Author	Thread: A question about the distance and trust..
im4you View Profile History	A question about the distance and trust.. Posted : 2 May, 2014 12:15 PM If you would want to meet a potential partner but he lives far away from you, which method do you think would be possible to get a date if there not exist a financial situation of both sides to get this plan? Also in which way you would obtain enough trust to deserve to fly to get an appointment with your partner in case you afford this as long as everything is relative in the online environment? Post Reply
View Profile History	A question about the distance and trust.. Posted : 2 May, 2014 09:32 PM I would go visit if I thought it's 80-90% sure she is the one and she thought the same of me. If you're not sure, and you're not very rich, then there's no reason to waste all that money. Post Reply
View Profile History	A question about the distance and trust.. Posted : 3 May, 2014 05:53 AM I don't think there are many people on this website that can afford to fly to another country to share a cup of coffee. I'm in the live chat room quite a bit. Many are unemployed or underemployed or one paycheck away from bankruptcy. You don't really get to know a person unless you are face-to-face and "in their business" on a daily basis. This is a pseudo relationship because people make up things. They may tell you online that they had a healthy breakfast this morning but in reality, they had a donut and coffee. It starts with the little things. Best to look for someone who lives close by for a serious relationship. Post Reply
im4you View Profile History	A question about the distance and trust.. Posted : 3 May, 2014 07:43 AM Thank you alive774 and JustHereForChat. I understand your point of view. I still waiting for some answers and finally i'll come back with a conclusion on the subject. Post Reply
Hisjoymypeace View Profile History	A question about the distance and trust.. Posted : 3 May, 2014 11:40 AM You know, I've grabbled with this issue since I began my "online" journey. I've been transparently honest with myself and with others about where I reside and the challenges that come with it. And you know where I still end up in all this is.....my God is an awesome God! He's whom I've placed all that I am in, eg. my hopes, future, trust, desires, peace, joy, etc. So whether wherever I reside or where a potential mate lives, I have decided awhile ago that if God says "yes" and allows us to come together despite trust, financial or geographical hurdles.....then who am I to complain(smile)lol!! The long and short of it........it's ALL in His hands and I've completely accepted that! Stay blessed! Post Reply
Hisjoymypeace View Profile History	A question about the distance and trust.. Posted : 3 May, 2014 04:27 PM As a sidenote***....... In my passion to this thread, I did neglect to specifically answer the question(smile). If I've been privy to meeting someone who lives afar and after conversing for a time, mutually deciding that we are going to take our relationship to the next level(traveling to see each other), then as responsible adults we should be able to put our resources together, making this first encounter possible! What happens when and if we do meet, we can decide then what our next step should be. Post Reply
View Profile History	A question about the distance and trust.. Posted : 4 May, 2014 07:28 PM For me, it depends on where the "distance" is. For example, I have grown children who live in another state. If I met someone from that state, I would definitely spend the money to fly out and meet them face to face (after significant time online, skyping, phoning, etc.). But if they live in another country, probably not. Post Reply
View Profile History	A question about the distance and trust.. Posted : 10 May, 2014 10:26 AM I think all relationships work well when people can be able to interact and see each other often. I bet, someone who is way far from you can easily lie and manipulate because they can get away with it. Post Reply
im4you View Profile History	A question about the distance and trust.. Posted : 15 May, 2014 09:01 AM Thats true, it can be possible to happen. Actually, anything is possible in online environment, but can avoid with honestly, which is rarely to found today. I`m not kind of desperate, that only what i see sometimes around of me. Post Reply
dela10 View Profile History	A question about the distance and trust.. Posted : 22 May, 2014 06:26 AM there's always Skype for awhile and then if you know for sure the person you are talking to is real and know you pretty well, then that's the time to visit. Save money while doing Skype dates, trust is key in relationships and marriage too. Some long distance relationships don't usually work bc of trust issues, but other times it does b/c of the love and trust Post Reply
Mercymay View Profile History	A question about the distance and trust.. Posted : 24 May, 2014 07:03 AM Years ago I�ve been in long distance relationships. It doesn�t prosper because� One was with someone who got so sick and I really wish to visit him, I was not granted a visa though that time I can afford to finance my own trip...I can�t help myself wishing I could meet this great guy who said , �In my heart there is a hole mercyshaped�� Another with someone who already booked his trip and booked his hotel, everything was planned. Then he researched our laws here, and in his opinion it will take years for me to ever get an annulment�rather than come here and be hurt for failing to bring me over with him, he would rather not come� Someone did fly over. Oh my, he was beyond my expectation, he was too good to be true. After we met, he went home and we tried ways how we could be together as my annulment is still in court. Sometimes in my frustration I also say things I should not have said. I forgot to consider he was also hurting that he could not just simply apply a visa for me. I could not commit to him a date when my annulment is through. As much as I do want to spend the rest of my life with him, I could not trap him on false hopes, like lie that it is coming soon�with so much regrets and bitterness I was broken hearted. Lately, I related those experiences and they said, if there is a will, there is a way. Maybe we just did not love that much that we did not find the way, lol! It�s the Philippines, there is always a way. My advice to those who are serious in coming over to meet their someone special. First be sure she really is the potential partner you wished for. Establish the relationship, ask the necessary questions, try not to send any money if she is still interested in you, (you are so generous to a fault), be patient, I think knowing and discovering someone takes time. Beware of scammers. Pray, pray, pray. There are lots of Filipinas who can afford their own travel but cannot get the visa. It is sad that almost everyone of us are regarded as intending to stay in the destination country. Honestly I don�t intend to stay in any destination country, I wish for someone to retire and live over here. For me, your country is just good to see, good for vacation. My country is a paradise, I�d rather live here. In my opinion, with Filipino women, if you are sure she is genuine, the ball is in your hands. We cannot simply fly, you can. Post Reply

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