2014 02:13 PM Simply put, it's because they don't care. It stinks, but it's reality. Post Reply
thebowrests386 View Profile History	Ladies, why dion't you just say you aren't interested? Posted : 25 May, 2014 01:26 PM keep in mind there are a LOT of abandoned profiles on here. many of the women i send massages to never read them. I think the web developers should put a last logged on date on each profile. Post Reply
shineme27 View Profile History	Ladies, why dion't you just say you aren't interested? Posted : 13 Jun, 2014 06:25 AM For me personally, if I don't reply to a message there are two reasons : 1. Iam not interested 2. I don't want to hurt them with a message that I dont think we can make a good match lol but honestly..better not to reply :) My suggestion to you...do not give up...keep trying, your time will come! Post Reply
melpointy View Profile History	Ladies, why dion't you just say you aren't interested? Posted : 30 Jun, 2014 12:17 PM I agree with shineme27 If you are not interested it is hard to reply that because you don't want to hurt the others feelings. At least this is for me Post Reply
chris0708 View Profile History	Ladies, why dion't you just say you aren't interested? Posted : 20 Jul, 2014 02:42 PM I don't answer sometimes because the guy gets offended and starts saying things like, "Why are you judging the book by its cover?" So, rather than someone fuss at me, I just ignore it. People don't like straight up rejection,ya know? Post Reply